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internet love = trouble
ok. so ive been with this guy who lives in california for 2 years. and i live in tx. anyways we're really in love. the thing is i sent him a fake picture. i know it was wrong and the guilt is killing me. so i dont need it from anyone else.but i was wondering how i can break up with him..its not as easy as i thought it would be. im in love with him..i cant just end things, but it needs to be done..any advice?
thanks.
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emmmm i uderstand but you just have 2 tel him da truth coz you cant keep on lyin nd its gonna hurt you more
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well if you sent him the pic when you both first met, tell him that you didnt feel so safe and you didnt really know him. but now that you two are in love, tell him the truth and tell him that you love him and that the picture wasnt you because you didnt really know him so now that you two know each other, tell him and send him a real pic of you
im not sure if that helped but good luck!
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Tell him the truth. And then tell him you'll understand if he wants to break up with you. But don't break up with him pre-emptively; at the least, you owe him the truth.
And who knows? He might actually like the REAL you BETTER! Stranger things have happened!
And even if he doesn't, and he leaves you, at least you gave your love a chance, and tried to atone for the mistake you made.
No matter what happens, please take a lesson from this: honesty really is the best policy, not just because it's ethically better, but because when you get caught, you get hurt - and you usually hurt other people, too.
I wish you the best of luck.
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just say you accenditenally sent him the worng pic!! thats wut i'd do!!
i hope i helped
kristin
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I was in the same exact situation. How long ago did you send him a picture of yourself? If it was a LONG time ago then go to him "hey I got new pics wanna see" and just send him your REAL picture. Then when he's confused about the pictures tell him that you thought you send him your real picture and it was an accident.
If you guys really love eachother then don't give up and just do what feels right. There's a reason why it's so hard to break up with him.
Hope everything works out with you guys.
♥
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girl, i'm experiencing the same thing too. it's normal why u did that.
it's not so easy like, "JUST SPILL THE BEANS AND SAY IT."
if only things were THAT easy huh. haha.
at least you guys live in a big country. meeting each other is not so easy like me. we live in a small island. so there are practically no excuses for me NOT to meet him.
he's pestering me now to meet him but i sent him fake pictures.
i tried telling him with IFs... but he didn't believe me.
right now, i'm vexing too.
but i think.. i am going to tell him soon. real soon. a lie will link to the next. and i'm really tired of lying.
i know you are tired too. take a rest and let him know. if he's gonna dump u, at least that's a stone off your chest. if he takes you, well, you're lucky. :)
PS: i told him the truth alrdy and he is ignoring me now. feeling suck big time but oh well...
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just tell him you sent him a fake piture when you first met. if youre really in love with him dont end it.. trust me ok? if he loves you hell understand... idk why you sent him a fake picture, im sure your gorgeous =]
but tell him that you sent it to him to protect yourself in the beginning, and you just never had the courage to tell him afterwards cause you fell in love with him.
but if you truly love him DONT end thys
Re Re <3
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Hi
Is the only reason you're wanting to break up with him because you sent him a fake picture? If the answer is yes, I would reconsider breaking up with him.
You could explain the situation, hope he understands that you were nervous for whatever reason, and then stay together.
If you are wanting to break up with him because you don't want to be with him anymore, then you just need to tell him the truth. You could say the long distance thing is so much harder than you thought, and you just can't do it.
I'm not sure exactly what your reasons are for wanting to break up. You said you love him, so I'm wondering if you should try your best to make things right. Good luck, and take care.
Brenda
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Best advice: Give the guy a chance. you love him, been tog 2 years. Even in a facato face r/ship that's a wonder.
The reason why you want to break up with him is because you're too afraid how he'll take the news, that he'll dump you, so you're doing it to him first?
Tell him about the pic. give him the chance, that he hasn't been tog with you for 2 years because of your pic. Send him your real pic, or wait till he comes.
you don't want to break up with him either. So i guess i'll wish you luck with the pic and your boyfriend. Hope you have a good summer.
Cheers
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If you love him, be honest. Tell him that you sent him a fake picture because you had such a strong attraction to him and that you didn't want to let him go. Make him understand where you are coming fromand that you just wanted to impress him. Then, send himn a real picture.
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I used to do the same thing. I was really insecure about my looks, so I got some random models picture and said it was me. Needless to say, I got caught out sooner or later and regretted ever doing it. Just letting you know that you're not alone in doing this. The internet makes it so easy to lie, but like all with all deception, there comes a point where the truth has to come out eventually.
The good thing about the internet is, for the most part people judge you by your personality because they can't see you face to face. If he's planning on flying out to see you, it can't be simply your looks he likes, especially if you've known each other 2 years. There must be quite a strong bond there. So that's some consolation.
If you love him, why should you break up with him? He hasn't done anything wrong. You did and thus it's you that needs to fix this up (Sorry if that sounded a little mean. Didn't mean it to be) What you should do is explain to him the situation. He deserves that at least. Tell him that you sent a fake picture 2 years ago not expecting to like him so much, and then when you guys got closer you didn't have the heart to tell him the truth.
If he really loves you for you, he'll understand. Yes, he'll be mad but he does have a right to be. But in the end it should be your personality he's in love with, not solely your looks, and thus it won't matter that it wasn't you in the pics. I'm sure if you send him a real picture of you he'll appreciate it.
If he calls it all off, then maybe he was never worth it in the first place. Of course, it sucks being lied to.. but being that shallow is even worse.
I hope it all goes well. You can email me at th3.legend@gmail.com if you need anymore help, or just to let me know how it all went.
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