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Tell her the painful truth?
A friend of mine has recently put on some extra weight, yet she continues to wear the same clothes that are obviously to small for her. While in her bathing suit she said she didn't understand why it was so small, and that it must have shrunk. I don't know if she realizes the truth or if she is in denial.
I am her good friend, should I tell her the truth of what I am thinking, and if so how do I do it without hurting her feelings?
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give her some great new clothes that are the right size and maybe she'll understand y they fit her. or take her shopping wit u and give her the size she thinks she wears and the size she SHOULD wear and tell her that the one that fits her CORRECTLY looks soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo great on her. and that the other looks a little small. hope i helped!
~Reenie~
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just tell her i think we should hit the gym were both packing on sum flubber and go to the gym togeather!! x0x0 Kay
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heyy,
If u feel that u truely need to tell ur friend, then tell her straight out. if shes a good friend, she'll understand that u want to help. cuz i would want mi friend 2 tell me if i put on some extra pounds. wouyldn't u?
hope i can help
Good luck wit ur friend!
~`*TrUmPeTcHyK92*`~
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It is your duty to save the innocent eyes of the innocent people, and tell her to wear bigger sizes or maternity clothing. Not tube tops, not microminis, not thongs. Nothing peeves me like seeing big people in small clothing. Although if she was a hobo that couldnt afford clothing her soul might be redeemed. But that also makes so sense becaue hobos would not be the size of a whale so just no. Just tell her to buy bigger clothes, the world will thank you.
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Hi,
I understand you predicament but personally I would tell her. If you don't someone who will be far less sensitive may well do so. Try to be as gentle as possible BUT don't beat about the bush just come out and say it. If your friend chooses to tack offence and sulk theirs not much you can do but tell her you where not being unkind and told her because you are a friend. Its a risk you'll have to take.
Good Luck
Derfel
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i can't think of a way to tell her the news without making it seem like you're saying that she's fat, which you're not. i would say to just say to her "hey lets start a diet" or "lets start working out. itll be fun" that should work if she isnt aware about putting on the extra weight. hopefully after a few weeks or a month at least she'll be fitting into her old clothes and it'll be like nothing has changed at all.
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hm...yea that would be hard:-/ maybe you could just tell her that you want to go exercise sometime and maybe she should go along with you for the company? and whenever you're around her you can eat healthy foods. but if you really want to be straight up with her then juss confront her. tell her that you're not trying to be mean but she has been putting on a few pounds lately and that's why her clothes arent fitting her right. good luck with everything i hope i helped out at least a little bit
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you hsould tell her. just be like hunn, i dont mean this in a mean way, but you gained a couple of pounds.
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Well, one day when she's eating, slap her hand and tell her no.
Then tell her you think she's gaining weight, and the clothes she is wearing are totally last summer and hopefully, she's into fashion and she'll get some new ones, hopefully, in a bigger size.
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id tell her..,how is the question tho..right?? try telling her..."(name) we are really good friends and i dont wanna hurt you, but i have noticed that it looks like you put on a little weight..." or something along those lines...
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I know how you fell one of my friend gained some weight I didnt say anything now shes starving herself and she got really sick if you dont say anything now she going to realize it and start to do what my friend did..hoped i helped
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Tell her what you are thinking but in a nice way. Like saying Maybe you put on a little weight. Im sure she wants to hear the truth even if its bad.
xoxo chels
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Has your friend been acting differently lately, maybe she has been having some porblems with her family or something ask her if she is feeling ok but if she os fine just maybe tell her that the fit of her clothes may be a little different then she is used to or you could just butt out of it and let her decide what hse wants to wear!
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you could get her some clothes for her and a bathing suite just a couple sizes extra maybe she'll get the hint or maybe just hink oh wow u bought me clothes and they fit me! hope i helped.
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No, don't tell her. She obviously likes the way she looks, and thinks she looks good in those clothes. It's not really your place to say "hey, fatty, get bigger close, you look fugly." You shouldn't care what she looks like, actually.
~Laura~
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