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black friend
I am not racest at all..but I have a problem..Okay well I have a really good friend..hes black..im white..I have liked him for about a month now..I really like him..hes all I think about! I found out a week ago that he liked me and wanted to go out with me..he even wrote the sweetest peom ever about me..I cant go out with him because my mom would flip if i went out with a black person..she just doesnt believe in black and white..and neither do some of my friends..It just wouldnt work..I really like this kid and I need to get over him! what should I do?! please help...
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Why get over him if you like him so much? Screw your friends! You dont need their approval! All that matters is that youre happy, and if he makes you happy, then the color of his skin shouldnt matter to you. Goodluck sweetie!
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i dont think its right for someone to actually say that black and white dont mix. If u really like him tell your mom how you really feel about him.tell her the goods things that he does,convice her that he is a good guy,and for her to let you go out with him..Or u can just go for it.because in the future your mom is not going to tell you who to go out with or marry..:) hope this works!!
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Okay, you don't need to get over him. All because your mom and your friends wouldn't like it doesn't mean you don't have to like an inter-racial relationship. Your on this earth to please yourself, and please others to an extent. If you really like him and he really likes you, then you should try it out. No matter how a person looks, that doesn't show who they are. My grandpa is white and he met my grandmother in Africa. Yea thats right, my grandfather married a Black woman. My grandfather's family at first didn't accept it, but then they grew used to it. So try it out. Talk to your mother about it. And remember, It doesn't matter if a person is black, white, green, or purple.. it matters about who they are. And your friends and family need to understand that. If they can't deal with it, tough.. You follow your heart, not their views. You are your own person. Good luck! Brittany
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I think you should go out with him anyways. Forget what everyone else says, if you love him and care about him, you should see what happens. You guys both really like each other so you should be able to get past all this. OR you could always just keep it a secret. I think its wrong NOT to go out with him. Good Luck and tell me what happens!!
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follow your heart . if you really like him and he's nice and careing it shouldnt matter about if he's black or not . your mother may just have diffrent thoughts and maybe if you show her the nice person he is than maybe she will except him
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Do you have a problem with mixing black and white? No? Then date him.
Colour is only skin deep, don't ruin your chances with someone YOU like because a few people are racist.
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Hey, who cares what other people think!! I say you should go out with him. If everyone finds out, who cares..Just tell them how much you like him and just because he's black, it doesn't matter. We're all the same color inside!!
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Look if u really like him ur friends and family shudnt get in the way bcuz of their beliefs. Plus if u really like him u shud go for it. Tell ur mom ho u feel and explain to her that race isnt nething. If ur friends get mad at u for ur beliefs then they rnt ur true friends. Good luck
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dong get over him. say screw you to mom and your friends, and date him. don't let race rule your life.
you might be surprised and find out that mom doesn't mind, and that your friends would be ok with it. there's no reason that they wouldn't be.
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wow. They dont "Believe" in it thats really sad. Well then just dont tell your mom or your friends who cant handle it. Say your just really good friends when you hang out in front of them. if you asked for her to accept him you could cause her more hate and stuff b/c she knew he wanted to go out with you. I cant believe this... sry its soo tough.
well inbox me~
xoxo
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who cares what other people think, its your life. me and my boyfriend are different races, we dont care. dont worry about it. it shouldnt matter what other people say or think because theyre not in your shoes.
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if you feel like u need to get over him than do so... but never judge sum1 based on their race... the same God that made you made him... & what does a color say... if you really want to be wit him... you can make it work it... trust me you can... u need to do what makes u happy... not what makes ur mom & friends happy... follow ur heart...
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I know exactly what you mean. I'm kinda outta that stage..but for like the past year, I thought black guys were like really really sexy. I went out w.a couple, but I kinda figured out that just because I thought they were sexy, didn't mean I liked them. People found out that I liked black guys and now everyone knos and it pisses me off because its not really true anymore and everyone is always like "You're the girl that likes black guys" and I'm like "Whatever leave me alone". But my friends always thought it was wrong. But you like him for him sooo..talk to your mom. She'll be the hardest one to convice black and white people going out is ok. No matter how heated the conversation gets..don't yell or make her too mad @ you, that'll just make things worse. What I would do is kinda play a little trick on your mom. Instead of TELLING her about liking this black guy..ask her for advice! Be like.."Mom...I need your advice on something..theres this guy named blah blah blah...and I really like him a lot..but hes black. I know you don't really want me to go out with black people and I don't think my friends do either. What should I do?" Instead of being mad @ you..she'll try to help you!! and if it doesn't work (*which I think it will..but it depends on your mom) to get over him..try to find someone else. Its hard but I think the best way to get over a guy is to see what other guys are out there and find one with qualities you like that this one didn't have.
=) HoPe I HeLpEd!
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Go out with him. Who cares what your mom thinks. All that matters is that you like eachother..race shouldent seperate you two. Hope I helped!
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