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I am a former self-injurer, and I finally stopped cutting at the end of 8th grade (I'm going into 9th). I've been happy since the end of 8th grade and haven't had a reason to cut, or I'v refrained myself from cutting. But that's how I deal with stress. And I'm afraid I'll relapse this year from stress. I've been to therapy, and I write a lot. Is there any other way I could possibly deal with stress that isn't destructive?
thanks in advance!
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When you get in a mood, just pop in a CD.
I mean, that's what I do. Just sit there and listen to the lyrics for hours on end.
--Social Suicide
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okay, first of all i cut so i know what you are going through. you cut because of stress right? well if thats the case then if kyou think something is stressing you out then you need to just let it go. sometimes if you are stressed out playing a sport or doing something with your friends will help you get your mind off whatever is stressing you out. this doesnt work for me but whenever you feel the need to cut keep a rubber band on your wrist and snap it and play with it instead of cutting. what sometimes helps me when i am stressed out is talking to one of my colse friends about whatever is stressing me.. if none of this works for you then you can go to the website www.selfinjury.net and they have tons of healthy alternatives.
i really hope i helped and good luck!
~*rachy*~
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First off. Cutting is a bad and dangerous habbit, which Im sure you know about. Ive had some personal experiances with that that Im not really going to get into, but I know all about it. Its good that you've been happy and refrained from cutting. Thats a good first step. Its how I dealt with it too untill I realized that I was putting stress on my friends. Cutting, along with suicide is a very selfish habbit. It may help you, but it hurts your friends and thats something I never wanted to do. Its good that you've been going to therapy. You should continue with that. If you ever feel the need to cut, you should try keeping a rubberband around your wrist, and if you feel the need to, just snap it. It will feel like your cutting, but not as dangerous, and just keep doing that until eventually you dont need the rubberband anymore. You just have to keep telling yourself that you can deal with things without resorting to SI. Also, writing is a good way to relieve stress, so is listening to music. Some of the things I do when Im stresses is run, put my headphhones on and listen to music while writing, or going outside and just screaming. Also, you have to learn how to not subject yourself to things that could cause you to cut [ depressing relationships, drama, bad influencing friends ] and things of that nature. You have to elminate triggers such as those, untill you can learn to be stable, and on your own two feet. So definetely hang in there and try the things Ive told you. I hope you get better. =)
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I know where you're coming from. I myself have just stopped that a couple months ago, and the temptation to go back is great. But what I find helps is if I call a friend right when I feel the urge. And just hearing there voice, and talking to them normally gets my mind off the stress. You don't even have to talk to them about whats making you want to cut, or whats stressing you out, sometimes just knowing someone is there is helpful.
The other thing you can do, when things get really bad, is snap a rubber band against your wrist. But try and keep that as a last resort, because although it isn't cutting, it is a form of SI. But sometimes when the urge is that great, you need that release, but try and save that for when you really need it. Rubbing a piece of ice against my wrist also helps too.
Running is a big thing for me. I go on many many long runs when I feel like i'm about to break down from something. But it doesn't have to be running, going on a long walk, listning to your music just a little too loud, playing with a pet, they can all get your mind off of the stress.
Good luck to you. I know its hard. If you ever want to talk to someone send me one in my inbox, or AIM : LeeLee661212
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ok well there is this show degrassi its really cool n der was this one grl dat cut her self den she went to therapy too n da counsel told her to get a ruber ban n put it on your hand n pop it wen ever u feel like you wanna cut your self or sum. but y dont you call a friend and tell her how you feel instead of writing all da tyme.
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Try distracting yourself when you get stressed. Exercise is a great stress reliever. Having someone, a trusted friend, etc, to talk to when you get the urge will also help. Instead of injuring yourself to deal with the stress, try to figure out what's triggering the stress. A lot of times if you can remove the trigger, you can also take care of the stress.
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dont cut-whatever you do. take a walk or clean your room to get rid of stress. squeeze a stress ball. hope i helped! ;)
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hello. this question makes me think of myslef... I had been cutting since 6th grade.. I to am also going into 9th grade... some of the things i do when i think about cutting(which i don't do anymore either... go us!) I try and watch a funny movie... or talk to somebody about it... but i know how that can feel too... sometimes talking doesnt do anythng about it... so write down why you want to hurt yourself, and show it to your thearapist... do stuff that makes you happy.... if u like to sing, sing, if you like to dance, dance... whatever makes u happy!
Hope i help!
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i have a friend that was in the EXACT same situation. we thought the same thing... what if a relapse happens? what you do is find something that is easy on you that can relieve your stress... go for a walk in your neighborhood every day after school or something that's easy and can take your mind off a hard day.
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Recognize the symptoms of stress
Look at your lifestyle and see how it can be changed – at work, home in your family and your
schedule.
Use relaxation techniques – yoga, meditation, deep breathing, massage
Exercise – one of the best stress reducers of all
Time management – do essential things then prioritize the others, but not at the detriment of friends and family.
Watch your diet – alcohol, caffeine, sugar, fats and tobacco all strain the body’s ability to cope with stress.
Get enough rest and sleep
Talk to others – friends, councilors or in a support group
Help others – volunteer work is very rewarding and a great stress reducer
Get away for a while – either by watching a movie, reading a book, or even going away on vacation.
The idea is to have some time to yourself
Work off your anger physically – walking, gardening, spring cleaning
Give in occasionally – avoid quarrels
Tackle one thing at a time – don’t take on too much at once
Don’t try to be perfect.
Ease up on your criticism of others
Don’t be too competitive
Make the first move a friendly one
Have fun!! Laugh and enjoy yourself.
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stress sucks so i wish the best of luck to ya, lad!
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Well first off why do you think that you'll have stress in 9th grade? But anyways working out always gets my mind off of things, plus you'll feel better about your self when your done knowing that your doing something good for your body and what not.Also, you said you write a lot, you can try writing books or something. My friend when she's stressed out writes poems and she puts them all in a book and pretty soon shes going to try tog et it published....you could try it, it's not a bad idea. Or you could try doing something knew with your family and friends or go see new movies or something. I can't say I'm in the same boat as you but occasionally I get stressed out and working out really helps. Hope I helped just a little bit.
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scream in a pillow
take a long jog
work out
sing and loud as you can
hang with friends
write a book
dance
try something fun
go to a movie
call up a friend
take alot of deep breaths
trust me, ive been in that situation before so i know which ones work for me so try some of those and see which ones work for you.
♥ leah
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Hi Sweets! Well i just want to say that im praying for you right this instant.. let me take a second and do so... Okay im all done. Well ima very big christian and you may think that its a bad thing. But let me tell you that ive been to the point where i almost commited suicide. But my mothers friend took me to church. I had always gone but i kinda stopped because i didnt think it was neccasary. But now as i look back i see that - i dont try to kill myself when i get stressed. I pray and ask God for his help! And i put my faith in him and the situation and let the Lord deal with it. So thats the BEST advice anybody can give you. Going to a counselor helps a little bit, but your HEAVENLY FATHER CAN DO MUCH MORE FOR YOU THEN SOME PERSON! I went in my bible to find a verse for you and this is what i found
"He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will never be shaken. So many enemies against one man- all of them trying to kill me." -Psalm 62:2-3
That verse is saying Prayer can release our tensions in times of emotional stress. Trusting God to be our rock, salvation, and fortress will change our entire outlook on life. No longer will you need to hurt yourself because of the pain and suffering the world and or the devil is throwing to you. Just trust in the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, and soul. If you need anything write back to me and maybe we can get into a deeper conversation if you'd like. Ill be praying for you!
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Exercise is a pretty constructive way to deal with stress. It generally calms you down, and improves your overall feeling of well-being. It can also increase the level of endorphins in your brain, helping you to feel happier.
Long-distance running can also be painful, so oddly enough that might be a good substitute for cutting - it would hurt, but not damage you. Of course, you'd need to be careful not to overdo it.
That said, stay on top of the issue with your therapist. If the urge to cut becomes overpowering, you may need to check into the possibility of medication, at least temporarily.
Good luck!
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sure there is...my friend used to be a cutter and her therapist told her to buy some silly putty so that way when she feels like cutting or has alot of stress she can take it out on a peice of putty.
~hope i helped
~~~plez rate
GOOD LUCK
***~FUNKYMUNKY~***
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