Hi my names is Samantha and i am here to do what i do best-Give advice. Ive done alot in my short lifetime so far and i hope that the mistakes i made or even the good things that ive done could make an impact on some peoples decisions. When I was 13 I was deeply in love with a 16 year old and went out with him for 2 years-through that relationship i found out what love wasnt and it was not him .After he dumped me I went to an all time low and i attempted suicide-I failed and im here now and i am happier then i ever have been..And through my 10 day visit to the hospital, I have realized what my life is about, and what I would like to accomplish in my short lifetime.Hopefully you will trust in me to give u the most honest and trustworthy advice that I can give and at the same time have a friend that you can come to when you just need someone to talk to, I am always here, and am eager to help. So why dont You Holla at me and I will do what I can to help.
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I have only gotten my eyebrows waxed twice. Today was my 2nd time and I got them done at 1:30. It is now 2:37 and they are still red. I have a party to go to at 5:30. My question is, will they still be red then? I need a fast answer! (link)
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It probbably wont go away by 5:30 I would say to just try and put makeup on it. Or just tell people when u get there that you got them done, its not embarasing it just hygeine i wouldnt worry too much about it... Also the more you get it done ( once every 3 weeks is what i do) The nerve endings get nummer and it doesnt hurt as much, and it heals quicker...hope i helped
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hello im trying to get my wife pregnant. she has already had two kids before we got married. i have never had any kids and need some advise on what to do. (link)
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I would look on the internet and maybe book stores on different "pregnancy positions" as they are called, I've heard that there are actually sexual positions that you can try that will help in the process of getting pregnant. Try to plan a romantic evening, and give her a massage and stuff to help her relax. Also try to have sex alot when she is ovulating. Their are actually kits that you can buy at drugstores or walmart that will tell you when is the best chance to get pregnant...It could take a while so I wouldnt get discouraged. It could take a couple years. If in a while you are not pregnant I would go to a fertility specialist and see if your sperm count is good, if not ask what you can do to raise it, and other options..hope i helped
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okay so tonight my bf and i were in the hott tub.. kinda fooling around. no we didnt have sex. But i did end up getting alittttleee excited and i think he did too. But it was all touching n stuff. ANYWAY.. its pretty silly buttt is there anyway i could possibly get pregnant if he did ejaculate? i mean theres cylorine.. and stuff. but idk. just wanted to see if theres a possible chance.
dont be lame with your answers. its not a joke. An honest answer would be greatly appreciated.
5 for whoever can tell me. (link)
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No way!!! Dont worry any question You ask isnt dumb or lame or whatever, If You dont know something why not ask. Anyway back to the answer, No You cannot get pregnant when the sperm is in the hot tub, If the sperm hits the air its dead, and as long as he wasnt in you, then you are alright. Another thing Dont think that if he pulls out that you cant get pregnant, He pre cums in you before the big finish so there is still a chance that you could get pregnant, You should probbably look into birth control pills, they are great!!
Hope i helped ya,
Samantha
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well me and my boyfriend had sex and after we did i checkd to see iof the condom was broken but it ws not. i want to know if there is any chance that i am pregnant and i am very worried and need ur help. (link)
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If the condom didnt brake, then You cant be pregnant. Condoms are about the only thing that protects you from getting pregnant more so than birth control pills and everything else. I would say that you are alright. Sorry it took so long to answer you, ne ?'s email me babycakes9357@yahoo.com
Sammi
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Hi all I need help My wife and I have been married for 28 years have a good relationship but we have a few problems. one is when I play softball in the summer she does not like it when all the guys get together and drink beer or go back to the bar for a beer, I have to tell you that I am not that fond of beer but it is fun to get together after, I find myself just leaving after the game just to avoid a fight with her is it a major thing that I would like to stay for a quick beer and just hang around I personally do not see anything wrong but she hates it.. what should I do thanks... (link)
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Maybe she thinks that you arent giving her enough attention??? Try sitting down with her and talking with her about the issues that you are feeling, It could be that she is insecure with herself and thinks that you would rather spend time with your friends than with her..Tell her shes beautiful and do something spontaneous like make reservations at her fav resteraunt or cook her her fav food and sit her down and talk to her about whats going on and explane to her that everyonce n a while u want to go out with the guys and u want to know why she feels the way she does, I know i dont like it when my boyfriend drinks because my dad was an alcoholic so discuss the issues with her, another idea would be to invite the guys back to your home to hang out and drink-maybe shed be more comfortable if she knew you were at home...hope i helped let me know!
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hi
i think i might have mild depression.
i have bn reading about it on the web and most of the symptons match up to wat im feeling so does this mean im depressed?
i just feel so lonely n isolated in my own little world and i cut my self sum times.. not so it bleeds though just enuf to make the pain disapear.
can some one please tell me wat to do because i dont want any one to know, especially my family because i dont exactly get on with them. my friends wont help either..
sorry its long.. i rate 5's (link)
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Well I sortof had the same problem and am going through it a little right now- I dont cut myself but I am getting over depression. I started to see a therapist and because I dont have a job she waved the fee because I have no source of income. I would try to talk to someone that u trust-or find a therapist that could help you. Why do you think you are depressed?? I was depressed because since I was little ive had to be the role of "mom" and daughter for my father, and now I dont know how to get over it... I dont get along with most of my family either so i try to write in a notebook and let everything out. That might help you but id like to know whats bothering you- email me or IM me @ babycakes9357 on Aim and babycakes9357@yahoo.com is my email I want to help so let me know if i can. You can talk to me.. hope to hear from u soon
Sam
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my boyfriend of 9months has recently started smoking weed and hes always telling me how his parents dont trust him now because they are so suspicious that he smokes. and whenever he asks them if he can come to my house they say no because they dont even trust him. i love my boyfriend to death i just hate that he smokes. he doesnt try to make me smoke or nothing, but its soo dangerous and he knows i dont like it and he doesnt do it around me or nothing..but he talks about it and it just like kills me to know he is hurting himself...i tryed talking to him about it...what can i do? (link)
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you need to talk some more about it and tell him why u think its so bad and why his parents are so suspicious i mean they have a reason too be, i would sit down and talk about where this relationship is going because after a while he will become dependent on the drug- my boyfriend did drugs when we first started going out but he stopped bc of me and he hasnt done anything in 3 years so really just talk to him and let him know whats up and maybe he will shape up and listen to you but if he starts to disrespct you or he would rather get high then come c u then i would leave him now and get someone who love you and respects you hope i helped let me know what happends!!
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im 15 and my penis is bent a lot to the right
and more when i get an erection im a bit worried
is this normal? (link)
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well im not a guy so i dont know for sure if it is normal or not but im sure that theres nothing wrong with u...Ive heard about other cases like on tv or other programs of a guy whos penis was a little crooked or bent or whatever, so its not just u... I would try to find a guy on here and ask him and see if he tells u any different...hopw i helped n sorry if i didnt any questions about girls or a girls body then ill hook u up definitly...thanks for askin
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Ok my situation might be retarded but see me and my bf have been going out for 11 months and he wants to "do the dirty" but he doesnt want to use a condom he says it takes the fun out of it for him but i dont want to get pregnet would birth control pills be just as good protection as a condom? (link)
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Well take it from me b/c ive been there already..the smart thing to do is to wait but if ur like me n u really feel right when ur with him then i would do it, but be smart about it. I would use a condom but if ur not going to use a condom the next best thing would be birth control..Birth control has a 99.5% effictive rate so theres a really low chance of u getting pregnant. But they dont protect from STD's or AIDS and a condom will if used correctly. Birth control is what i use but i know that my boyfriend is clean because we got tested together before we had sex...so maybe thats something to look into before u do it...hope i helped and just remember if he wont ware a condom or if he wont go get tested then he prob just wants u for ur body.
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my ex... i miss him... even tho he was such a big jerk... i need tips on getting over him... any ideas? things to do? ANYTHING. please and thank you. so much. bye all! (link)
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keep urself busy and do things that u love to do...that always helps also write down how u feel in a journal that will help u get thoughts off ur brain and kind of clears up on how u really feel-trust me it really works.. I went out with a guy for 2 years and he dumped me out of the blue for no reason-I wrote probbably 3 journals full of stuff and now looking @ them i realize that i was stupid to even let him treat me like that...hope i help ya let me know how it goes...
Ps another thing is to hang out with people u love and talk about it-ur not gonna get over him by sitting around watchin tv n eating ice cream and crying!! get out and do stuff n ull feel better b4 u know it!
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Well me and this boy have known each other for about 2 years now .. At first he liked me alot alot and i wasnt really feeling him so then i kissed him and then i started to fall for him we met up with each other how ever we could and we would go some where to make out well the problem is with that he is black and im white .. People at school started to find out that we made out and thats when he wasnt really feeling me anymore just bcuz people were running their mouths well we still talk on the phone and we still try and meet to make out and its good and im still so head over heels with him but he has a girl friend but he cheats on her with me! He calls me makes out with me .. But when school comes around he doesnt talk to me much cuz his girl is in school .. UGH! Does he like me or is he using me .. HELP?!?!?!?! (link)
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Well it sounds like hes using you,because y else would he still have a girlfriend and y else would he not talk to u while ur in school. Thats a little shady and i would call him out @ school n c what he says...if u realize that hes using u tell his girlfriend bc im sure that she thinks hes like this perfect guy (same as u) so do what u think is best but on the real if a guy will only talk to u on his time and ignores u the rest of the time he aint worth it and obviously he aint cus if he cheats on his girlfriend wit u what happends if ur together-how would that make u feel?? goodluck let me know what goes down
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Me and my gf broke up and like a week after we broke up she wrote this really sweet note in her journal to my future gf telling them basicly that they should never let me go and that i was this really sweet and awsome guy. was it wrong for me to break up wit her sometimes i get confused. (link)
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Well it depends on y u broke up!! If it was just a mutual thing then maybe give it another try b/c its obvious shes still digging u n its gr8 that she would do that b/c most girls wouldnt want to even associate with the new girl ya kno what i mean so maybe she is a keeper but u just have to evaluate it urself and find out whats best for you!! If she makes u happy and u guys have fun together i would go for it and be with her again b/c who doesnt want those kinds of people in there life-just think n tell me how it goes...goodluck...
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okay im 16/f n im a virigin
ive have known ma man for 3 1/2 years and he really wants to do it and so do i.but im so scared b/c its my 1st time and im so scared of gettin pregnant. he told me that we will use a condom and everything but still im not 100% sure.can anyone tell me how can i be 100% sure that i will not get pregnant. (link)
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i would get put on birth control and then use a condom and theres no way u can get pregnant. atleast its never been recorded that both the birth control and the condom failed...as for the condom breaking u wont want him to go fast ur first time so dont worry about it
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I just found out that if you have anal sex that if you have anal sex then your not a virgin! is that really true? and..i wanna no if a guy cums while his penis is in a gurl (during anal) can she still get pregnant..and if the girl gets cum on her front side and doesn't whip it off right away can she get pregnant? hurry I need to know!!!
PLEASE I NEED SOME ANSWERS!!! (link)
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Well anal sex is called anal sex for a reason and it is sex that just means ur not a virgin to anal sex...Yes u can get pregnant during anal sex because its still sperm being released inside of you..The only way that u can get pregnant when the cum is left on u is if it gets into ur vagina and the sperm swim up to your uterus (not likely) also sperm die when they come in contact with oxygen..So if he cummed inside you when u have anal then theres a good chance that you could be pregnant my advice is to get a pregnancy test if you dont get your period but if its only been a day or 2 since uve had sex then go get the emergency pill from your docter but do it like tommorow b/c it only works within 72 hours* or 3 days! hope i helped let me know
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If a person is 14, do u think their 2 young 2 have sex? (link)
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I lost my virginity when I was 14 and im fine so i dont think that your too young..Its really all about what you feel inside if u find a guy that u are comfortable with and treats you right and that u can be with for awhile i would do it-u will know when the time comes wether or not u want to do it...hope i helped got ne other questions ask me i can help
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Ok i personally love the SURF look.. even tho i havent surfed yet ((gr)) but i love the look. I like to shop at Pacsun and stuff but can anyone give me like steps to a true surf look.. like hair, makeup (if any), clothes from head to toe in detail. Thanks, i appreciate the help.. and can anyway give me any other good stores surf style besides PacSun.. thx and this qu. is for people who would know.. please dont leave an answer saying i have no clue or surfers suck or something mean like that. (link)
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Well take it from a surfer Pacsun does have alot of surfer clothes but the look should be simple like a pair of billabog boardshorts with a simple tank and maybe like a matchin von dutch hat- makeup usually is simple like just lip gloss and waterproof mascara-on occasion i ware eyeliner but i go surfing alot so i usually dont ware eyeliner...what you should do is take up the sport its really relaxing and really good for your body..there are surfcamps all over the place go to http://www.adventure-camp.com/Surfing.htm and that will tell u where surf camps are around ur area if there are any...hope i help goodluck surfin!!
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what is 69? i heard someone mention it before and there is a little poem on gonebuddy.com that says roses are read violets are blue ill be the 6 if youll be the 9 or sumthin like that ..... but i have no idea what it is (link)
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69 is when a girl puts her vagina over the guys mouth and he eats her out and she lays stomach to stomach on the guy and she gives him head while he eats her out...or vise versa the guy can lay on top of the girl but its usually dont girl on top of guy. hope i cleared something it all up for you-need to know ne thing else just ask!! if ur embaressed IM me on AIM @ babycakes9357 n ill help!
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Hey I was just wondering what kind of shampoo's work the best, I wanna have a nice, straight look with not that many frizzy's if its possible.. lol thanks! (link)
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Hey i personally use Paul mitchell shampoo called the wash and conditioner called the detangler my hair is super fine and i get frizzys too and that really helps if u dont wanna spend 20 buxs on shampoo then use Dove shampoo and conditioner i found that that is the best kind that u can get at Walmart or a place like that-theres also this stuff called frizz ease bye john frieda that u can get at walmart that will help with frizz..to make it straight u can round brush it straighten it or iron it for techniques Ask post a ? on my column hope i helped
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I have light brown hair and I want to temp. dye it. Has anyone with darker hair (not blonde, or dirty blonde) ever tried this? if yes... what color did u use and what did u mix it with to make it stay in your hair? (link)
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I would love to help I have dirty blonde hair and i highlight it and would dye it if i were you but if u have your heart settled on dyeing it then i would try herbal essence hairdye cus it doesnt smell and it goes on great also theres natural instincts by clairol and then theres this one called loreal something or other but its got a dye and a highlight in it...u dont usually mix it with ne thing to make it stay in but for maximum life of the dye consider getting it professionally dyed-it will be more expensive but it will prob last longer and turn out better..all the above colors in a box dyes are like 6-15 $ at Walmart or Walgreens
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me and this dude has been going on and off for about two years and i love him too death he's my everything. But theres a problem he does stuff that i really dont like, hes not cheating or w/e hes just doing something i think he shouldnt be doing, he says he loves me but right now he has to do what he has to do, since hes been doing that i really dont get to see him as often as i used to, so i feel really bad about this but i cheated on him and i have NEVER done that and i am afraid hes going to find out and then the two years of emotions will be gone, this dude is everything to me and he is the only one that has that special place in my heart and always be the one for me but what if he finds out? :'( (link)
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Well i can tell that you are upset and i can also tell u love him and u have to define what he does that u dont like it could be a bunch of things-if its something that is illegal then my advice would be to talk to him about it and tell him how much u care about him and how much u want to be with him but what he does really bothers you and u need to tell him that u did something with someone else cause wouldnt u want him to tell u if he did something with someone??-take it from me i dont do drugs but my boyfriend did and he sold them he got into alot of trouble with it and he loved me but i wouldnt go out with him unless he stopped now weve been together for 2 years and hes been clean for that long...So talk to him and explain how much u love him and that u dont want to be on and off u want to be with him and no 1 else-if u can prove that to him n talk to him about his issues then maybe u can help him to get help and he will thank u in the long run for sticking by him like i said i dont know what his problem is but if u want to talk more IM me on AIM @ babycakes9357 and i promise i will help u figure this out hope i helped on here if like to talk to you more though i really think i can help...hope everything gets better for you!! xo *Sam
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