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i am a girl and my brother is 2 years younger and we always get in fights. ALWAYS. its getting annoying now cause we fight about EVERYTHING. we also in general annoy eachother like if we are in the car and he pinches me so i will hit him. and yeah we like REALLY HURT eachother. so i want this to stop... please try to help and if you do i will rate you a 5!!
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I had the exact same problem as you - my brother is two years younger as well and we used to fight *all the time*. It just got better a few years ago because I finally started using this tactic - I told him I loved him. I didn't say it out loud at first, coz as any older sister knows, younger bros are notorious for twisting your words around. I just started showing him that I was his older sister and I loved him. Like, if he pinched me, no matter how much it hurt. I'd ignore him. If it got really bad, I'd say something like, "If that the only way you can express yourself, I'm cool with that." I started showing him I loved him more, too, whereas before I hadn't. Like, if he was having trouble with homework or something, I'd offer to help. I smothered him with kindness. It worked. I wouldn't say he's an angel, but he realizes now that I'm not the enemy; I love him and we're more alike than different. Try to build a sense of partnership with your bro - after all, he's the only other person who really knows what it's like to be your parents' kid, living in your house etc. Don't fight violence with violence, that never works. Be the reasonable one; you're older after all. And here's a little bit of evolutionary trivia: DNA wise, you and your bro are more related than either of you are to your parents. So, he really is more like you than you can imagine. Good luck.
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i would just have a talk to your brother and tell him how you feel if that doesnt work ask your mom or dad to take you to a theropist
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You should just try to controle yourself when he hits you and not hit him back... After awhile he will be bored with hitting you..... If that does not work when ever he hits you get him back by takning something out of his room and telling him you wont give it back until he grows up ands stops hitting you.
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I think the best think for you to do right now is just shut him out for a little while. If you says something mean to you, look away and don't say anything back. (As hard as it may be!) Also, if he pinches or hits you first, don't do anything to him. If neccessary, go get your mom or dad so they can discipline him. Eventually he'll realize that fighting isn't going to get him anywhere with you.
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wow . that sounds like me and my sisters . first of all your brother only wants to see you angry . so you mite wanna start by ignoring him . if that doesnt work you should talk to your parents about his annoying you and fighting . just w/e you do DONT FIGHT BACK ! if you do he will most likley say you " started " it and you will get blamed . just be the mature one !
hope i helped .
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Well, You have to handle your anger.He'll get over it if you ignore him..He'll be happy if you're angry, that's why you have to control your anger..Hope I helped!
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I'm pretty sure that wont stop till your 18 and hes 16. Thats just how siblings fight.
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Hey I say try to ignore him and try to act alittle more mature.You know if you keep paying him mind hes going to keep bugging you.So stay away from him the best you can or you will end up with scars and bumps all over you.Hope it works out!
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What you should do is speak to your parents to go to therapy so they can help or counseling I told someone that too. I have a brother who has a friend who goes to therapy so he could get help in his social problem and his stress. It certainly helped him he seems more happier and has a lot of confidence.For now try to not go near him for a while and least have the least conversation. Try not to answer back just not to have have another fight.Believe me there are another brothers and sisters who get into arguements and fights.I have two brothers and we don't fight but hardly we may have some disagreements that's all like all people in life.
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The only thing you can really do is talk to your parents about it. Your brother might not listen to you, but your parents would.
good luck!
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