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so much for best friends for LIFE
i have known my this girl ashley since like 1st grade we were like best friends up until the summer going into eigth grade we had so much fun together we never stopped laughing and with my other friends we grew apart but nothing wood ruin are friendship or atleast thats what i thought during the summer going into 8th grade we had a HUGE fight like it was crazy but the weird thing is i dont remember what its about or who started it but it was big so big that its almost then end of 8th grade and even when i walk by her in the hall there is anger in are eyes we havent even talked since the fight and were going to high school next year and i really wanna just be friends again but i dont no what to do i refuse to talk 2 her because then it would be to acword so i need to no what to to 2 be friends with her again other then some cheesey answer like talk it out should i even try to be her friend anymore idk please help!!!
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you have to talk to her or write her a letter anything to get you talking again *********i was in a similar situation and im about the same grade and age as you but i already worked out my problem Anyways i just started talking to her in the hallway and saying hi and bye every once in a while and everey now and then she would say it back
our friendship hasnt been the same but at least now i dont feel as bad because everytime i would ignore her in the hall it would kill me but just try to ease your way back into her life
Hope it works out!!!
fill me in!!!
luv lots
ZEN*PSHYCO
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Here are some of my experiences and maybe you can use what I did to help you...
Most recent-My friend and I got in a huge fight over a guy (some stupid silly guy, I know). We walked around both with tears in our eyes (she'd break down at her softball game, I'd have a fit at my track meet, we'd both loose control during science class) and nothing our other friends could say would bring us back together. Well, today, I finally missed her so much that when we were both online, I just said "Hi, is it possible to be friends again?" and we are now back to being pretty good buddies. Our think our friendship has even grown because of it. So maybe, you could say something online, but be careful because things online can be more easily misintreperted.
A while ago-My best friend "forever" and I got in a fight and our situation was similiar to yours. One day, I missed her so much, so I called her and just started talking. I filled her in on every detail since we had stopped talking and told her how much she meant to me. Although it took her awhile, we are friends again, though not best friends like we used to be.
And last year-My friends got into a fight. It was like three of my awesome friends verse three of my other awesome friends with only me and my best friend in the situation above in the middle. There was a lot of hate going around and many emails were sent. Most of them were fowarded to me. Eventually, I got so mad at them that I snapped and told both sides that they were being stupid and overreacting. Finally, they realized they were and I fowarded apologies to me to them so everyone knew each other was sorry.
Now those would only work if you are willing to talk to her, but communication is a very important key to a friendship, espeicialy a best friendship. If you can't talk to her, while i hate to be the one who says this, I don't thin kthere's a good chance for you guys to be friends again.
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Your friendship may never be the same, but if you want to be friends again and can't talk to her right now, write her a letter. Remember this "The bigger person always forgives first". If she doesn't accept your apology at least you will feel better.
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You say you don't want to talk to her but you want to be friends with her? Honestly how is that going to work? I know what you're going through, I've gotten into a fight with my best friend. We yelled at eachother & she said I wasn't a good best friend, or even a friend at all. We were mad at eachother for about two weeks. I totally missed her just like you missed your friend. Yeah I know, how can I miss her after she called me that? But I did. I'm not usually the one to go up to people in this situation and apologize first. But I did. I went up to her and I told her that I never wanted us to stop talking. And both of us opened up about the whole thing and well... we were friends again. Then last year, some other stuff happened and again, another fight. Only this time we never really made up or talked about it we just... let the whole thing go. If I see her walking down the hall I'll smile at her or whatever. Honestly I miss her but I really don't want to be her best friend again, things were just too difficult. But I don't recommend holding grudges especially if they're from 8th grade. You want to enter high school as fresh as possible.
I'm sorry but the only thing you can do is just go up to her and say "Hey, listen. We're starting high school next year and I really don't want to hold any grudges. I miss you, you were a great friend and if you want to do this whole high school thing together we can, if not hey... at least I'm over this fight." Then stand there for a second to see if she has anything to say. If its something bitchy, just ignore it and walk away. At least you made the attempt and you'll feel better. I doubt that she'll keep hating you if you don't hate her anymore.
And seriously, walking down the halls with anger in your eyes is really immature. Don't bring that to high school. Talk to her.
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hey, you have to talk to her! if you dont then youll never be friends again. be the bigger person adn take the plunge and talk to her first. you dont have to do it directly. it would be best to do it directly but if you really dont want to do it by AIM, the phone, a note, email, or text messgae. cait♥
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I'm sorry but really that's what you're going to have to do. But you have to ask yourself this...do you miss her being in your life or does it really effect it. You need to choose which one. And speaking that you have been friends for a long time that's even harder. But you have to write her a note, e-mail her, i.m. her, txt her, or talk to her someway. I had this situation happen and finally i just got sick of it and i went up to her. Also remember that every pair(s) of best friends get in a big fight or tiny small little ones. hehe. I'm in that problem right now. I have 4 like awesome friends but i dont' get a long with one but the one thati'm most closest to does. and we get in tiny fights about stupid stuff like pencils, homework, test grades, hair, really weird stuff like that. then finally i just said "Look, i kno i hate u sometimes but i mean u can't be all that bitter and angry at me but then again i can't be that way either..." and there was more but yea. it happends to EVERYONE so don't worry. It'll all b okay at the end if you get it worked out!
-Steph <3
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well im a freshman now in high school!
and if she was your best friend then im sure it WILLL mean alot to you if yawl are friends again!
high school will be difficult! but if you have a good friend to experiance it with then it wouldnt be so hard!
i no you dont want to here talk to her! but this happend to me and my friends and the WHOLE reason we where mad at each other was her fault!
but why dont you call her up one day and just be like hey! i no we dont really talk! but how bout one day..***like during the week after school or during the weeked** yawl go out and get something to eat and just talk about stuff!!
if yawl have a good time and there not alot of tention or anger and yawl can laugh then the friendship is really there!!
but i htink you should really try that! i did that with my best freind after we hated each other NOW every other week we go out just to talk and stuff!!
but i really hope i helped you and i hope things work out for you!
kepp me updated if you want!! i wont mind anwsering anything else!!=]
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Dear Reader,
You have to decide if it's worth it for you to be friends again. And I hate to say it but you are going to have to talk in one form or another. Communication really is the basis of any good relationship, whether it's a friendship or a romance, anything; you have to be able to talk and communicate or it will never work.
I think it would be silly to let pride get in the way of a life-long friendship like you had. Especially if it was over something so unimportant you can't remember what it was. Really the choice is going to be yours. Your friendship or your pride...
~Kambrey
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You've just got to bite the bullet and confront her. Say, "Listen, this is pointless, it's stupid just to end our friendship over some daft argument, can we just be friends again?" Do it over the phone if it's easier. Or get mutual friends to tell her you two should be friends again and that you would like to be. There's no other way and if you don't solve it now it'll go on forever and get worse and worse and you won't even know what it's over but you'll be fighting in school over it in 2 years time!
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i had the same exact problem.. and my friend's name was ashley too! well we went out a lot.. and one day she called me up and asked me a question and then we started talking online and we would bring up all the good times we had and say how much we'd miss those times.. and we would say how much of an idiot we were to fight over something stupid.. so what you could do is talk to her online, tell her that you dont even remember what the fight was about and you are sorry and want to be friends again like you used too.. im not sure if that helped alot but if you have any other questions feel free to ask! good luck!
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