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Stuck in The Middle
My ex boyfriend and I still have feelings for each other. The only reason we broke up was because of an Instant Messanger Misunderstanding since someone always goes on his screenname. Well, he has a girlfriend who he only likes as a friend (which I think he got to make me jealous.) He and I want to get together but I'm afraid I'm going to get hurt? So should we keep ourselves a secret, should we tell his girlfriend about us, or should I just tell him its not a good idea? We really like each other. So any advice would be great. I'll rate 5's for Helpful advice.
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Well first of all, he needs to break up with his current girlfriend before he can do anything with you. Because if you guys are considering keeping yourself a secret then that sounds like he has no intentions of breaking up with her which means, yes you will get hurt there and then he'll be cheating on her with you, which also means he'll be breaking her heart, and then that means theres a HUGE possibility that he could start cheating on you with someone else which leaves your hurt there too. =/ But if he does break up with his girlfriend and you guys don't keep this a secret, then I don't see why not because you guys still like eachother and you never have stopped only because of someone else talking to you on IM ( which I should also say here he should get a new screename and possibly you too ) ...I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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Ok 1. Change your SN. 2. If you guys are gonna go out again tell him to dump his gf first or else you'll both just get hurt. If you're afraid of getting hurt again then take some time to think about it before you give him an answer.
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well if you really lyk each otha them give it another try. dont b scared of him hurtin you bc the 1st tyme he really didn't hurt you. sum1 else did bc they were on is sn. his gf should no bout you 2 so she doesnt end up gettin hurt. dont keep your luv 4 him a secret.
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Well since you said someone got on his screenname and messed with your head about breaking up and it wasn't your actual boyfriend that was saying it, then I think you should try it out you should tell your ex boyfriend that if he wants his girlfriend that he has now then good but then all the things he told you (wanting to get back with you) was all just a lie. Tell him he has to make a decision if he wants her or you and if it's you then you got to tell him to break it off with his girlfriend and date you. You never know if you'll get hurt or not. I mean it wasn't even him that broke up with you in the first place really. So if I was you I'd give it a shot and tell him. Hope I helped. Sorry if I didn't.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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He needs to break up with the girlfriend before you even THINK of going out with him. The only reason he could want to keep it secret would be if he had no intention of breaking up with her. He wants to use you and keep her. Not a fun place to be for you! So, if you keep it secret yes, you probably will be hurt. The fact that hes willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you should give you some insight to his character anyway. He cheats on her he'll probably cheat on you. Tell him its not a good idea and find a new guy. :)
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i think that you should be with him because if you love him you should be with him and he shouldn't be makin that other girl think that he cares or whatever so i say go for it don't keep what yall have going on a secret or the way you feel about him a secret love is meant to be expressed. get rid of that other girl that is coming between yall
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I think that you guys should be together. I mean, yeah-it might hurt his new girlfriend, but he shouldn't let her think that he likes her as a girlfriend, if he only likes her as a friend because that's playing with her heart, and that isn't fair. Breaking it off is the best option. You will regret it if you don't choose to be together with him because you really like him. Anyways, it was neither of your fault that you guys broke up in the first place because it was somebody else who got involved in the email. If you really like himand car eabout him then go with him. Tell the girlfriend though, because she has a right to know. I hope everything works out for the best, and I hope I helped!
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well, its simple as this:
first, you get him to break up with his girlfriend
next, you two start going out
and thats all there is to it. the only time you should be worrrying about getting into trouble is if your helping him cheat on his current gf. as long as they break up, its perfectly fine to go public about your relationship.
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If he doesn't really like his girlfriend, it isn't right for him to continue seeing her. By doing this, he'll only be leading her on & make her have false hope for something that will never happen.
If you two still have feelings for each other, I would just try again & see what happens. The feelings are obviously still there for a reason. If someone always goes on his screen name, I would just have a code or something with him. For example - tell him to say a certain word or phrase when it's him on the screen name. If he doesn't say it when you think he's on, then you'll know that it isn't him & you can avoid any future misunderstandings.
I hope everything works out! If you need anything else just leave it in my inbox.
x33 ;; Always,
ADViCEx4xY0U =]
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Well lets see... when you said he had real feelings for you and you did too then why did he get another girl friend just to make you jealous?
Let me ask you something do you want a boyfriend who really cares about you and will always care about you and not because of an Instant Messanger Misunderstanding. So if you really love this guy and he really likes you tell his girlfriend about you and him because love will never wait.... and no mater how hard you try to get another boyfriend you'll still have feelings for your true love....
Tell me if this working, Jessica
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If you too really like each other don't let your happiness go away. Tell him to tell his girlfriend that it is you who he want's to be with and she will understand. You shouldn't keep it a secret you'll regret it because you let someone get into what you really care about just not to hurt someone always have this in mind happiness is the most important thing in life.Go for what you want the only way to get something like a guy is to make it happen. You're not doing anything wrong you are someone who wants to be with someone who also thinks the same that's all and you'll also feel good about yourself!
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Ex boyfriend situations are tough to deal with. If you guys really do have strong feelings for each other, tell his "gf" about it. If you guys think that the feelings are juss kinda there, because you guys were in a relationship before, tell him it isn't a good idea. You could get hurt again, but seeing that you guys broke up for a misunderstanding, maybe not. You won't know until you try.
good luck!
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okay, deffintaly go for this one!! i wouldnt be afraid of getting hurt because you never know this could lead to sumthing good and its just going to hurt you more to see him around and stuff and know hes not yours. I dont think you should keep yourselfs a secerate because those relationships dont work out well, believe me! they always get out anyways. I would also deffinatly tell him girl friend about you two, because its not right to her and its gonna hurt her either way because shes gonna find out one way or another..haha
hope it helpss!!!
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