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lust
17/f
is it wrong to think lustfully about others? i mean i can understand if it gets 2 be a constant thing and you objectify them, then its bad.. but is it really that bad 2 have inappropriate thoughts if its only ocasionally? please help
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It's definitely not wrong to be HUMAN, and who says the thoughts are inappropriate? They are however YOUR thoughts and as you grow and learn consequences of actions you will learn what thoughts lead to what actions to give you the results you want, and which ones don't.
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It is wrong to think this way, why?? Those thoughts are from satan and if you do not resist those thoughts you are buying into satan, sure those thoughts will come into your head because satan wants you to sin, but if you can block it out in the midst of it then your doing Gods will, as it says in the bible.
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According to the Bible to even lust after someone, you are committing a sin [adultery. our youth pastor brings it up all the time]. Now, sometimes you can't control what you think. We all have those thoughts, though. That's how we were made.
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Haha, no. Everyone thinks like that. I'm not saying it's a good thing, but it does depend on who you're thinking about.
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Well, it depends on if you're a Christian, I guess. The Bible says that if you've looked at someone lustfully then you have had sex with them in your heart.
I have to say, though, it is completely normal to have those thoughts. It's human nature, but it is something that you don't want to dwell on. If you are a Christian and you're concerned about it, then pray about it and ask God to help you. God is so good and He wants to help us with our struggles.
I hope that helps!
Amy : )
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Sicne you haven't hinted at religious affiliation in your question, I'm not going to assume you're of any one religion or pitch to any set of beliefs.
No, it's not wrong to lustfully of others. Quite frankly, that's human. As you've said, as long as you don't constantly objectify others, it's not "bad". Lust is an incredibly natural thing - if we didn't have lust in nature, our race would do out because of lack of reproduction, right? Assuming you're asking this question because you've been having these thoughts recently and are feeling guilty - don't. It's normal, especially at 17.
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Lust is one of the seven deadly sins. However, most people for some unknown reason believe it is worse than the others, which include jealousy, anger, and pride. You don't see anyone on advicenators saying "it's such a sin!" when someone says that they're jealous, but whenever anyone says the word "lust" people go crazy. It's impossible to live a life without sin and pretending that you don't sin is wrong. Jesus died to forgive people of their sins and all you have to do is ask. So, basically it's wrong to think lustfully of others and you shouldn't, but everyone does and they aren't able to help it. You're very normal and lusting after someone is okay just as long as it doesn't go overboard as you said and just as long as you know that it's wrong and ask for forgiveness. Good luck :)
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don't worry, the feelings you have right now are completely normal. weather we like to admit it or not, we are all sexual beings and thoughts of attraction are just par the course in life and is just something you will have to deal with as a adult (read: the rest of your life).
coicidentally, as you grow older and wiser, along with your newfound lustfull awareness should come a newfound responsibility for the choices you make in your life. everyone has "inappropriate" thoughts every now and then (the church wouldn't have so much an issue with it if it didn't happen so much) what you have to understand is that as individuals, we are defined not only by our thoughts but as we exist in society, we are also defined by the choices we follow.
your thoughts belong to you, hopefully, you should never have to feel ashamed for something that comes from you. but with this ownership comes the consequences on how you choose to act (or not act) towards them. hopefully, in time, you will find a way to be proud of both.
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Occasionally its not. But if its constant thats bad. Because you know lust is a dealy sin right? SO i mean you can do it every now and then but dont keep it up
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No. its natural... its part of being a teenager/adult and i guess even senior citizen. People are attracted to people and imaginations run away once and a while. What you are feeling is totally normal.
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Viewing others with a feeling of lust is natural, and while I don't exactly encourage it, you shouldn't worry too much about it. Don't act on it, however, but feeling it is inevetable, and suppressing it will only lead to the unconscious urge to commit other, worse sins.
-AgonyAnt
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According to the Bible, yes it's wrong. It's commiting a sexual sin. But, to everyone else in the world- no it's perfectly fine.
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If by "lusting" about others, you're talking about experiencing sexual attraction towards them, then that's pretty normal. No, you don't want to objectify people, but the strong desire of attraction is just a normal part of life. However, if you're thinking too often about sex or what it would be like to have sex with another person, then you want to be careful that you don't obsess. Again, this thought process, these feelings, are normal, you just don't want this stuff to rule your life.
Are you feeling that having these lustful thoughts is inappropriate because you don't think this is normal? Or, are your thoughts going beyond simple sexual attraction? Like, are you combining sexual attraction with unhealthy thoughts, e.g., feeling like you're close to practically stalking the person? It doesn't sound as though you've gone over the edge like that, so I would assume these thoughts are not necessarily inappropriate. HOWEVER, if these thoughts are directed towards a married person, e.g., a teacher, know that again, these kind of thoughts when we're younger are normal as long as you don't ACT on them. If for any reason, your lustful thoughts are directed towards younger children (you did NOT say this and I'm going to assume you didn't mean this, but you never know...), then yes this would be entirely inappropriate and would need to be dealt with swiftly and through counseling.
But, after all is said and done, I believe that you're just experiencing very normal feelings towards kids around your own age and that you need to not be so hard on yourself. A good fantasy life is healthy! Again though, just try not to obsess about these feelings. Have them, appreciate them, and move on without feeling guilty.
Let me know if this helps, OK? I don't want you beating yourself up over something that is just a part of life.
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