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Is she over reacting?
I have a bf and we've been going out for 3 months, but i've kept this hidden from my parents the entire time, i'm 13 mind u, and my mom wont let me have a bf she says its already enough that i've had my first kiss and she found me downstairs cuddling with a guy, with my head on his lap sleeping, i really dont see why i cant have a bf i think she's over reacting bc i know kids my age do way more than kiss or cuddle is she over reacting???? i'll rate high for any suggestions, or anyway to see my boyfriend w/o getting caught thanks
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In a way she may be over reacting but then again she's not! i mean i think the reason she's like that is because their are so many young young girl out here gettin pregnant because they went behind their parents back you know! Yea its ok to sneak because i still sneak to this day and im 15 but just know what you should do with a guy what you shouldnt! he may be a great guy but take it from me all boys have something in common with another so dont let him trick you or lie to you then you'll be ok with the dating thing!
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That's how most parents are like. What i would do is have a secreat boyfriend besides if you guys arent doing anything like having sex or anything than whats the problem of having a boyfriend? I think you should have the right to go out with who ever you want, 13 i think is old enough to start a relationship, or at least dating. Maybe you should just straight up tell her that your not gonna have sex if you have a boyfriend to reassure her (thats if you plan not to have sex)and if she still doesnt want you have a boyfriend then i think you should have to do what you feel is right!
good luck!
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Well she's over reacting because teenagers are having sex like it's no big deal. She doesn't want you to be one of them. So, no, for a 13 year old she is not over reacting...you might want to talk to your mom and tell her that you're not going to be "one of those teens", then earn her trust and then I'm sure she'll let you have a boyfriend.
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just keep goin' out with him its not her decision if you like guys or not. yes, she's over-reacting. I would just keep seeing him....oh and if you are allowed to go to the movies with friends and not parents, a way to see him is like go to the movies on a double date, take a friend that has a boyfriend and meet up with her bf and yours. I do it all the time.
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i think that she is over reacting but you know, she cant really help it i guess . i mean when i had a bf i never told my parents about it because i knew they would freak . but im thinking that it might be a good idea to just calmly tell her about your bf because then when you want to go to his house or he goes to your house or whatever, it wont be as sneaky . and also it might feel good to get it out, you know ?
if you dont wanna tell your mom about him at all, then you should just tell her that your going to a friends house and dont mention any names, but if she does ask you whos house then say one of your friends . alrightyy good luck ! and happy new year !! =)
xoo hope this helps !! ♥
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I don't think she's over-reacting. You may feel really mature, but you're still really innocent and corruptable. I understand your mother's reasons, she doesn't want you to become a victim. But don't fight with her, try to talk it out with her and show that you're responsible. Let her meet your boyfriend and actually have a conversation with him like you would if she was meeting any other friend. Tell her that you know why she's being so protective, but you feel she's sheltering you too much. And listen to her explain her reasons. You may end up agreeing with her.
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Forget about him, dump him right away. Sorry, but your mum is right. I'm 13 as well, and I know not to date yet. You are way to young to be dating. WAY too young. Dating at 13 leads to bad things and always will. Right now it may just be cuddling and all, but soon it will be much more, I'm sorry, but it's my personal opinion that you should wait until you are at least 16. Dating comes with alot of problems, heart break especially. Your young, and when you break up at this age, it just sucks and it does nothing for your self esteem. I really hope this helps, and you take my advice, because your mum is right, and you shouldn't be sneaking around behind her back. Just don't do it. Wait a few years to start dating!
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How come you can't go over his house & hang out there? Go somewhere beside staying in the house. Just say your going to hang out with your friends at the movies or anywhere fun where you live. Your mom is totally overreacting because when I was 13 or 14 i was having sex. Just don't hang out at your house. Simple as that.
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okay, um, i would like to ask you questions, you know, like how old is he, etc, i can help you though, I promise. Just drop a question in my inbox, erm....answer. how old he is, etc.
I hope i can help...
Ally
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She is so overreacting!!! but my mom's the same way. Boy friends freak freak perants out. its just how it is. Does he go to your school? if he does...dont you see him there? if he dosnt try getting together at the mall, like having your mom drop you and a couple girlfriends off and tell him to mett u there while your other friends go occupie themselves, but tell them the plan so they dont think your blowing them off. Have you tried talking to your mom? asking her if you can have him over as long as u stay in like the living room/main area's? im 13 and i dont have a bf. so its not like you have to rush into things. As for kissing and stuff, do that somewhere besides in front of your mom. And maybe if she gets to know him better she will ease to the idea. well i hope i helped. Happy New Year!
"kiss kiss"
~daphne
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thats so cute how you put your dead on his lap so sexy well just tell your mom he is a good friend and no more and dont have him over when your mom is home go to his house or diff places so your mom wont know , she isnt over reacting she is just being a mom and all moms are like that go to mall or movies and if she sees him be like hes my best friend! ♥
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I think that she is just worried about you doing anything with a guy since you're still very young. All parents are worried about their kids getting a disease or anything so I can understand why you're mom won't let you have a boyfriend. My dad is the same way though. It's not that he won't let me have a boyfriend, he just doesn't like the idea of me having one. He always thinks that I'm too young and that something might happen to me & that I don't understand anything about being in a realationship. Anyways, you should just talk to your mom. Just explain to her that you just want a boyfriend and that you aren't going to do anything stupid. It's very normal for all teenagers to have a boyfriend or girlfriend & it's not like you will do anything stupid. You know your limits. If she still says no, then I don't know what else to tell you. Just hang out with him all the time, talk on the phone, go places or you could just tell your parents he's a friend. As you get older I think she will learn to trust you more & she will know that you wouldn't do anything stupid.
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well, you could do more things that will show your mom that you should be trusted. show her that you wont do anything bad and that she can trust you. maybe you have done something in the past that now she doesnt trust you because of it, and you need to gain your trust back by showing her that your responsible.
hope i helped!
Sincerely,
Your Tragidy
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I agree with your Tragidy. Show your mom that she can trust you. Also show her pros and cons of the situation, show her you know the benifets and consiquences of your situation, it will show your maturity. When you think she is pretty trusting of you, and she is in a good mood, approach her and tell her. (add in the pros and cons) tell her it has been going on for a little bit, and that nothing bad has happened. but try not to get too into that part, because she might get mad that you went behind her back. just go with the flow, and see what happens. Good luck!
Sincerely,
Just a Girl
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She might be over reacting a little. She probably just doesn't want you to do anything bad with a boy at your age since you're only 13. Your mom doesn't want you to end up having a disease or end up getting pregnant. She only wants the best for you so it's good if she over reacts a little because than you know she cares about you.
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