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well im thinking about losing my virginity to my boyfriend... but im all about protection and talking about it first... but how do you bring it up? what do i need to know from him? also even if were both virgins... do we need to get HIV/ AIDS/ STD tested? also... whats the best protection to use... and where can i get stuff besides condoms? whats the best brand... and how do you know if im ready?
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if i were you i would tell him ahead of time adn ask him if he really wants to do this and if he does then tell him that you are serious about getting tested for HIV/AIDS trust me if he loves you he'll go for the tests. from mikethemen
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I think you guys hould wait 'til you're married. I know that's sounds cliche, but ask your self is a moment of pleasure worth your soul in eternity.
1 Corinthians 7:2
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication(sex before marriage), let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Galations 5:19-20
The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery;
idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
So with that said also I know you don't wanna be staying up some nights wondering if you are pregnant or have an STD. It's not worth it. Trust me.
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I would say yes get tested first then discuss with your bf how u feel about using protection he will feel the same way and if not bring up having a baby after that he'll shut up and use a condom most people feel that using a condom takes away the flavor in sex the feeling but really it doesn't actually it feels better not only that but you know your safe. And is for brands on condoms I don't know but pick a good one that doesn't come off too easily and that doesn't rip easily. something that is expensive and not cheap. Like those heated condoms it heats you up really quickly and stuff.
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Personally, I'm not at all supporting sex before marriage. It's the not way that God wanted it. Besides, after you do it once, guys begin to only date you because they want sex. It has some pretty nasty emotional/ social consequences. I guess if you incist on doing it then yes be as safe as possible. Don't do it unless you're sure that's what you want to deal with. Be sure that if the condom breaks YOU can have a baby or deal with the guilt of putting it up for adoption. Also be sure that you could deal with having HIV or a disease that could make you infertile, or just itch like no other. Sure you could be tested for HIV but the actual disease might not show up in your system for a few years. Oops. Was it honestly worth it. He's also just your boyfriend, if you have sex with him then afterwards that's pretty much all you'll have left to do. He'll get bored because he's already gone all the way, better make sure he really loves you already. I'd say talk all this out with him and a doctor if you still want to go through with it. But I sincerely hope that you don't.
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WHY would you even think about having SEX thats not somthing u can say o yes ill do it you need test and what id you have a baby and the father isnt there why dont you just wait till you get MARRIED?
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Well if you two are comfortable with having sex, then you two are probably comfortable enough discussing it =) Just sit down with him and be like," I just wanna talk about, you know, whenever we have sex about using protection. I would suggest to use birth control and condoms to be on the safer. And I think you two should get tested before you do anything sexual to be safe side =) I'm not really sure about what kinda of condoms to use cause I'm a virgin, but I hear Trojans break...I would talk about it maybe with a friend that has lost her virginity ( if you have one that has ... ) or maybe another adult...or you can go to Planned Parenthood. And I'm sure whenever you go to get tested, you can ask them, and they know...=) And I can't tell you whenever you'll know when you're ready ; you'll just know. If you two love eachother and you both think you're ready to take it to the next step ; then you should. =) Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
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well the best way to bring it up is when your alone...not in a resturant or anything. talk about both of your furtures and what you want out of life. maybe you 2 should wait until marriage and even still get tested together before you do anything sexual. condems and birth control my dear. (although the patch is easiest..only once a week!...the pill is everyday!) trust me.
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Danielle says ; make sure you love him obviously and that i would use both a condom and a pill better to be safe than sorry.
Samantha says ; same as what she said but to bring it up, i think you should just sit down with him and tell him how much you love him and appreciate him and stuff and then maybe plan a day / night or something and make it romantic :)
hope this helps!
=) samantha + danielle
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"honey, can we talk about something personal?"
even if you're both virgins, it only helps you trust each other to take an std test and be on the safe side. always, always, always use protection. condoms are fine, i've never had a trojan or lifestyles condom break. durex isn't as good. buy the lubricated kind with spermicide. i'd say use condoms for the time being but when you get more experienced, save up some cash and go to planned parenthood for birth control patches. they work great for me and my girlfriend, and you change them every couple weeks. only you will know when you're ready but remember this, if you start having sex, and you don't feel right, do not force yourself to continue. only do it when everything feels right and protection is in place.
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ask as many questions as possible dis is serious. its ur first time make sure your comfrotable with it. and they say trojan is good. make sure you both r in control of the actions being taken. and that he doesn't get ahead of himself.
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Ok... 1) if you need to ask random online peopel if you are ready, you aren't.
2) If you aren't comfortable talking about sex with your boyfriend in an everday manner, than you also aren't ready.
3) if you finally decide you actually are ready than:
no, testing shouldn't be needed, as long as you are both virgins
condom's are your best bet unless you want to get on the pill but then you have to be on that for awhile before it kicks in i believe
i'm not sure about brands, i hear Trojan's break a lot, but i'm not experienced in that area so i would recommend talkign to an older sibling or even a parent. If you can't talk abotu it with your mom than i would also say you most likley aren't ready for teh consequences of sex
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1) If you think hes about to put the moves on you and you'd like to go along with it...good time to talk.
2) You need to know who hes been with, ever had a blood transfusion.
3)If both are virgins then no pretesting should be needed. Ask about herpes though. Read about it on the net.
4) condoms are a MUST. Any drugstore has them and any number of foaming type birth control products for extra protection. All the brands are basically the same thing. Prettier box costs more.
5)If you can't keep your hands off the guy you're probably ready. If he makes you feel all squishy (LOL) inside and stuff like that! If you FEEL you are ready and not just doing it to keep him or because he is pressuring you, or if you just feel obligated. :)
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k u need advice. the key to not getting any dumbass answers is not to ask any dumbass questions, like the one u asked.
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losing your virginity isn't like losing your keys or something this is rele big! if you want 2 talk about it juss call him and talk 2 him about it. youu should ask him all these questions.. and if you ask me i think trojan is the best protection plus they have diff. colors/flavors/glow-in-the-dark/ ect. so youu can experiment of course not on your first night. you can usually buy condoms at supermarkets and drug stores those are the easiest places. `♥//
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first of all you still need to ask him about his history. see if he has done it before, and some people may lie, so going to your doctor for a test is very very important. some people are born with aids because their parents had it, you would probably know about it earlier in your life though when your doctor gave you a test when you were a baby, but its better to be safe than sorry. birth control pills and patches are also other forms of protection. and if you are taking them, dont use any medication that may cancel out the pills. but condoms are probably your best bet, because they seem more likely to prevent std transmition, and you are probably familiar with trojan. being able to talk about it is a good way of knowing if youre ready. if you cant use the word sex (like if you avoid using it and say "take our relationship to the next level" or something) and its weird to talk about it, you may not be ready. make sure hes ready before you do anything also. be aware of all of these things in his case too.
hope this helped. if you still have any more questions dont be afraid to ask, im glad to help.
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It would be helpful for him and you to get tested for hiv and aids before and after you have sex also,You should buy a good condom brand that won't break easy you can find most condoms and stuff you need like at a pharmacy and i would buy a pregnancy test first so if you miss your period you will know why.You shouldn't get pregnant but sometimes you can!!
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First of all this is a HUGE Step do not do it unless you truly love him and know he is the one! Because then you will feel bad about it so make sure you are making the right decision. Well ask him if he feels that you guys should make love ? . You need to ask him if he has had sex with anyone before and if so if he used protection but Guys always lie that they are virgins or that they used protection so i would suggest that you still get tested for just incase .Best protection would be Trojans , you can get them at the Free Clinic or any store,also buy birth control for better protection.If you have any more q's i will be glad to answer. Good luck ♥kate
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