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Trick or Treating...
Okay, first let me say I'm going to be 17 in a week.
I've been friends with this one girl for the majority of both our lives. We used to go trick or treating every year, and she's going to want to go again this year, whereas I feel I'm too old, and I don't want to go. I know I need to tell her I don't want to go and not just make excuses, but something in me doesn't think she'll understand that I just don't want to walk around in a costume, yelling "TRICK OR TREAT" for candy.
I mean, I LOVE sugar. Seriously, I do - but I'm sick of trick or treating. How do I tell her I don't want to do this without hurting her feelings? 'Cause I know it's gonna bother her. Our friendship is sort of dwindling...sucks, but true. She's 17 too, by the way. Thanks in advance for the help.
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Sry to say, i would just do it :-P
its all good. And if you must, just make something up, like you gotta babysit or something. BUt something that doesnt involve any of your other friends cause then she could find out. good luck!
xo Me :-D
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tell her you would rather hangout and not go trik-or-treating. This way you are still with her but doing what you both want to do. hehe
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ok..Well..1st your never to old for anythin no matter what u say or others..and also you should tell her start out..holdin this in may make her alot happier an more anxious to go trick or treating..so tell before its to late an you feel guilty and then go...it wont be soo bad..but if you dont wanna and she does..then just tell her out ...she should under stand.and if she doesnt and its all mad or anythin then thas not a true frined...so tell her a..
hope i helped
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maybe you should just talk to her and say we can still dress up but lets not go trick or treating lets do something different this year you can go to a party or have a party or something. and if she gets mad then theres really nothing you can do she'll eventually get over it . im 16 and i still dress up but i jus usually go to parties and chill with friends n stuff cuz im gettin to old for that to0. hope i helped go0d luck!
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uhh lets see just be like hey i have plans i gotta go to this thing with my family or say another friends name
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Let your friend know that trick or treating is really fun, but you're just not into the idea so much this year. Tell her that adults might get a little annoyed at the fact that two teenagers are trick-or-treating, because it's usually an event for the kids. Also let her know that you still wanna hang out with her on Halloween. Suggest going to a friend's party, or having your own! You could also always just hang out with her eating candy and watching scarey movies at your house. You guys could even wear coustumes! Another good idea might be to hand out candy to trick or treaters. If she wants to you could put on an elebroate display with you two in witch costumes and a fake cauldron with dry ice or something like that. Let her help plan a different activity that both you and her could have fun with!
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just tell her that u still wanna hang out with her... but u think ur getting 2 old. find a party, go 2 a haunted house/trail, go 2 a freaky movie or have a couple friends over and rent scary movies... that 2 me is wayy fun even though i love candy 2... dosent mean u cant get ne.... or do something devious (like me and my friends would do) tp ur enemy's house (trust me its not illegal) and do something u both will remember... u can still dress up though! i'm 16 and i havent been trcik or treating for 2 years and i still dress up every year! just cuz its halloween! HoPe i HeLped yA! gOOd LucK!
xOxO, aLeX
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i think that ur friend will understand if u lay it out in the right way. first of all, excuses will lead u no where. they'll only make ur friend mor angry wen u tell her the truth. u shud tell her that u feel that ur too old to do it with her. maybe then she'll agree and feel stupid for wanting to do it and go with u. suggest sitting at home and watching scary movies while eating popcorn. or maybe throw/ go 2 a party with her. u can wear costumes then! hopefully she'll understand :)
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Well if you really don't want to go tell her that and tell her that you think your too old. Don't mention anything about her being to old though. But if you can't tell her that then why don't you just walk around with her while she trick or treats or whatever. I hope everything works out.
Good luck xoxo
<33 Brit
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You could try suggesting a party rather than trick-or-treating? She sounds like a good friend and I'm sure she'll understand and want to compromise. Or if she wants to really go, maybe you could go along with her for a while and then switch it up and head to a costume party or something.
Another idea would be to just head off to the store, buy tons of candy (it's SO cheap this time of year) and pig out in front of a good movie. You could put on a CD you both like afterwards and work off the sugar!
The gist of what I'm saying is - try to compromise but make it evident that you feel like you're growing out of trick-or-treating. Be honest with her. She'll understand.
♥ Lorelei
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