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Rumors
Ok I am in High school and I have 3 freakin rumors going around the school about me and my best friend. This girl is telling me that me and my best friend are lesbian lovers, which is so not true, because I am straight, and now I have people talking about me, and also I have another rumor which isn't as bad, but that one is that I am going with this boy, and that I am a slut. Its going around the whole school, and it upsets me, and makes me want to cry. I don't know what I should do. I haven't had these problems, til I met this one girl.
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it happens too all of us ... jus agnore it and when they see you dont care they will jus stop talkin about it and start makin somthing els up
hope i helped
♥ Samra
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i had somthing like that happen with me too. well one thing you can do is dont talk about it and when someone asks just denie it. if you find out who spread the rumor, talk to them and tell them to stop...if thet will do anything. or you could ask your crush(or someone) out and date them and then that would prove those rumors wrong. but trust me, it will ware off....good luck!
ANK
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ok i no this advice is totally wrong, but i would start worse rumors about her or get her back
OK heres some real advice -
just be nice to her, talk it out with her, and ignore the rumors they will stop eventually! i promise they wont stay with you forever! Good Luck
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With all due respect, hun, who cares? Of course I do because I don't like to see anyone upset unless they are themselves a bully or evil! But, you shouldn't care what these idiots think about you. You know it's not true and I HAVE been in your circumstance, and you know what you do? You agree. For example:
"Ewww, you and your friend are lesbian lovers!"
"Oh yes, but that's just between me and you"
See? These people WANT to get a reaction from you, they want you to cry and be upset. Be a strong person and don't let them see it! It can hurt and it does hurt inside but the main thing is not to let it show!
x Steph x
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then stop hanging with her if the rumers started since yall been hanging with each other and maybe that will help stop it.
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I know nothing anyone says is going to make the feeling of people talking bad about you behind your back any better but relax. I went through this a million times in high school i actually graduated a year early so I could get away from it. You need to ignore it...if someone says something to you be like uhm I dont know where you heard that but get your story straigh and walk away. What people are doing is talking crap about you so that you will freak out and make a scene its sick that people get a pleasure from that but they do. So just rise above them and laugh and just be like "well im glad i can rise about the high school drama, but its obvious you cant so when you grow up then i'll hold a normal conversation with you." dont be rude but i know you cant be nice because your upset. If you think these rumors started when you started hanging out with your friend you need to stop hanging out with him one day at a time until you guys dont hangout anymore. because if you just drop her as a friend she will start more rumors than already started...if someone says your a lesbian shrug it off, all that matters is what you think about yourself dont let the little people who are way under you make you upset.
xoxo i hope i was of some help
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sweetie if you know they arent true rise above it and dont base your worth on the opinions of others. rumors always fade away given time. just let them talk and keep a smile on your face and your spirits up, most people start rumors to get attention and a reaction and as a sense of power to see what drama they can create. hang in there hun the people who "really" know you will be with you through this and in no time it will all be in the past.good luck
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Dear Rumors,
Unfortunately what you are going through is a part of growing up. Other people in your school are going to say mean things about you to make themselves look better and cure their boredom.
You could do just like the other advicenators suggested and lay low. Hope that it blows over in a week or two. But if it doesn't, and this girl continues to say these things then you have ever right to get back at her. You can do this several ways.
For one, the fact that she is telling other people things that are not true about you is slander or defamation of character.
In order to prove defamation, you have to be able to prove that what was said or written about you was false. If the information is true, or if you consented to publication of the material, you will not have a case. However, you may bring an defamatory action if the comments are so reprehensible and false that they effect your reputation in the community or cast aspersions on you. If you have been defamed you may seek both actual damages, to recover the harm that you have suffered, and punitive damages to punish the person who made the remark (and serve as an example to deter others). If the defamation improperly accused you of a crime or reflected on your profession, the Court or jury can assess the damages. For other types of defamation you must prove some actual damage to be able to recover.
I think you should get her phone number and call her parents. Tell them that she has been spreading lies all over school. Tell them that you can prove that her statements are untrue. Tell them that her statements are causing you severe emotional stress. Tell them that you were given legal advice and now understand that what she is doing is considered slander and you can sue her. But since she is a minor you would have to sue her parents instead. Tell them that you do not want to do this, but will unless, they can convince her to stop spreading lies.
If you don't want to do that then try this:
Write a letter to her with this in it;
Dear(Her name here)
It has come to my attention that you are telling everyone that I am a lesbian and a slut . Just because I won't sleep with you does not give you the right to spread nasty rumors that are not true. My answer is still no, and nothing you will say can change my mind. Get over it!
Sincerely,
(Your name here)
NOW, make a copy f this letter. If she doesn't stop her slander then take that copy and make several more copies. Like several hundred copies and littler the school with them. Give them to all her friends and anyone who can read. Leave them laying around for just anyone to find. Sooner or later everyone in the school will whispering about her. Don't worry, nothing in this letter is slandering her in any way.
This letter will make it look like she was spreading untrue things because she is mad at you. When she tries to deny that she wanted you to sleep with her, no one will believe her. She will get a dose of her own medicine.
I hope that whatever you decide to do, helps your situation.
Take Care :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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rumors suck but they happen to everyone. high school wouldnt be high school without rumors. the best thing you can do is just act like you dont care and people will stop talking. believe me by next week, everyone will be talking about something new.
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ive had problems like this before the best way to handle it is to lay low and dont make a big deal out of it. that way new drama will come along and your rumors will be a thing of the past. it worked for me =) p.s i dont thnk you should talk to that girl anymore she seems like a bitttch and is really immature for saying that.
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