ok im 13/f..i have a boyfriend that wants to do "stuff" like..he wants a h/j and stuff but im not really ready..hes expecting it though like tomorrow or something. PLEASE help :'(..idk what to do..
aLLyAtYoService answered Sunday August 1 2004, 11:50 am: I think you should just tell him the truth. Tell him you aren't ready and w/ more time your decision might change. He should understand that and if he doesn't then maybe he isn't worth keeping! hehe...well hope i helped you ;) ally [ aLLyAtYoService's advice column | Ask aLLyAtYoService A Question ]
xo_dream answered Sunday August 1 2004, 1:02 am: Just tell him that you're not comfortable with that just yet and you need time. He should understand, and if he doesn't, he's not worth it. Don't do anything you're not ready for. [ xo_dream's advice column | Ask xo_dream A Question ]
xShAdYzBaBi3x answered Saturday July 31 2004, 11:35 pm: Dont Do Anything your NOT ready for!! Take your time.. Tell him ur not ready.. and if he tries to convice u into doing wat he wants u 2 do .. DUMP HIM!! yOu dont need him!! <3<3<3 [ xShAdYzBaBi3x's advice column | Ask xShAdYzBaBi3x A Question ]
BlueEyedBlondie725 answered Saturday July 31 2004, 11:21 pm: Thats what sucks in relationships, they want you to do stuff, and you're like noooooooo!!! lol. Its so tough huh? But, if you're not ready, then don't do it. No one can force yourself to do it, not even your boyfriend. I mean if you really not ready, you're only 13 anyways, then don't do it. If your boyfriend likes you and cares about you, he'll wait til you're ready! And if he does expect it, just be like "I'm sorry, I'm just not ready to do that kind of stuff yet, once I am, we can do that kind of stuff." Just say something like that. Hope this helps!
GoDdeSsOfEveRyThInG answered Saturday July 31 2004, 11:15 pm: Thats the hardest part of a relationship, if yall date for quite some time, they expect to get some "stuff" in return. Dont force yourself to be ready and to grow up by tomorrow, nothing is worse than a boyfriend who pressures you or makes you feel quilty for not doing it. Honestly, you are very young. I didnt even kiss yet then, but the generations are growing up so quickly :-/
Anyways, please dont let him pressure you into anything you dont want to do. Stand your ground, be proud of yourself when you dont do it, and let him no straight up you arent going to give him a hand job or anything else. Be strong and confident!! Good luck sweetheart!! Tell me how it goes!
brit_430762004 answered Saturday July 31 2004, 10:59 pm: kissing is ok but try not to go any farther ok ihad promblems like that to but i handled it my self so tell him that your not ready and your to yonug and if he leaves you he just whated to get in your pants so keep your legs closed k i am 12 so be careful of what you do ok e-mail me ok brit_430762004@yahoo.com [ brit_430762004's advice column | Ask brit_430762004 A Question ]
MainMan2230 answered Saturday July 31 2004, 10:32 pm: If your not ready then you really dont need help you have already told yourself you dont want to do this just yet and that maybe in the future you do. Just tell him He'll understand, and if he doesnt then he was just in it for the sex anyways so your better off without him. HOpe i could help [ MainMan2230's advice column | Ask MainMan2230 A Question ]
saxplayer0509 answered Saturday July 31 2004, 9:45 pm: first of all ur waaaay to young for that. and if u dont want to do it then just tell him ur not ready and taht u want to take things slow if he doesnt accept that answer hes not a good boyfriend and should find someone better. so dont let him force u to do it u are ur own person and make ur own decisions. [ saxplayer0509's advice column | Ask saxplayer0509 A Question ]
ballerina04 answered Saturday July 31 2004, 9:40 pm: hun, don't do it if you aren't ready. tell him that you don't want to. if he keeps insisting, you might want to break up with him. a guy isn't any good if he makes u do something you don't want to do. best of luck!!! come talk to me if you need more help. i'm here for ya
HyperactiveMiss answered Saturday July 31 2004, 9:32 pm: Hmm. Explain to your boyfriend that you're not ready. If he keeps insisting, just stick to the plain and easy answer: NO. If he still keeps on insisting, you should break up with him because no good boyfriend would push you into doing things you don't want to do. I hope it works out. [ HyperactiveMiss's advice column | Ask HyperactiveMiss A Question ]
dancergal1024 answered Saturday July 31 2004, 9:31 pm: deffinitely DO NOT DO IT if your not ready tell him and if breaks up with you then you know hes a jerk if he doesnt and understands then hes an okay guy dont let him convince you to though because thats awful make sure he understands that you arent ready yet... [ dancergal1024's advice column | Ask dancergal1024 A Question ]
soljette answered Saturday July 31 2004, 9:25 pm: dont do it. youre too young to be sexually active. seems to me that you dont even really want to do anything with him. trust your instincts and dont do it. wait til youre a bit older or so, or atleast when you know YOU are ready to be sexually active. if he doesnt understand the fact that you dont want to do "stuff" then forget him. you can get someone better, who will respect you as a person and care about how you feel [ soljette's advice column | Ask soljette A Question ]
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