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controlling boyfriend
what do i do about a controlling boyfriend? my boyfriend is allowed to mess around and talk to girls but im not allowed to talk to guys! i found this so unfair and everyone thinks he has total control over me because when we break up, and he asks me back out, i always say yes. is it because i'm weak or i'm just under his little 'spell'?
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first thing i have to say is HOLY CRAP, GIRL! i think i would have been put in prison for attempted murder if my boyfriend EVER EVER EVER did crap like that to me. why do you say yes??? my friend was in the same situation as you, but i talked to her and said " next time he asks you back, imagine all the times he's ever hurt you and multiply that by ten and you'll see how much its going to hurt this time and PLUS you will feel so dumb because im right and he will never change... oh and if you go back out with him ill beat you with my shoe" so read that to yourself, because i think its damn good advice and i also think you deserve so much better, cupcake.
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honestly a lotta girls are like that... but u need to have more respect for yourself cuz you dont deserve to be treated like that...learn to say no and keep sayin it...
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it seems to me that ur boyfriend has u right where he wants u where he can get away with anything but u cant get away with anything at all u should be able to talk to guys without ur boyfriend getting mad next time u guys break up if he asks u back out u should just say no cuz im sure u can get a man that is so much better than him.
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I would get as far away from him as i can guys like that are no good take it from someone like my mom she stayed with this guy for like 5 years and he beat her until she is now paralyzed hes in jail but he controlled everything she did and didnt do it got so bad that one night he beat her until she was clinically dead but she was only in achoma she got better and got over it but she is now paralyzed and has serious depression issues..hope i help and let me know whats going on
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Um....ok you have got to set this straight with yer bf!! TEll him that if he can do all of that stuff n so can you! And if he says no then say well maybe you n me werent meant to be!
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Okay, well 1st of all what do you mean you are "not allowed". YOU are allowed to do whatever you want, your boyfriend, is just what he is, YOUR BOYFRIEND, not your parent, not your master, not an authority. You can not let any man control. Once they know they can they take advantage. Maybe it is good to not mess around with other guys becuase it is respectful towards your boyfriend, but you don't have to do jack, just because he says so. And he should be a little more respectful and not mess around with other girls either. If you think you're weak, then you need to stopp it, if he breaks up with you, do not take him back. Leave him alone. As a matter a fact, I would kick him to curb right now. A man who controls you is no good. Move on and find someone who respects and doesn't treat you like his dog. And don't ever let a man control you, or anyone for that matter. You make your decisions. No one else. Good Luck! :)
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nOoO...yOu need tO break up with him. yOu shOuld always have the same rights in a relationship. Girls *&* Guys. and yOu never knOw what a cOntrOlling boyfriend can lead tO. abuse, death, anything. and dOn't risk it. its nOt that yOur weak but you must like him, but being cOntrOlled isn't wOrth it.
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its both. u need to stand up for yourself..no matter WHO is trying to controll you! tell him straight out how you feel; even if he has to deal with it. u seem to be under a spell--break away from it! this guy is either a control freak or desperatly, constantly worries and cares TOO much about you. why do you say yes? you have every right to talk to who you want in ur life, dont let this guy take that away from you. either talk to him or set urself free.
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You definatly shouldn't let him treat you like that. That is such an unhealthy thing to do, you shouldn't be putting yourself through that kind of hell. I say you tell him off. Tell him exactly what you told us.
Why do you keep saying yes? I don't think it's because you're weak or under his spell. You may be a relationship addict. That is somewhat of a bad thing, it means that you depend on someone else to make you happy, and therefore, always go back to the same old boyfriend, even if he is a jerk.
But stand your ground. You can't let yourself be controlled by someone who doesn't deserve you.
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break up with him and lose all thought about him. a controlling boyfriend could end up being very dangerous. be strong if he asks u out again, if u must, keep repeating no.
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controlling boyfriends are definitely a NO NO! haha that sounds bad, but i've see so many of my friends with them, and i hate it. and all of my friends went running back to them. in one situation, the girl ended up being so "under his little spell" that he started beating her after a while! talk it over with him again, and if he still isn't going to let you be free, then end it IMMEDIATELY! stay his friend, but be strong! don't go running back to him! there is someone special waiting for you out there, so although its going to be really hard, just wait for another special guy! i hope i helped!:D goodluck
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okay hunni if he is controlling then you need to dump him for good this time...you prolly go back to him because you love him but you need to dump him him and try to get over him as hard as it may be u havta do it cuz if hes controling you like that hes no good and you can do better than him...good luck..<3
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tell him that he should trust you enough to be able to talk to guys without fooling around or nething!! but hes allowed to mess around with girls??u should tell him that if u cant he cant!! *hope i helped* <3/Dakota
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honestly - dump him. He's pulling a double-standard on you. He can do whatever, you cannot. That's crap.
You need to stop falling for this guy. He's clearly taking advantage of you, and what's worse is that you see to know it. Stop letting him manipulate you.
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