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hi. i've been with my b/f for about 5 mo. and i'm 14 and he's 16. i REALLY want to have a baby! i don't know why i just ReAlLy do! but also my cuz whos 20 's g/f just had a baby and she was 17(now 18) and they really struggle with financial problems. then his bro was dating a woman last year and just 2 weeks ago found out he was a dad. i really want to have a baby! what should i do?
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BABE! your 14 hun! I'm in love like that too,and i wanna have a baby, BUT i kno for sure im not going to! I'm 15...so im just a year older but still! you're too young to think about it sweetie..trust me..its not a good idea..be happy with the way things are going with your b/f but dont try to bring another life into it! Just think about how much fun you can be having now and if you have a baby you'll be stuck at home all the time with it and you wont be able to go out! thats not the greatest life to live! spend more time with your cousins or with a neice or nephew..i have a neice and i play with her ALL the time adn take care of her alot, and thats just as wonderful as acctually having a baby so until ur married ..just play with baby cousins..or siblings or sumthing! i hope this helped you! please think about this more before you decide to do anything honey..i dont want you ruining your life! ask me for any other advice babe! im here for you! love always..ally
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Look at those around you who are having babies at 20,and how much they're suffering.How much worse would that be at 14???Also,sadly,even at 20 and older,there are situations where the guy doesn't stick around,leaving the girl to take care of a baby all on her own.Even tho your b/f might tell you he'd stick around,at 16 he's gonna want his freedom,to be ridin aroun with his boys and not changin diapers.If you love babies so much,wait until you're older and financially stable,and settled with a great guy,so you can give your baby the world.You can't do that now,an that's kinda selfish isn't it?
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Your only 14 the same age as me, I wouldnt recomend having a baby because what are you going to do when you go to school what if no one can stay by the baby, and how do you know if your boyfriend wants to have a baby, you have to consider everything before even TRYING to have a baby. And you and your boyfriend have only been going out for 5 months, you should wait until you at least graduate from high school and your boyfriend will be more ready if you guys are still together...I hope you guys are then you will know if you guys are ready to have a baby.
*Amanda*
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That's great that you want to have a kid...but I seriously would NOT reccoment doing it now. Firstly, I doubt that your boyfriend is ready to be a father, no matter what he says. Financial stuff is really a problem nowadays. I'd reccomend going through college and all that first, so you can get paying tuition out of the way, and THEN have a kid. That way you can afford it and not have to worry about affording college, too. Good luck!
-Siren =)
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It is good that you want to be a mom, but you are way too young and so is your boyfriend. You will have a lot of problems. Just wait. Graduate from highschool 1st atleast.
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It is good that you want to be a mom, but you are way too young and so is your boyfriend. You will have a lot of problems. Just wait. Graduate from highschool 1st atleast.
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Do not have a baby that young. It will mess up your life. You will have more fanancial problems than countable. At the age of 14 most girls are not ready mentally to have a baby. Plz dont go have a babt this young i dont know u but i am consirend for u and the baby if you have one. Not saying the guy ur with iz bad but some even good guys run off when faced with a baby. And for heaven sake you've been going out for 5 mo. thas not tha long gurl.
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Well,imagine having a doll,that:cried in the middle of the night,cried if its hungry,sleepy,or needed changing,was a financial burdon and worry for the rest of your life. Oh be sure to do well on that Algebra test. And gotta finish that Biology homework. Girl,really,im sure you'll be a good mom in 10 years.
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Don't do it! You are waaay too young. Wait until you are old enough and married then have a kid. You may think you will feel loved but the truth it is a nightmare. If you want a kid get a puppy or a kitty. :-)
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Get a pet instead. Your too young to have a baby. Look at how ur cuz is struggling with financial problems, you dont wanna be like that do you?
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dont do it trust me...iv had the same feelings before about my boyfriend but i have a friend who got pregnant and it ruined her whole life...she missed out on her prom...she has no money to do what she wants...she can never go out...her boyfriend cheats on her alot...she never sleeps...shes so stressed out because of everything...trust me its not a life full of glamour...and 5 months is not nearly long enuf to tell if you will be with this person for the rest of your life..trust me havin a babii is not the way to go...if you and this guy love each other then you will stay together forever with or without a kid to bond you together...trust me dont do it please listen to me
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ha.. trust me.. you dont want a baby now.. trust me.. a few of mai friends have had babies when they were.. 13..14..and 16.. and none of them have any tyme to just hang out anymore.. and a baby is lyk super important.. and u cant just get rid of it when you get bored with it.. eye thynk u shuud wait a while..
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hi. well i understand that u prolly love this kid so much n u wanna create a family and w/e...that's every gurls dream BUT dont u think ur a lil 2 early for that?!?!? i mean think bout it...ur young...later on u might change ur mind bout this guy...anything could happend..u know who knows may b he is not the one for u...i had been wit a guy for 2 yrs...while i was in a relationship wit him i thought the same thing...but after awhile things changed..he changed...n we ended breakin up...so dont rush in to things...now live ur teen life and have fun...TRUST ME u'll have time for EVERYTHING :) just give it time...dont do something u will regreat later on ;) xoxo effy
btw happy 4th of july
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YOU REALLY NEED TO WAIT! I think you are just trying to grow up to fast., even if you are in love, if you love yourself enough you would wait. You will miss out on EVERYTHING a teenager is supposed to do. PLus at 15 i dont think you are responsible enough to bring a child into the world. Wouldnt you want your kid to grow up having the best? and with two young parents that isnt very possible. This is a very serious step, and you need to look at the Whole situation. Maybe you should babysit kids or something if you want to be around them, but trust me sweetie you have your WHOLE life to have a kid, and i dont thjinkg now is the time...
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your to young im sorry but if you want to have a baby then your going to have to wait a couple more year's because you onley going into 9th grade and how are you going to keep up with anygrades or schoolwork when you ahve a baby iin your life
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