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Should I believe them??
This question has to do with my boyfriend again. We've only been dating for 4 days, but have known each other for about a month. We talk even before we were dating every night for like 3 hours on the phone. So far, he treats me so great and I dont have any reason not to trust him. Let me add now that he is friends with my father and alot of my Dads friends. Well, he sometimes talks about marriage, which scares me a bit, but I honestly could see myself marrying him. Anyway, to get to the point, I was told tonight by 2 different people, my ex boyfriend and my best friends sister that I hate & she hates me, that my boyfriend has probably already cheated on me & that I need to keep an eye on him beacause he likes to cheat. Im really scared because, what if they are right. But considering the people that told me I dont know if I should believe them. I really like this guy am Im scared that if I say anything about what I heard that he will be pissed at me. What should I do? Should I say something to him & if so, what? Please let me know ASAP, I need to figure this out before he calls me later on tonight!!!
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Okay. First of all, if you really like someone, then of course you'll think you could marry them someday. Try to have some objectivity, though.
You don't even know him well enough to know if you can trust him or not.
You have been hurt in the past, and that could be making you paranoid. The person telling you he's cheating could be lying - after all, people who you've dated or who hate you have a reason to do so. Why would you listen to an ex who broke your heart, anyway?
You can't trust someone automatically after only four days of dating. It's up to you to decide whether you want to spend more time getting to know this guy - if you are genuinely concerned he could be cheating on you, then the only thing to do would be to confront him.
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It's great that you found a guy you love, and it's natural to be afraid of the whole marriage angle.
Now think about the people who told you he was cheating: your ex could still have feelings for you and just be trying to get you to freak out about your relationship with this guy. Or he could just be trying to make you unhappy, if he's one of the mean types of exes.
Your best friend's sister hates you. She could easily be attempting to convince you that he'd cheat on you to make you feel bad and unhappy.
Don't worry so much abut what other people tell you. Worry about what YOU think, deep down. Do you believe he's cheating on you? Is there any reason to suspect he is? If not, relax. He's probably being true to you.
You can talk to him about it if you want, and tell him what you think. Just tell him you need to know he's being true to you - he should be able to reassure you.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)
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umm im guessing by the two people who told you, its probably not true. Either they are in it together to try and get you two to break up so that either she can have that guy or your ex boyfriend can have you. Or else your sisters best friend just hates you and wants you mad, and your ex boyfriend is jealous. One of those things is what im thinking is going on, but however dont forget about what they said...next time you talk to him be like "have you ever cheated on anybody tell me the truth" and see what he says, and if he has cheated on someone then you need to be really careful!
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Ok. Sounds like the two ppl are jus tryna get u guys to break up so ur bestfriends sister can have him. Just to be on the safe said ask ur bf say sumthin like " Ive been told that u cheated on me wit my best friends sister, is it true??" Hope i could help!:-D
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You need to ask him before just jumping to conclusions about things and i mean if you like this guy and all i mean i think that you should take what he says cause you getting advice for people that you relaly dont get along with and all and by doing that your misjudging your bf
talk to him before doin nething
-Cass-
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hey! just be honest with him! and if he loves you he will be honest with you too! just say u've heard rumors that you don't think are true but u want to make sure. and you dont like hearing things like that even if they arent true.. who does? and about the marriage things tell him u arent ready to talk about it yet even though it could be an option a long way down the road. dont rush things, you need to get to know him better (especially if u think he may be cheating on you!!) just take ur time, nothing good ever comes from moving too fast! if u need ne thing else just let me know! i hope i helped some..
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I think later on, u should talk to him about wat u heard.. but DON'T accuse him of anything. Just tell him that a former friend of ur's said this, and u positively don't believe her.. but u do have a little doubt.. He should understand u, and if he's worth marrying, he'll tell the truth!
*Mayya
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hey hun!! i really doubt hes cheating. Its hard to cheat or dump someone when you know there family and friends. But there is still a chance so dont completly kill the thought. Dont take action on what you heard. Wait a while see what happens or if you hear this again then do somthing about it depending what you hear!!! good luck and dont freak about it!! xoxo tere
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well i think u should tell him and u should always b honest wit him.. especially since u think tat ull marry him.. but let me remind u.. every single bf i had i thought i was gonna marry n we were only together for weeks or months.. n u've only been wit this kid 4 4 days.. so dont really rush into n e thing.. but they could b lying but wat i learned from my current bf is tat u shouldnt believe wat ppl tell u.. becuz ppl always talk syt and wanna butt into ur relationship.. trust ur bf.. n talk to him! tell him wats up n tell him hoiw u feel.. ask him if wat u heard is tru n to tell u the truth! well gud luk xoxo angie
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