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I don't know if I'm going through a phase or not, but I have just suddenly been feeling EXTREMELY self/consious.
I feel SO ugly, SO fat, SO unpopular, and everything else teenagers feel, except all at the same time. (And yeah, I've heard the "Don't worry about whats other think" routine.) I just hate myself. I hate the way I act, look, and am period. I dont think I'll EVER got a boyfriend that's actaully not a geek. I never felt this way before, but all these emotions are coming at me!!! What do I do?!?!?!
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it's just hormones..don't worry bout it
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believe me, almost every teenager feels that all at the same time.eventually you will learn to love yourself. most of my friends and i have learned that. im only 13. and most of my friends are too. the pain will end soon. just dont cut yourself, attempt suicide, get an eating disorder, anything like that.
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for the geek problem, just remember: someday, that geek will be one of the richest men in the world and all the jocks will work for them. if that doesn't help, sorry. what always helps when i feel like that is music, movies, not like sad stuff but stuff that makes me happy. get a few friends, get all decked out in your cutest outfit, and go to the movies or the mall. it doesn't matter, just get out there. once you start having fun, you'll forget all about how bad you fell about yourself. also try volumteer work. it's corny, i know, but helping others really is a good way to help yourself.
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Don't worry. This will pass soon. For now keep your head high, and belive in yourself. Don't ever doubt yourself. You are none of those things. By the way you wrote your question i can tell you are a great person. Take my advice and trust yourself.
Good Luck!
Crush Hottie
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First off you don't let it get to you. See yourself for what you really are: don't put yourself on the throne or below the floor. Everyone has positives as well as negatives, some people have more than others. It all depends on how you are willing to see yourself or accept yourself. You may say to yourself: oh I don't like the way I look because I'm fat. Ask yourself: Am I really, or am I exaggerating? Is this really hurting me? Do I need to be better because I want to, or others do?
I think it could be a phase. I felt similar, it was very sudden, and lasted about...four years. No not saying you will too, but you might last just another week or even longer than me. What I learned is this: don't let it get to you. You have a lot more control of you than you think. You might not be able to control the way you feel about things when something is said or happens, but you can definatley control what you do about it or how you react. What do you do? List a bunch of things you do like about yourself, yes there are more than one. You'll just have to wait for the right guy to come around. If you can't control what emotions hit you, then control how you react to them, then it will be easier to deal with them. Hope that helped and good luck.
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ok, everyone feels self/consious at times and hate themselves, but you have to look at all of the positive things about yourself instead of the negative. Every time you think about how you hate yourself, try to think of what is good about yourself.(example...smarts, talents, kindness)
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Almost everyone goes through this. You could be PSMing, but I really don't know. Those people are right, you really shouldn't care what others think. but that doesn't always work. you probably feel uncomfortable with youself because you haven't grown into your body yet. do you feel awkward just walking? you're probably not fat, either. If you really feel strongly about this, then excersize and eat less junk. Who cares about being popular? all you need are those good friends that really care about you, and they're really hard to find. if you want to spice up your look, play with your hairstyle. straighten you hair, put it up, ya know? play with makeup untill you find what works for you. just don't use too much. hope i helped!
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You sure you don't want the "Don't worry about what others think" chat? haha j/k
Trust me, you're not the only one who has felt that way. I would say this is a phase. Your body is still maturing, some girls just happened to have "matured" faster than you but it's usually those girls who end up getting knocked up and drop out of college and make nothing of themselves.
I felt fat and ugly and still do sometimes, but about midway through high school boys seemed to all of a sudden like me! Most of them were loser pot heads tho =. My friends had the same problem, we rarely attracted good guys! But as we got over our self esteem issues things changed and now 3 of my friends are married, I've been with my bf for 3 years (and he's hott!! I didn't think I could get a buff, good lookin guy!!!), and my best friend is just dating around with A LOT of great guys.
Basically all I did was just get over how i felt about myself, I know it's not as easy as it sounds but I hope you manage to get your mind off of these things that you don't have full control of, you'll be much happier and things will happen when they do.
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Life got ya down? Do what all teens do, get a razer and cut cut cut.
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Yes. I know that feeling. And it sucks. What I did, was talked to the friends I really trusted. Or, keep a journal, its a good way to vent. Or you could excersize, that will help you feel better.
xO'ali
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