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popular kids
so i have a low confindence level.its like am afraid of popular kids in my school and i kind of want to be one .but i dont think i belong with tem .i like to watch them and know wats going on in their lives.what is wrong here.
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why do you want to be popular? would that help you feel better about yourself? I think it would be better if you just be yourself, and if you do become popular, you do. and why are you afraid of them? there just normal people like you and me. they're not gonna hurt you, most of them are just ppl tryin to look cool, some r just popular cuz they are really nice and just have tons of friends. hope i helped
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There's nothing wrong, except that you are wanting to be someone your not. I know that the popular kids seem like they are really living the good life and that they are well-known so they must be lucky and such but it's not always true. I have been there and actually still am there. I hang out with a lot of the "important people" and once they get home they are normal kids just like the rest of us. Sure some my have more money than most and be able to spend it but they all have the same feelings that the rest of the world has just they cover all that up when they get to school. Next time you go to school and see the popular kids think about how happy they look and important they look and then think about how they could be having trouble at home or even if they aren't they could just be lonely or tired of everyone knowing their business. I know that I HATE going to school and having people I don't know ask me about old news and how I feel about the new stuff going on in my life. Even when they aren't being asked about their life they know that there are people wanting to know about it. So seriously don't be envious of others because they aren't always what they appear to be and you may have it better when it comes down to privacy and feelings.
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popular, geek, prep, jock, emo, punk
what r all of them LABELS
im sorry but i think labels are for soup cans
now even thought people say im popular i cant stand it becuase people saying stuff liek there popular and blah blah blah blah put people down maybe that's why you have low confindence. Popular kids are just kids too there nothign differnt ehn the jest of us . If you want to be popular just talk to more people and be nice to other people even the "popular" kids woudl you rather be know as a popular kid or the nicest girl in the school!
SuperBlondie x3
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hey babe, well people think that "populare kids" are so special and so much better than them. theres nothing wrong with wanting to be populare. just because they are ppopular doesnt make them any more special or better than you or someone else. well to get to know them or be in their groupe try and see if one of them is in one of you classes. than get to know them. once your friends with them hang out with them at lunch, eventually their friends that are in the popular group with them will get to know you and youll be friends with them to.
xO. jessica
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ok i am not that popular but i do that too but i feel i cant fit in cause they all act different you just dont know how to act but i would love too but then again if you become popular what will you do to you not soo popular friends????? i am always afraid i would ditch them and feel horriable soo i might not have helped but ok
<3~*~*mickey543*~*~<3
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okay first of all who cares about the "popular kids" just because they are popular doesnt mean that they are really happy and everything... i mean it might seem it to you but most of the time they arent.... why should you have a low confidence level if you are "popular" i mean so what.. just because a lot of people know who they are doesnt mean that you should be scared of them..i mean try and find friends who like the same things as you and that will make you happy i mean the popular kids are usually just sluts that everyone knowes and you dont want to be like that..the main idea is dont try to be something you aren't and just accept yourself and your friends cause im sure your a great friend<3 -ashley
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You're just a curious person in the world. At one point in your life, you'll always want to be that pretty popular girl in school, or her best friend. Theres really nothing wrong with being popular, but if you notice in schools, popular means having everyone love you and doing drugs, having sex, doing everything a bad kid does. Thats a popularity group you don't want to get yourself into. Popular basically means, having a lot of friends. The best thing that you can do is to not ever try to change anything about you to fit in. It won't ever be worth it. If people can't accept you because of something about you, then why kiss their butts? You just don't want to. But, the always looking at them, watching their every move is a big part of your curiousity. You want to know what it is that they've got that you don't. You want to see how they act to be liked by the whole school. Everyone experiences these feelings, but if you let them take over, then you'll just live your life the hard way.
-TheTeenGirl
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You are focusing on only their lives, what about yours? Tell me what really makes them popular? Is it their money, clothes, language? We are all unique God made us that way. Why not be happy with who you are? The popular peoplemake their lives look easy, but they're not, belive it or not they are going through the same things as you are. So remember BE YOURSELF, if they don't except you don't worry you have other friends!!
-TrustworthySam
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Being popular isn't everything, dear. Don't try it. It's like in their DNA to be popular, I swear. And the popular people's lives as great as you think they are. They may be noticed by everyone, but they still put their pants on the same way every morning, one leg at a time. (i hope you understood that metaphor)
good luck!
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OK..i know like tons of people have said this..but i'm gonna say it again..you think you know what's going on..but trust me you don't. I was in your position once..watching from afar and it seemed like so much fun! but then i became friends with them and there's so much more to smiles..maybe you just want to be like them..and have a fun life..well, you should at least try! join a group/club and even if you aren't confident..ACT confident..because I am def. NOT CONFIDENT and sometimes you just have to act like it so people won't think you're a wuss..ahah so just try it and i know it'll work!
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In my opinion, you are basically just admiring them from afar. I have three things to say about all this popular kids stuff.
First of all, you have no idea what is going on. I know you know whats going on in there lives, BUT you don't know whats going on in there heads. They are just like you in some ways, alot of them have low confidence but they FAKE high self confidence.
Second, maybe you could start your own group. Something that yall could be "popular" for ya know?
And third, if you REALLY want to be in there little group... TALK to one of them, form a friendship. If you want it that bad then dont sit back and watch, DO something.
Hope I helped!
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What's wrong is I think you are adoring people because they are popular, but I could have read your question wrong. Trust me, there's more drama going on in that clique than you probably want.
Nothing is wrong with wanting to be liked tho, but I think it is best to find people that will like you for you and vice versa. You'll have more fun and forget about your low confidence. Great friends tend to make you feel better about yourself anyways.
If you really want to make friends with the popular people at your school, it couldn't hurt to try. You might hit it off, if you don't well then it wasn't meant to be.
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Basically is that you are probaly afraid that they won't accept you as for who you are.But you could fit in by talking to one of them so you could get into the crew.Or get a friend to help you out.Popular kids do of course get attention but some people I talked to were popular before but they didn't want to be it no more because people always would bother them according to what they said.But remember to get to the high level you must work hard for it and you should overcome your fears by facing them.You could start now or later it won't be too late.
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get tour own click
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Well maybe try having your own clique of people.. like something you all are interested in and do.. always better.. you might become popular in your own way other then being a cheerleader or a jock.. ♥ Dez
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