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My mother...
Don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but I don't think she feels the same way. See, I'm a 9th grader, and along with school, I also have a part-time job that ends at 6pm. Then when I get home I have to do homework, then my mom makes me take out the garbage, unload the dishwasher, fold laundry, clean my room, and dust. By the time I'm done it time for bed.
My mom doesn't treat me like Cinderella and make me do everything, but its sooo annoying when she's makes me do these things when she's off the whole day and she does NOTHING. How can I let her know I need a lighter load?
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Well you can tell her that you don'g really have alot of time like she does because when you get home you really need to get your homework done first and then if you have some time before bed then help her out by doing a couple things but not all. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
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Try explaining to your mom that everything you do gets overwhelming, and that you understand that she wants you to do some things around the house, but you need some help with it, because its getting stressful to a point where you have no room in your day to take a breath. You need to relax at times, you work, you go to school, thats a handful already. Now, if I were Dr.Phil, I'd just yell at your mom and straighten her out, but since you're a child still, the only you'll get through is to explain. Your mom is being a little ridiculous about what shes doing to you. Sorry if that offends you at all, but I don't like the thought of a mom making her child do everything and her doing nothing.
-TheTeenGirl
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WOW! I know how you feel, except my job I worked from after school til 11:30 at night. My mom would yell at me to mop the floor and such, she was a nut case.
Anyways, does she make you stop doing homework to do all these chores? Or does she make you do all that first and THEN do homework? Well if she just wants you to do the chores after homework, then don't do it.
Sometimes parents are sooo stubborn that comprimising with them is not an option so you just have to wear them down! Considering my schedule with school, my job, and my studies, my parents had absolutely NOTHING to ground me from and they realized it after I started refusing to do things for them. They were much more willing to comprimise after that. I still did chores but they were much less demanding.
I dunno if you have anything worth getting grounded from, but if you're as busy as you say, I'm sure you don't and I hope this works as well for you as it did for me.
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This is probably not the most responsible thing to do, but I usually just break down and cry, and tell her I'm so stressed out it's physically making me ill (it's often true), and she hugs me and tells me it's all right and buys me some books and lets me stay home from school. I haven't done that in a really long time, but um...yeah...that's what I've always done. :/ It probably won't work. You can have a serious discussion with her, maybe. Tell her that you need a life, because technically you're still a kid. If you are mature about it and do the opposite of my first suggestion, she'll probably see to reason. If nothing works, you may have to quit your job. I mean...what good is that money if you don't have any free time to spend it, right? I'm sure her working you hard isn't because she doesn't love you. Obviously she loves you, or else she would'nt have given birth to you. Or, if she's not your biological mother, then she wouldn't have adopted you. Try to forgive her for her faults, discuss the situation with her, and relax. And when you have your own kids, don't repeat her mistake. Or have a lot of kids, and that way you can divide the chores evenly, so it won't take all night. Ta!
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Tell her how you feel, and maybe she'll let you off the hook. If your mom is really strick then maybe you just need to tell her that your grades are dropping and you're telling teachers that you don't have enough time to do the homework and they're saying to many excuses. Just tell her something that she'll belive.
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A way you can get a lighter load on yourself is to ask her very nicely if she can help out once in a while because you shes giving you to many things to do. Hope I helped!
-Sara
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