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im a 15 year old guy. since i was 7 i wanted a serious relationship where id meet a girl in high school and marry her. now im in high school. i met a girl. and id love to marry her. but she doesnt like to think about commiting. i dont know what to do about. how to approach it. i wanna know if it can work between us, i wanna know if she could love me like i love her, eventally to the point where id be with her forever...
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Honestly i think you`re too young to be getting married. Maybe she thinks the same thing and thats why she doesn1t want to commit. If you wanna know if it would work, just keep going out w* her. Maybe she wants to wait until shes older b4 getting married.
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hey Mr.Confused,
i understand what your going through. im 13. and theres not that many guys round here to get in to serious relations...but hey your 15. give it time. slow down. when your 18 reconsider it to her. maybe she will have more feelings for it. but yea. sorry if i didnt help. i tried to :)
xox Manda xox
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You are 15 and love her but if she isnt into commiting maybe she isnt the one. Try to see if she is really really the person you love. see if you can or cant be without her for a few days and see how she acts about it too.
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wow you sound so sweet just give her sometime.. it'll help trust me
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No,I'm not suprised the lady doesn't want to commit yet. You're 15. She's younger and you've got your life ahead of you. Don't think about forever yet. Think about next Thursday's Chemistry test.
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*Whoa buddy. You're only 15. You will know when you find your life long partner. Just see how your relationship goes, she may not be the one for you and maybe all this committing is pressuring her.*
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Ok...you just have to ask her straight up face to face and be confident about it...she might freak out about it and leave or end the relationship and probably after she does that she will realize she still loves you and wants to be with you...maybe she wont want to get married but she might want to stay together. _-_-_Amanda-_-_-
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Hey! You know theres a whole lot ahead of you, so many girls, that will be even better than her. But i know what you mean. You are still young to commit you know? You have to ask her and be straight up about it, dont hessitate it. But it's weird most girls like to commit, guys are the ones scared of it.
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Most people in high school aren't really thinking about making commitments of getting married. I think if you mentioned to her about it and you were serious it would probably freak her out! Yall are kinda young?! .....brianna
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Let her know that u arent just messing around and u wanna have a serious relationship... if she seriously isnt up for it than u should move on... cuz u will get ur heart broken
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Your only 15..I dont blame her for not wanting to commit like that you guys are way too young.You have got plenty of time for that stuff.So Enjoy being young and having fun while you can..Trust me it goes fast!So dont rush into stuff like that because you will learn that it would be a huge mistake in your life!
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When ur in high school, u will meet so many different people. I had this convo with my mom already. U most likely won't spend the rest of ur life with someone u fall in love with during high school. Later on in ur life u will prolly feel this way about another girl too. Don't rush her into anything yet. Wait until shes ready to talk about it. Its prolly best for both of u.
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Well just sit her down and talk, Say "hunny i love you and i want to know if you can love me also?" Just tell her straight out that you love her and you want to be with her and that is all to it. Maybe you should go and ask pinklemonadestand this question because she has ALOT of experience with something like this! Trust me go and ask her about your problem.
-Juicy
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well ppl always say they want to marry their highschool sweetheart but it never turns out that way so dont get your hopes up to much..and i think you might be scaring her by bringing up marriage of all things rite away..give it some time let the love grow stronmger and thebn when you are about to graduate then think about marriage..you will have learned more about realationships and yourself by that time.hope i helped.
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well commitment is a very big step in a persons life ...maybe this girl isn't totally in love with you maybe she just loves you as a friend ...it's okay not everyone finds their soulmate in high school!! Don't worry u will find the right one ...don't rush ur teen years ..."their are many fish in the sea" ...but if you really feel this girl is for you than i say go for it and tell her how you feel about her ...if u rally think she is the girl!!
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she probably doesn't want to commit to marrige because she's FIFTEEN (I'm assuming) and talking about marriage at that age can cause a lot of problems amongst her family. she might think that because you guys are always together that she won't be able to have any social life with her friends, or she doesn't feel as strongly about you as you do about her. please IM me at xheslooking4sx because I'd like to here more about this...
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You are 15. You have plenty of time to find that special someone in your life. If she's not ready to think about that kind of stuff yet, don't force her into it. If you guys are dating, just take it one step at a time at the pace that she is willing to take it. Get to know her a little better. Giver a few years and maybe she will be ready for a commitment. Find out what she likes to do and take her there. Find out what things she likes and if it is affordable, get them for her. Make her happy and be sensitive to her emotions. That's the way to get to a girl that you really like.
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Yes. One day, you will find someone who wants to marry you.
Before you can get to the point of thinking about marriage - or having a fulfilling marriage - you need to want to be with someone because you love them, not because you love the idea of marriage.
Honestly, you are not going to marry this girl. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but at 15 you are not in a position mentally, emotionally, or financially to be able to make a success of marriage.
I'd spend the next ten years of your life exploring yourself and the people you date - figure out why you so badly want to get married. Did something happen in your childhood such as your parents getting divorced?
Marriage is not a solution to a problem; marriage is wonderful, but it can bring along problems you have never imagined. Your girlfriend is smart to not want to be thinking about committing to marriage at this point in her life - if you want your relationship to succeed, focus on the healthy parts of it.
If you push for too much, too soon, you'll have nothing left to show for it. You've got so much you need to do before you can have a good marriage - finishing school, going to college, getting a good job, exploring the world. If you get married too young, you won't be able to find your true self. And if a lesser version of you gets married, it's not fair to you OR the girl involved.
I promise that one day you will find love, happiness, and all your wildest dreams. But for now, focus on being a teenager.
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