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Me, and my friend have been fighting alot. Lets just say her name is ellie, well ellie and me have been best friends since the 3rd grade, so now thats about 4 years of being best friends. but now shes starting to get a little bossy, saying stuff like im getting to comfertable with her family like i dont say thank you enough. that kind of stuff tho i am fine with. but this morning she started to say that i was getting to comfertable again, and saying was acting really bitchy and all i did was i was hangin out with her brother, and her neighbor, but i was leaving her out. But besides this morning shes been fighti with me over a lotta little thing, and im starting to get really stressed out. i dont kno wut to do anymore. PLZ PLZ PLZ HELP ME. should i break the friendship, or try to work with it. im starting to feel like i cant breathe.
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Dont ruin a good friendship over something so small. I mean yalll been friends for a while and I think it would hurt both of yall just to see yall fall apart like that over something so Small.
-Stephanie
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well i think what you need to work it out. Uve been friends to long to ruin a great friendship. SO i think wat you need to do is talk to her. Maybe there is supthin goin on that you dont understand. Just dont jump to conclutions. u never know whats happinin in her life. I think maybe u need to have a conversation and straighten everything out with her. Good Luck
*MelodY
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oh my sounds exactly like me n one of my best friends!! well 1st you need to talk to her about it!! and is she gets all pissed of anything dont say anything back just ignore it and start habgin out with some of your other friends! n tell her weather she chooses to be your friend or not she is gonna have to get use to still seein you cuz you can still hang out w/her brother and neigbor w/out her... but just let her know u dont want yalls friendship to end... still call her up at times just for a lil bit give her space and let her relize how she is treatin you!! but make sure you tell her how you feel or she wont know she is doin anything wrong!! well i hope i helped!!
xoxoxoxo -Kayla
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ii have had the same prOblems...talk to yOur friend abOut wut is making yOu mad and tell her that yOu feel like yOu can't breathe...maybe yOu twO shOuld spend a lil less time tOgether...Or take a break frOm eachOther...hOpe i helped!!
-sOccerXstar023
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one word... JEALOUSY! "Ellie" is jealous because she wants your full attention and instead she is only getting some of it. Your leaving her out sometimes to hang out with others and she wants all of you to herself. Talk to her and tell her that your getting stressed out and see what she says. Hopefully you guys will be able to work things out and stay friends since you have been for so long. Try working on your guys' friendship and if you still wanna break the friendship then I'd suggest doing it gradually so she doesnt explode or whatever. Good Luck! plz rate me
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I had this problem too. I think you should sit down with her to have a talk. Something might be going on in her life that she is taking all her anger out on you. When my friend did this to me, I ignored her. Then one day she asked me to come over and she was a cool again. You should just ignore her and she might calm down alittle. This could also be a lot of PMS!
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Hey! Just sit down and tell her your concerns and feelings. Maybe then she can tell you what her concerns and feeling are also. I hope everything works put w/ you and your friend. ~Kali
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well, if you guys have been friends since 3rd grade, you guys have changed alot....i'm sorry to say it, but i think you guys have grown out of each other, you could try to make the friendship work, try talking to her about why she feels this way toward you, and if that doesn't work out, end the friendship on positive terms. don't feel bad, this is about the time when most friendships break up, but remeber the good times you've had together, and even if you guys are no longer "best" friends, continue to be there for each other.
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Wow! This sounds SO familiar!!! I went thru something like that with a best friend of mine.We had been nest friends for 3 years,and we were as close as 2 bff's can get,we spent all our time together!!But then I started to take notice to what EVERYONE had been telling me for ages,that she was bossing me around,telling me what to wear,how to fix my hair,she decided where we were going and when.Long story short,I hear ya and I understand.One day I just had had enough,and it ended in a big blow up.But I'm thankful to say that although we are no longer glued @ the hip,we are friends again,and we addressed our issues and will always be there for each other!My advice would be to try giving your friendship a little break.Give her and yourself some room to breathe.Explore other avenues,other friendships or even other hobbies or activities you might not have done before because she wouldn't have liked it.Then after some time,agree to sit down and calmly and honestly discuss how you feel,and where you want to go with your friendship.This is really familiar for me so if you'd like to talk more leave me an AIM or Yahoo SN in my column and I'd be glad to talk to you anytime!!!Hope I could be of some help!!!
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I have been though the same thing me and my bestfriend did it to but you know you have to sit her down and say you know what your getting to bossy for me and its not as much fun to hang out with you anymore. and see what she says and just keep and conversation open up to her ans tell her what you feel! you need to keep the communication open me and my friend are still friends and I told her the same thing!
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I wouldnt break your friendship, long lasting friendships are important. Your friend needs to know that after time, two people who spend a lot of time together will go through changes. Nothing will stay the same forever and your friend needs to know this. A friendship that stays in the semi-comfortable mode for forever will never really grow continuously, it will just be stopped until the point where you can't feel comfortable enough around that person. Sit down and talk it over with your friend. If she thinks the friendship is worth fighting for then you can both work things out for sure. You may need to set up some ground rules such as trying to include each other or always letting each other know when something the other person is doing is making you upset. Don't give up on your friendship.
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I think that you should tell her sorry that you were getting to comfertable and its jus that you and her have known each other for soooooo long and you thought it would be ok and if she keeps on getting meaner than tell her that you cant deal wit da crap no more so you cant be her friend and try to get some water to help you breathe!!!!
c ya sweetie!
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Wow, well you need 2 sit ellie down and sart off my saying you and me have been girls 4 a long time, and u wouldn't want anything 2 come between u and her. tell her that ur sorry if she felt left out you didn't mean 2 do it. Tell how she has been acting and how u feel about her attitude towards u. then say maybe u 2 should take a little space from each other. maybe a week or 2 and let her cool down from her bitchy mode. I hope everything works out 4 the best. write me and tell me how it went if you decide 2 take my advice.
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well first you should tell her to stop being bossey... and if that does not work give her a taste of her own medicine.... start acting bossey to her and then she'll tell you to stop then you say '' well that's what you did to me''..... and she'll relize that that she does not need to be bossey.
Or; she may not relize that she is doing it, it may be somethin' with her family... or she may be going threw ''love'' troubles.. you know.
if any body need's some great advice e-mail me at nanasim4@aol.com..e-mail me anytime!!
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hi, well i think that u should talk to ur friend n tell her how u feel...may be she will change...n if she doesnt then just try to keep away from her n hang out wit other friends ;) i dont see why she treating u like that..but talk to her n see wussup :) good luck xoxo *effy*
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Aw, sweetie, it will be okay! It's typical for sudden changes in friendships. As you start getting older, people change and sometimes they take it too far. You both have different opinions on things and may not agree on a lot of things like you used to. But again that's not unusual. I'm not going to tell you to break the frienship or try and keep it, because that's your call. And you do whatever you think is best for you. You want to be happy and you don't want too much stress building up on you like that. If you give it a lot of thought, you might come up with the better choice. It's not the easiest thing to decide, I know. There was a time when I had to end a friendship, it's been 5 years and the first 3 was difficult, but now I couldn't be happier because I made the right choice. And then I had a best friend for like 2 years and she started getting bossier and I had to call that one off too. But the main idea is that I know that I did the right choice. And I'm sure you will too. You know this girl, I don't..and this is something that you will have to think about. Maybe if you wanted you could give her one more chance. Be honest let her know what you're thinking about and how she is starting to get meaner and things are not the same. If she respects that, I think she deserves another chance. But if she doesn't take that to consideration, maybe it's time to decide what to do. Good luck to whatever you do! Love you! -Mandee
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just sit down and talk to her and tell her that she's acting bossy
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ellie is probably just jealous that you are hanging out with HER brother and HER neighbor.. and after 4 years it`s probably hard for her to want to share you.. especially with her family. and best friends fight over the littlest things, but its only because you guys really care about your guys friendship. you should talk to her about how you are feeling and tell her you don`t think some of the things you guys fight about are worth fighting over. And just be polite to her family just to make her feel better =]
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it sounds like she's jealous! if you go to hang out w/her then...hang out with her!! if you plan on hanging out with her brother or neighbor let her know ahead of time so she knows what to expect!! you 2 have been friends for a while, so try to work with it...
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