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Ok sorry that this is long but please don't pass over it I really need help.
My parents aren't divorced but they both cheat on each other they basically both get with anything that moves of the opposite sex. My dad is always drunk and is very abusive. My mom isn't physically abusive but she just tells me that I'm a waste of life and that she wishes she never had me and that I'm such a huge mistake and bla, bla, bla but her boyfriend Tom hits me all the time and even rapes me sometimes. I've gone to the police before and they took my parents side because to everyone else they look like such nice people. But at night they're druggies and alcoholics. I even went to social sevices they put me in a home for a week where I started cutting and then they put me right back with them! Lately I met a guy who uses drugs and I've been going out with him. And we were using and did some things and now I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do. He was arrested for possesion so I can't go to him. I can't go to my parents. I really don't have any friends who aren't stoners and all they care about is how they're going to get their next fix. I don't know what to do. I've already tried killing myself and it didn't work. I'm soo scared I don't know what to do. I was going to run away but I know that I'll just end up somewhere where there's drugs and I'm really trying to stop. What can I do about all of this? Please help me
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well dont kill your self over that! my aunt is the same way! and my cousin goes kinda the same thing you go threw but hes a boy! he lefted when he couldnt take it! he moved in with us and we are so tight i take a bullet fro him! all i can say is move in with either one of your family members! thats probally the best! and tell your mom if she dont get a grip that you might call the DHR! But really gurl you need to leave that house! and please dont kill your self if you do that all you will do is go to hell!!
sorry for your problem! if you need any more help contact me at Lindseyox60@aol.com! i love you bunches!
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you just need to calm down and if your really want to get away from your parents one night when they're drinking or being abusive call the cops and bust them that way but im not really sure what to do in this situation
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hunny you've got to get out of that house. if they are doing all of these horrible things at night then that's when you need to contact the police, killing yourself isn't an option you're letting them win if you do that, think about your baby that child doesn't deserve to feel the reprocusions of you're parents mistakes. if you ever need to talk the feel free to IM me at fOrUrLoVe08
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Your age mattered to me because I wanted to know if you could make it out on your own. When you reach, I think it's 16 you can get emancipation papers that makes you legally an adult. Parents are no longer responsible and you can live in your own place. You are a little young for that unfortunatley.
I think that since you are pregnant, you should contact social services again. They will be able to get you medical care and all that. Hopefully help get you in detox or something. Drugs can hurt your baby and make life hell for it. I don't think you want that. They need to get you out of the enviroment you are in. Look at you, you are becoming like your parents. You have even become involved with one of them. You don't have to live like they do. Learn from it. Go get some aid from social services. Stay away from your family and stay away from the boyfriend and get your shit together girl. If you don't your life is never going to be any better than it is right now. 15 years from now it will be your son or daughter writing about his/her family. Don't fall into that trap. Climb out kicking and screaming! Talk to them,(social services) see what they can do for you, then I'd really like it if you dropped a note in my inbox and told me what happened.Ask them about emancipation too. I don't know what the legal age is for it. Being pregnant you may be able to do it. Just be sure to let them know you don't want your baby brought up in your current enviroment. :)
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wow.....i am sooooo sorry that you have to go through all of this. it sounds like your parents dont realize what they're doing to you and you are in some tough stuff there. i think that you HAVE to find new friends and a new bf because drugs and cutting doesnt help ANYTHING! im sorry that you feel you have to do this but you dont....i have a lot to say to this so im me and i will talk to you and again i am soo sorry that you go through this all the time but you need to find help before everything gets worse...im me asap!
i hope i hear from you...
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It seems to me that you have several big issues going on, and that maybe you should think about prioritizing them. The pregnancy seems to be your biggest current concern, because you have no safe space to talk to people about it.
I think you need to decide about the pregnancy in your own mind. Your three choices are keeping the baby, getting an abortion, or giving the baby up for adoption. Whatever you decide, you can get professional advice and support from your doctor, your local health clinic, or Planned Parenthood. They have specialists that can talk you through your options and help you make an informed choice that you will feel secure with.
Whatever you decide regarding the pregnancy, you'll also need to start making some choices about YOU. You are being emotionally, physically, and sexually abused. None of it is your fault. If anything, the adults you have confided in have been slack in offering you the type of support and guidance you need.
Was your social worker someone you found easy to talk to? If so, give him/her a call and explain that the situation with your parents has remained the same - and that you are now pregnant. If you didn't like your social worker, you are within your rights to ask for a new social worker. Please know that if you do not wish to contact them directly, you can tell a teacher or other staff person at your school about your home life - they are required to inform social services and will take responsibility to do so. Plus, your school will better be able to offer support.
Getting out of your home, and deciding on what course to take regarding your pregnancy, are your two most important considerations. Once you are bodily and emotionally safe, you're in a much better position to begin to heal - cutting and drug issues are issues that you'll need to get professional help to deal with. Your school might have a counsellor you can begin to work with.
Please note that if you intend to carry on with the pregnancy, drugs could have a very bad effect on the baby.
Now is the time to start worrying about yourself and not about your family; move in with a foster parent, a children's home, or another supportive family member. Being in a safe place can make deciding about the pregnancy and dealing with your additions much more doable.
Best of luck. You CAN do this.
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ok first of all calm down I would try to get yorself into therapy or a rehab something that can help you get off drugs then I would not see your boyfriend any more he's not helping you in any way and neither are your friends. I would stop getting high and drunk or whatever you do cause it's gonna hurt your baby real bad. If you want the baby thats cool but don't keep it unless your stable enough to give it a good home. You don't want it to go through what your going through. If you have any relatives or any one at all that would take you in I would go live with them. Email me at rubber_duckie392@yahoo.com if you need anyone to talk to or anymore help. Good luck it will be okay for oyu hopefully :)
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what you need to do is take a deep breath first... im like almost crying because even thought i dont go throught that much shit... i know how you feel. all my friends just found out that i cut and i know how it feels to ache inside... this is such a tought situation for you... and im not sure how to respond... but all i can say is that you should try talking to someone in school. or but do not kill yourslef because someone else hurt you... for all the people that dont like you... there are 100 more people who would cry their brains out if you died!
you should IM me sometime and tell me the rest of this... check out my advice column... ur not alone believe me... IM me sometime
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I am going to answer this as if I were your best friend and not some stranger. The life that you come from is horrible. When your mother says those things, she means that she made a mystake, she just regrets not living the life that she had pictured. It is not your fault, dont ever think that. Your moms boyfriend needs some help. You need to get out of that house. Your baby needs a stable home, you need to get your self out, and get help to give that baby a life that you didnt get. You dont want her to grow up around people that are on drugs, she will just get raped as easily as you did. Email me and I can help you further. I am sixteen, and I am willing to help with what i can, even if that means helping you find a place to live.
Our home has always been open to teens and children who need somewhere to go. You always have food in your stomach, warm beds to sleep in and a roof over your head.
God Bless you hun.
Liz- my email is dare2dreambigthings@yahoo.com
-Your in my prayers=----name suggestion for the baby-if its a girl-mabel meaning M-others A-lways B-ring E-xtra L-ove.
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Oh my.
I really don't know what to say. You have to get help for yourself and your unborn baby. To get this help, you should find some sort of counselling programme within your city. They'll more than likely have the right people and resources to help you through this terrible time in your life.
If you ever need anyone to talk, my email is in my advice column.
I wish you luck.
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First, I am ver sorry that you have to go through this. It's really aweful. You need to get away from your parents. Do you have a friend or another family member who you could stay with? You also need to get help for yourself that fact that you are doing drugs and attemptind to kill yourself is very dangerous. You are obviously going through a very difficult time and you don't know how to deal with it so you turn to drugs like your parents do. You need to get away from that and get some help. I think that you should have the baby. If you can find a place to stay where you can take care of yourself and also get support for your baby then you should keep it. I think that it will be good for you and will give you more drive to take care of yourself. If you can't get somewhere to say where you can get help then you should give the baby up for adoption it will be better for you and will be more fair for the baby. No matter what you decide to do about it you need to stop doing drugs and attempting suicide. It is not only dangerous for you now it's dangerous for the baby.
I hope I helped and good luck...I hope things get better for you
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all i can really say is you're in something very serious and you need to seriouslyreport everything that happens to the police. this might sound sad and you migght not want to do this but either foster home or another family member is your only choice. you should probably get abortion because with what your parents do i wouldn't want to put my baby in danger. try and move with a friend or family member, get a job, do something to get away from your parents.
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well if i were u i would have the baby but i would but it in a foster home until i could take care of it. i wouldnt run away and stop trying to kill yourself! you are carrying a baby and for the babys sake take care of urself! stop using drugs to bcuz now ur not only killing urslef but also the baby. please be careful!
-Cierra
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