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Q: BRITNEY SPEARS !!.....i know its a boy but whats the name!?? i rate 5 for everyone
Her baby boy? The first name is Preston. I THINK the middle name is Michael.

Q: ok so me and my bf have been going out for 2 weeks. i really want to kiss him, but im not really sure how to. ive never kissed anyone before and im afraid that im gonna be bad. are there any tips or anything i can do. i dont want to make a fool out of myself!!
It's been advised by many ladies to let the guy give you the first kiss, definitely don't be the first to start the french kiss.

I know this isn't detailed but as far as kissing like a pro you should visit: http://www.virtualkiss.com

click on 'Kissing School' in the left menu and they'll have all the detail you need

Q: Are u able to buy diet pills if u are under the age of 18
Walgreens doesn't require you to be 18 to buy diet pills, but walmart does

Q: Hey guys.
can you give me a list of hot songs

punkrock/pop/r&b/TECHNOOO


Add to your list: Daft Punk -Around the world
-One more time
-Digital Love
-Aerodynamics
-Harder, better, faster, stronger (not dirty I promise)

All this fits the techno/punk genre

Q: Is it normal for a 13-year-old girl to masterbate, or is it just really sick-o for my age? Omg, I'm sooooo embarassed and I think I'm the only one in my grade who does. I feel like such a perv., but I can't help it. I have to cuz it feels so good. So I want to know is, is this unusual for a girl my age? Or something to feel guilty about?
nah, you're a normal teenager.

Q: OK, so I'm average height, average weight. My best best best best friend is this girl, let's call her Patricia. Well Patricia told my other friend "Lucy" that I was thinking of wearing a leotard for halloween, and that I would look fat in it.

Patricia doesn't know I know she said that, but Lucy told me. I'm scared to talk about it with Patricia because we have such a good time together and we see each other alot, but its kind of eating me up inside. She knows im sensitive to this subject because I was chubbier when I was younger.

What should I do?
You don't have to be fat to look it in a leotard, trust me on this one.

Your friend probly didn't tell you this herself because you are sensitive about it.

My advice: don't wear the leotard and shrug it off. If it helps you feel better talk it out with your friend, but don't be upset with her (that'll just cause more drama), just tell her that you heard about her saying that and ask if she really thinks that about your halloween costume. If she does then be grateful that you found out before you wore it out in public.

Q: My BFF is always like "Don`t go hang out with miss popular and ditch me" But then when we were all hanging out with Ariel (Miss Popular) my bff totally tries to make me feel left out and tries to hurt me so she`ll be center of attention. Ariel started to notice Haley (my bff)and started to talk to her. Ashley, Ariel, Haley and Me all hung out last night and Ariel said we should hang out again, So ariel called Ashley and Haley to hang out again tonight and didnt call me and Haley even said "dont call Jessica (me)" when Ariel asked if she should.

Now everyone is ditching me and I`m the only girl without plans for Saturday night. Is this a sign that I need a new bff?
Sounds like it, best friends may have their disagreements but they don't do that crap to each other.

Q: I don't know if I'm going through a phase or not, but I have just suddenly been feeling EXTREMELY self/consious.

I feel SO ugly, SO fat, SO unpopular, and everything else teenagers feel, except all at the same time. (And yeah, I've heard the "Don't worry about whats other think" routine.) I just hate myself. I hate the way I act, look, and am period. I dont think I'll EVER got a boyfriend that's actaully not a geek. I never felt this way before, but all these emotions are coming at me!!! What do I do?!?!?!
You sure you don't want the "Don't worry about what others think" chat? haha j/k

Trust me, you're not the only one who has felt that way. I would say this is a phase. Your body is still maturing, some girls just happened to have "matured" faster than you but it's usually those girls who end up getting knocked up and drop out of college and make nothing of themselves.

I felt fat and ugly and still do sometimes, but about midway through high school boys seemed to all of a sudden like me! Most of them were loser pot heads tho =\. My friends had the same problem, we rarely attracted good guys! But as we got over our self esteem issues things changed and now 3 of my friends are married, I've been with my bf for 3 years (and he's hott!! I didn't think I could get a buff, good lookin guy!!!), and my best friend is just dating around with A LOT of great guys.

Basically all I did was just get over how i felt about myself, I know it's not as easy as it sounds but I hope you manage to get your mind off of these things that you don't have full control of, you'll be much happier and things will happen when they do.

Q: Don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but I don't think she feels the same way. See, I'm a 9th grader, and along with school, I also have a part-time job that ends at 6pm. Then when I get home I have to do homework, then my mom makes me take out the garbage, unload the dishwasher, fold laundry, clean my room, and dust. By the time I'm done it time for bed.

My mom doesn't treat me like Cinderella and make me do everything, but its sooo annoying when she's makes me do these things when she's off the whole day and she does NOTHING. How can I let her know I need a lighter load?
WOW! I know how you feel, except my job I worked from after school til 11:30 at night. My mom would yell at me to mop the floor and such, she was a nut case.

Anyways, does she make you stop doing homework to do all these chores? Or does she make you do all that first and THEN do homework? Well if she just wants you to do the chores after homework, then don't do it.

Sometimes parents are sooo stubborn that comprimising with them is not an option so you just have to wear them down! Considering my schedule with school, my job, and my studies, my parents had absolutely NOTHING to ground me from and they realized it after I started refusing to do things for them. They were much more willing to comprimise after that. I still did chores but they were much less demanding.

I dunno if you have anything worth getting grounded from, but if you're as busy as you say, I'm sure you don't and I hope this works as well for you as it did for me.

Q: hey I know this is a really stupid and weird question, but ok i'm making a new screen name, and it's gonna be mangotango59. how should it be: MaNgOtAnGo59, mAnGoTaNgO59, or mangotango59? also, should i add anyletters or anything in between the words like mangoXXtango59 or oOmangotangoOo59 or something? also, if you have anyother good screen name ideas, then that'd be good too!
keep it simple. As a aim sn guru, I can say that MaNgO or mAnGo and adding oO and XX will only anger those who read your screen name, especially those who try to write it down for reference.

you can't go wrong with mangotango59, or MangoTango59, or Mangotango59, or 59MangoTangoes! but the others are just eyesores.

Q: i know this is not the best question to ask, but i was wondering if there is a racist word for turkish people. its not to diss a turkish friend of mine, its just that im turkish, and i was just wondering..
a lot of races have a racist name for them, and i was wondering if turkish people do too. all 5's.
I only know of 'filthy turks'

Q: Well my period is very irregular. Like The last time I had one was 4 months ago. It's always like that, sometimes it can go 7 months without one. I don't really mind it because it's less worry for me...but once every month ill get the cramps but no blood or anything, but then again it is a worry because Im always afraid of when itll be comming and I have no idea when, its unpredictable. But I was wondering if I could still get pregnant even though I dont have a period much? What do you think could possibly be wrong? Such factors I have considered would be stress, anxiety, depression, irregular eating patterns, could vegetarianism have something to do with it?
Once you have your first period you can always get pregnant. Irregular periods are also a sign that you MAY be at RISK of an ulser.

You're better off talking to a doctor about this, if nothing is wrong with you tho doctors usually put you on birth control to regulate your period.

Q: All the senior football players pick a girl and they are all in the running to be Homecoming Queen. My brother (a senior) is taking me (a freshman) to homecoming which means I am in the running for homecoming queen. I'd like alot of people to vote for me. And while i know there are already some people who will....i just want to know how to become friends with more people. Like i want to be a more outgoing person but I don't know how to be. does anyone get what i mean? Please give me ne advice you might have!!!
Doesn't the winning queen and king have to kiss at the crowning? They did at my school so I'd thought I'd mention that since you're brother is a candidate.

The problem with making friends and being more social at this point is that most students will figure out that you really want to be H-queen and think that is all you care about. So when you play your cards, you need to keep that in mind. The people that are losers or are 'nobodies' are the majority of most schools (you wouldn't be popular if half the school was too). You should always aim for their votes because most everyone else KNOWS who they are voting for and you befriending them won't change much.

How to become friends with more people? Well it's hard to hate someone who smiles! So smile, and greet people that are just mere aquaintances (but not total strangers, 'cuz they'll know something is up), talk to people in your classes, talk to people standing in the lunch line around you. Basically talk to those within your reach but don't go around looking for people to befriend. You'll spread your name around by doing just these things, which is good 'cuz those who have no clue who to vote for, tend to vote for the name most familiar to them that they favor.

Q: Future americans came to the COLONIES for religous freedom. The nation was actually formed because we were being treated unfairly tax wise compared to the other English colonies throughout the world. While God was in the lives of many of our nations fathers, american was founded on the belief of religous freedom or the right to not have religion. FYI: I did not write the question.
and you're sending me a question why? And taxes were one of the many reasons why they left the english colonies, i didn't say it was just for god but it's history and all you can do is take it or refuse it.

Q: I need advice on how I can start a petition. I need to know how I officially and legally start it and who do I present it to. How do I organize it? As you can see from my title, the purpose of the petition would be to have some sort of ruling against out-ruling the pledge of allegiance in schools or changing it.

Anyways, do you think because of 'under God' that after over 200 years, the pledge should be changed or withdrawn from any school. Why or why not? Thanks in advance.
'under God' is more than a religious phrase. It's a symbol of our nation's history. United States wouldn't have even been founded if it were not for people in England seeking religious freedom.

Anyone who doesn't like the 'under God' part isn't mature enough to accept it as a HUGE part of history, despite their own spiritual beliefs.

As far as getting the petition started, I can't help you there, but I hope I helped contribute to your argument.

Edit: Some people are acting offended that they should even mutter with word "God". This nation was founded for religious reasons, if anyone gets their panties in a twist because they don't want to say the nation was found under God just because of the word "God" and their beliefs, then they should just not pledge because not saying "under God" nullifies the entire pledge and is a waste of their breath.

If this nation was found under Athiest, Satanic, etc. views, then so be it... that would be fact and there would be no denying it, therefore making it easy and simple for a christian to say "under Satan" because their only pledging to the nation not a religious figure

Q: i'm 13 f and i've never had a boyfreind in my life. never had a guy ask me out. never had a guy kiss me. nothing. it's not that i'm ugly or anything, i'm pretty i guess but def not like gorgeous and i'm not mean really and yeah. i guess i'm just not guy material? :( but i really really want a boyfriend and a first kiss. like it's driving me insane i can't help it! and a lot of my friends have had boyfreinds and idk about the kissing part. what is wrong with me? how can i make myself feel better about myself/ please help!!!!!
Been there, didn't get any boyfriends til 16. Boys in your age group are retards anyway, so you're not really missing out. TRUST ME, boys in that age group usually just date to so they can brag, they also take red marker to pads and throw them around the school, screaming and making a scene. Does that sound like a guy you want to waste your time with?

My personal opinion is don't worry about your dating relationship until you find a plethora of mature guys! You shouldn't even do that. Guys cause drama and fights among your friends, etc. Dating takes a chunk of responsibility and commitment and you're young! I often wish that I didn't even start seeing my bf, 'cuz I've had to give up my hobbies and give up time with my friends and so on.

Boyfriends aren't baaad, but I'm just saying don't rush it and don't worry.

Q: im 13 and i have 2 b/f :( and i had sex with both 1 guy does it better but the other guy is way more cooler...... wat do i do ?
Depends. Are you dating for reputation or for leisure?

Rate as poor as you like, but speaking as 19 yr. college student, girls who date for either of those reasons amount to nothing but whoring. I suppose there are exceptions but I have yet to hear of or meet any.

Q: On my homework the question is:
EXPAND 5(a-3)
how would I do this?
By expanding I THINK (THINK!!!!!) that you would just multiply it out which would end up being:

5(a-3)
5a - (5*3)
5a - 15

I'm pretty sure this is it, but math terms never were my strong point. Hopefully someone will give you a second opinion.

Q: I broke up with this guy a week ago but we still talk when i see him at his work. and i texted him today n he didnt text me back so i called and i asked if he was mad. and he said he wasnt and it was cool but he asked to call me back in 7mins cause he was almost home from work... everytime i called him, he was always on his way home from work. he gets off work at 9. and it was at 9:45 when i called him and he lives about half n hour away. he hasnt called back yet and its been over 10 mins. is he lyin to me?
Most likely. It's rare that people stay friends immediately after breaking up, that stuff usually happens weeks after the break up.

It could just be awkward for hi to talk to you, now that you two are no longer together, or it could be that he no longer wants to be friends. I can't speak for him, but I think it's safe to say that you should limit or restrain your efforts in contacting him for now.

I would continue to occasionally see him at his work, if he does wish to continue to be friends this will give him opportunity to act.

Q: i need to make a cd for a dance
techno/hiphop dance songs rock any one have suggestions
Anything by Daft Punk, my personal fave is 'Around the world'

How can you rate a SUGGESTION a 2? =\
Tip: If you rate poorly you can atleast leave an explanation.

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Mengers
I've been building programs and web sites since I was 12, but don't think I'm an expert! I may be technology advanced but I'm far from G33k!

I'd like to say I have common sense, but that is for you to decide!

I'll do everything I can to help, and I am not afraid to tell anyone when I am not capable of answering your question; so you have no need to worry about me BSing my wisdom.

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