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yeah i tried looking for sims cheats online but i cant find any. the only ones i know is that you do control-shift-c, and then type in rosebud for $1,000, and also the exclamation point and semicolon thing for more money. anyone know of a site with a lot of them, or can just write them down for me? ive tried lookin for them a lot on different websites but it hasnt worked for me. will rate!
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ctrl shift c, rosebud ; ; ; and then hold it, gets you much much much more than 1,000$

i was wondering what i should do for my sweet 16. right now i dont want to have a huge crowd maybe about a dozen ppl or so and i have a vary small budget. no taking everyone out to dinner or anything. i was thinking maybe spending $10-15 dollars max per person. i was also thinking of doing something with just like 5 or 6 ppl maybe and doing something a little more expensive but still not out to dinner. My birthday is in December and i live in pittsburgh pa if that helps

since when is december the beginning of summer?

and ice skating can be done at an indoor rink. That's what I did. It was lots of fun.

I am a former self-injurer, and I finally stopped cutting at the end of 8th grade (I'm going into 9th). I've been happy since the end of 8th grade and haven't had a reason to cut, or I'v refrained myself from cutting. But that's how I deal with stress. And I'm afraid I'll relapse this year from stress. I've been to therapy, and I write a lot. Is there any other way I could possibly deal with stress that isn't destructive?

thanks in advance!

I know where you're coming from. I myself have just stopped that a couple months ago, and the temptation to go back is great. But what I find helps is if I call a friend right when I feel the urge. And just hearing there voice, and talking to them normally gets my mind off the stress. You don't even have to talk to them about whats making you want to cut, or whats stressing you out, sometimes just knowing someone is there is helpful.
The other thing you can do, when things get really bad, is snap a rubber band against your wrist. But try and keep that as a last resort, because although it isn't cutting, it is a form of SI. But sometimes when the urge is that great, you need that release, but try and save that for when you really need it. Rubbing a piece of ice against my wrist also helps too.

Running is a big thing for me. I go on many many long runs when I feel like i'm about to break down from something. But it doesn't have to be running, going on a long walk, listning to your music just a little too loud, playing with a pet, they can all get your mind off of the stress.

Good luck to you. I know its hard. If you ever want to talk to someone send me one in my inbox, or AIM : LeeLee661212

I met my girlfriend over the internet about 7 months ago. We started as a good friendship. So then I asked for her phone number. We talked on the phone for hours and hours. I started to love her and have really strong feelings for her. She did too. We did webcam and send pictures and mail. But things started to happen to me I started to feel depressed. I started to have personal problems with my family about it. I didn't care I know I love this girl a lot. I haven't seen her yet cause I'm not ready yet. I want to look good for her physically and in ma peronality. I don't want her to see an ugly me. I want to lift weights get taller and look good for her. I want to have money and get my education. Thats why I haven't gone to see her. I want to be for her inside and out. But is gettin frustrated. Cause so many guys have I asked her out but shes says no to them cause she waiting fo me. But I can't cause I went to get muscles and get taller and get ma money straight get new clothes and get ma education. So, then I can see her. But I don't want her to give up. I feel bad cause I want see her but I want to surprise but gettin muscles and lookin taller and being a person who can make her smile, laugh, make her feel good about us and look good for her. I love her a lot she is a beautiful young girl. She is cute, nice, hardworking, special, and comfortable to talk to. What do I do. I'm a male who is 17

If she loves you, then it shouldn't matter. Surprise her by showing her how hard you're working to look how you thinks she wants you to look. And you said you've done webcam, so she knows how you look. And obviously she likes it if she wants to meet you and loves you.
Just go for it.

Okay, so I like this girl, she knows I like her, but I asked her if she liked me once, she said that she likes me as a friend. I really want to hang out with her, etc, so that maybe I'll get her to rethink her response, but I'm at an age where co-ed is kind of discouraged. So, like, I got into an advanced science class, and there's only 20 people in that class. I was thrilled when I found out she had gotten in. The bad news? One of my other friends---a guy---also got in, and so I'd probably be expected to sit next to him, if we had a choice in seating.

Also, whenever I throw a party, should I invite her? I mean, theres some 15 guys there, hanging out, talking about DnD or how far we just got in Warioware, but then it would be kind of awkward to have just one single individual girl theere. I'm really kinda screwed in the head right now, she invited me to her parties, but then again, there were like ten guys there. What should I do, advicenators?

don't be afraid to sit with her in class. If you have choice seating, do you have to keep the same seat the entier term/semester/year? If not, switch off between your guy friend and her. Chances are she'll want to hang out with some of her friends too.
Also, get to know her girl friends, that way, when you have a party, you can invite her along with some of her other friends that way there will be more than just one girl at the party.

im going into the highschool next year and i heard that you have to carry like a little backpack around school.. i have a normal sized backpack like what you would wear to the middle school.. is that too big? what should i doo? like should i get one backpack to cary around school and the other for home? PLEASE HELP!

i carry my normal backpack around school. there are a lot of kids at my school who were even carrying like hiking backpacks.
my backpack is a fairly large jansport. you'll be fine with the same size backpack you had in middle school. just now your backpack goes EVERYWHERE with you.

ok so my tonsils are huge and my troat is red, i already have big tonsils uut thye are really big it not strep, it stings a little bit when aswollow ive been risning with salt wter every hour but thta doesnt help, any suggestions?

eat popsicles, take advil, drink water, see a doctor

Hello. I don't really know how this works, but I am taking a crack at it. Lately, I have been reading many sites that teenage girls like me have been making about anorexia. Most often then not they are praising it, but I have found few who tell me to look away. I am about to be 15 years old in a month. Soon, I am going back to school. I weigh 204lbs. Everyone tells me I don't look overweight, but its not just the way I look. I feel heavy. I feel sick and digusted, but I when I read these websites I get inspired to lose weight. Though, never to such an extreme as to starving myself. Are there any diets or tips out there that can help me? I'm feeling really inadequate.

drink lots of water all day and go for a run, or if you don't like running, go for a walk, or a swim. Just keep yourself active.

Ok, I'm 13 (14 next week), 5'1", and 161 pounds. I'm very overweight. Embarrasing, but it's the truth. I need to lose weight. I really want to lose like 50 pounds by Christmas possibly sooner. My mom was going to order the Nutrisystem foods for me but it has been delayed(probably cancelled) cuz we just can't afford spening 300 dollars on something like that right now. Is there anything else out there that can help me?! I don't want diet pills or ebooks but maybe some type of prepackaged food meals that maybe are a little cheaper. Or like a diet plan just for me that doesn't cost much!!!

first off, to lose 50lbs is a bit much. You're only 14, so you're probably still going to grow a bit, and you're 5 ft 1. You're healthy weight is probably around 130. And that still depends on bone structure.
If you want to lose weight, the best way is to eat in portions, not eating too much, and to limit sweets and things. Eat lots of fruits and veggies, drink lots of water all day long, and excersize.

Hey guys, this is gonna sound really retarded, but I'll ask anyway. Well it started when my brother asked me if I'd read the harry potter books and I said no, they're really stupid. But then he convinced me to read them, and now I'm on the 5th book. I really like them, it's kind of funny, because I always thought they were stupid. But anyway, I'll get to my question. My best friend likes them too, so we wanna have a harry potter party. I know, we're so stupid! So does anyone know what we can do, other than watch the movies and stuff? We already decided on making shirts. I'm making mine say I love Snape. Haha, don't ask. Is there anything else we can do though? Thank you!!

ron kills hermione.

okay, i have a group of 4 friends that have a blast when we're all together. its me and another girl and 3 guys. Well i found out that 2 of the guys liked me.. and the thing is i like both of them too.. but i like one more.. but dont wanna hurt the other one. and so i tell them that i just want to be friends with all of them. and then i get a texted from the one i like more asking if i'd ever want to hold his hand, i told him i'd let him kno when the time comes. but ugh.. its so fustrating.. hope you can help!

he asked you before the other guy that liked you did...so maybe he likes you more than the other one does. just hold his friggin hand.

hey guys! im looking for a new s/n for aim and i just cant seem to think of one! I love pink, umm... well anything actually. If you come up with some good ones i'll rate you nicely! =D please ++ thanks ♥

purdy in pink
xXpinkXx
pinkladies
xXpinkPantherXx

i dont know. throw letters around and x's and things.

What are some great dance songs? I work at a summer camp and I need some songs appropriate for 5 year olds but still something that I would listen too also..I'm 13/F.

Oldies are good for little kids.
Try something like "Walking on Sunshine" or "i'm coming out"

I'm kind of a shy type, so I don't really sing in front of people, but when I do I make it sound, like not my best. But when I sing by myself, I think that I may be talented. I also like to dance, and I like to draw and I'm good at that too, and same with writing. At my school there is Drama Club and I froze up and forgot all my lines and absolutely refused to sing. I dont know what to do. I want to be found out, but part of me doesn't. I'm a very split person.

the brilliant thing about theater is it gives you the chance to be someone else. It gives you the chance to take what you want and run with it. I know how you feel about singing in front of people, and that yes, it can be scary as anything. But go for it. Don't think of what everyone else is thinking. Don't think about whether you're making a fool out of yourself or sounding really good. Go out, don't think, just sing.

I need a pet! should i get a dog or cat? i dont want it to smell bad! so what smell better

they both have there times where they smell disgusting. Cats have the whole litter box thing, but when a dog gets older, it sometimes tends to smell worse.
But I'd say go for a dog. They're more loyal and active. Cats tend to think they own the house and don't really want to play around with you. Well, kittens do, but kittens are only kittens for so long.

at my school we have to wear collared shirt, with only 2 buttons unbuttoned. we can wear jeans or skirts, but the skirts have to be longer than 2 inches above our knees. i like to dress originally, and cant stand the thought of going to school looking exactly like everyone else. also i live on an island, so whenever you buy a shirt someone else in your school probably bought it too... and with this collared shirt rule, like 9 or 10 people end up with the exact same shirt. does anyone have any suggestions for interesting ways to make my outfits less boring?

buy a bunch of plain collared shirts and then "spice" them up a little bit. Take patches and things and add to the shirt. Chances are no one is going to design the shirt the same way you do. So it will be completly you.

Ive heard you can dye your hair with lemon juice..is this true? does it work? does it look good? how do you do it? i mean do you just squeeze a lemon over your head? Does it work if you have dark hair?? like really dark..
and can you get it out??

it lightens your hair up. it comes out over time. It isn't like it's permanent. But it'll be there for a while. I take a lemon and run streaks down my hair. but maybe that's just me.

alright so my boyfriend and i started having sex; we've been together awhile and i completely trust him. We're 17.. still too young for children. I know, we should be using protection but we aren't and i was wondering if there is anyway for me to get birth control without having to tell me mother? She's overprotective and thinks that sex before college is a huge "no no." Do you think i should try talking to her about it? Should i tell her that yes, i have been having sex? It would be the more responsible thing but i know she would never let me and my boyfriend be alone or go anywhere together anymore. Help, Please..

tell her you have really bad cramps or something like that and would like to be put on birth control to help them.

Where can you get the best livejournal ions? Especially of Paris Hilton..because she is my role model..what websites? Or of the movie Mean Girls?

if you go to xanga, look at all the blog rings and there are bunch of "ICON" blog rings, go in them and the people post icons and pretty much only icons. you'll find a lot there.

i've just gotten a modeling audition for a prestigious program. I'm average looking with brown hair,brown eyes,and skin. I'm 13 and i'm 5'1. Should I do the program or should I turn it down?

if it's something you want to do, or something you want to try go for it. But if you don't have any intrest in it, why waste your time?

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