YO! My name is ally! im 16 years old.i have blond hair , hazel eyes! I LOVE GIVING ADVICE! some people at my school call me cupid cuz i hook people up and help out with relationships and they call me dr.phil cuz i give great advice! so thats a bit about me! if u need me im here for you!love always...ally!
E-mail: ally3789@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Portland, Texas
Occupation: Student
Age: 15
AIM: xcutesyallyx
Member Since: July 5, 2004
Answers: 31
Last Update: February 27, 2005
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Okay, I'm really sorry if this gets kinda long, but you need to know the whole story, but I'll try and keep it short.
Okay, so last year, my boyfriend (we'll call him charlie )of a year and 4 months broke up with me. At the time, I was upset, as anyone would be, but I somehow got over it very quickly. This is part of my predicament. Ok, well he broke up with a month before prom, and I, being to young to go to prom, wasn't going. I had a dress, a hair appointment, everything, and dumped. So, I turned to a guy friend (we'll call him David)that I had just found out liked me. We ended up going out, and went to prom (all after 2 weeks after the split-up). Well, at the time, i was fighting the idea that iw as on a rebound and using him, but now i see that that is exactly what i was doing. I broke up with him after 2 months, because he started asking questings about *Charlie and things got complicated....Ever since that, every guy i go out with, somehow doesn't compare to *david, and i'm starting to miss him. Now, almost a year later just out of the blue, out of nowhere, i realize i want him back, and its all i can think about. I keep thinking that, yeah, i was using him to make Charlie jealous, and i never really gave him a chance. I know that he still likes me, we ALWAYS flirt, and my best friend has talked to him. I guess the advice i'm looking for is, should i talk to him? I'm really afraid of trying it, and hurting him again, because that would hurt me more, knowing that i did it all over again.
I really appreciate you guys reading all this, and answering my questions.
Thanks again! (link)
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hey! That's happened to me! I was sooo in love with this one guy..and...he dumped me after a long relationship. I went on the rebound not realizing i was doing it. Then i found the perfect guy. he was sweet, funny, hot. But for some reason i felt bad about being with him so i broke up with him. Then later..i realized i really still liked him a whole lot. I ended up never giving him another chance because iwas never sure enough..just like you arent sure enough with your situation. i was scared i would break up with him again and hurt him. the one thing i learned through all of this is you have to do what u feel is right. You should hang out with him alot..talk to him on the phone..do more things with him and see if you really do want him back. then if your heart still tells you to go bak to him then do it. if yall break up again then thats okay. fate will step in somewhere and make everything okay. YOu just have to trust yourself and your heart to guide you. there will be problems along the way, but its normal and perfectly fine. Just go for it for now..you only live once! well i hope i helped! love always, ally!
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Do you neciserrily have to think a guy is cute to like them? Like can you be attracted to just there personality and still have a crush on them? (link)
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HECK NO HE DOESNT HAVE TO BE CUTE! that's why its always good to talk to them on the phone first before you EVER see them..well u can see them..but just like a picture or meeting them ONCE but not really hanging out ..so that way you know what they're personality is like...and what kinda things they like to do before you even get to see them. I met this one guy and i had only met him once and seen a pic of him. At first i didtn think that he was all that cute..but then we started talkin on the phone and WOWSERS! he was awesome! so his personality made him that much more hot whenever i saw him again! then we started dating and were together for a little over a year! so it works! trust me! looooooooove, ally!
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Okay so theres this one guy at school that im really interested in and we almost had a relationship going but then i dont know what happened he just stopped talking to me if i happened to walk in the same room as him then he would just walk right out...i dont know what to do... how do i make him see that i like him without scaring him away...how do i make him see that im here and im not going away? please help!!
signed
Really Confused (link)
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Okay first of all..the fact that you say your here and your not going away may scare him away. guys are so dum..they always want what they cant have so if your always around him practically saying "hey! im here! i like you! im never going away!" then there's a problem. I think the best thing to do is say hi to him every now and them..maybe be talkin wiht a group of friends and walk over close to him adn see if he strikes up a conversation wiht you..but dont strike up one with him because then he'll prolly just move away AGAIN...dont seem so available..seem busy..seem like him not being around you doesnt bother you at all! and pretty soon he'll wanna be around you and maybe he'll even start liking you again and he'll wanan stop playing those stupid games..and he'll ask you out! well i hope i helped..need ne thing else lemme kno! bye!
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hey well my prob is...well i think im starting to like my bestfriend's ex. like she's told me that she wouldnt care who he went out with but she still would want to know whats going on with him and all. she doesnt know i like him or anything i want her to know but i dont know how id tell her. and like I have a boyfrend and i dont wanna break up with him. her ex seems to be flirting back with me and all he has a g/f but shes kinda cheating on him and he doesnt know. i wouldnt know if he would wanna go out with me, i have a boyfriend that i love till death and i dont know how to get rid of the feeling that i like my bestfriend's ex. so yeah what do i do (link)
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well first of all..you should tell your friend about your feelings for her ex. just say "hey i dunno where they came from but i have feelings for your ex..and i know you wanted to kno stuff thats going on with him so yea..i knew i had to tell you ..i just hope we can still be friends and i hope we get this worked out" not only will telling her this help your friendship out cuz yall can be honest wtih each other but it will also help you to have sumone to talk bout it with..and maybe she can help you get over your feelings you have for her ex. talking to sumone always helps. and if you love your boyfriend alot then these little feelings you have for the other guy will go away sooner then you kon..its prolly just a lil stage or sumthing..it'll go away soon..especially if you love your boyfriend. well i hope i helped...im here if u need ne thing...love always..ally!
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once a cheater, always a cheater?? TRUE OR FALSE? (link)
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FALSE! people change all the time..enough said!
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Hey BabesZ!Ok well this isnt really askin 4 advice but,i just wanna kno what ur prospective is on my Relationship cuz ppl think im crazy!Ok make a long ass story short,Last year,july 16,03 i started goin o/w my boyfrined,we lasted 2 mnths nd broke up cuz we never saw eachother,so i never got over him and we liked eachother again,so we started goin out that following Ocober 5th,we lasted again for 2 mnths reason being,he cheated on me w.1 of my ex.best gurls,(they actaulyl Had sex =( ) so that was sad cuz i really had storng feelings 4 him nd i never thought it woudl happen,but we never stopped talking he would ask 4 me back all the time nd tell me that he made the biggest mistake of his life nd he would just go on nd on about how much he cared!so it had been about two mnths that we had broke up,nd i gave him 1 more chance!On janurary 21st i took him back,nd i kno it was dumb all my friends couldnt believe it,but the feelings i had were UNREAL! so we have now been together for about 6 mnths..and its been goin great..the 3rd mnth in i gave him my virginity nd i def kno hes been faithful and shit cuz i live in a small town so i would kno if he wasnt lol,i love him to death but the 5th mnth in i kinda kissed a guy, reason being..he was being an ass so i couldnt take it and it just felt like the right thing to do at the time..:( nd later that night i called my baby nd told him,this was the first time i had ever heard my boy cry :( thats when i new he really loved me,i was in shock hearing what i was hearing.."how could u do this..u dont kno what love is" and i just keept saying baby yea i do i kno i love you, i never knew how much he loved me,i always doubted it,cuz ive never had full turst for him after he cheated,but hearing him cry made me believe nd fall 38493483943 times more in love,so now we are both faced w/hate lol not between eachother but our friends hate us cuz we only hang out w/eachother,but w/e i love him and i kno he loves me,we actualyl wanna get married..i kno its crazy but we do,nd i couldnt be more sure hes the one for me and im sure he feels the same,i just dunno if what we have is healthy,i mean we have been through so many fights bcuz we are both so scared of loosing eachother,but we also fight cuz hes so goddamn jealous of guys and FRIENDS..i cant even go to my girls house cuz he thinks ill do drugs and cheat again..but i guess he has a reason to be scared? i dunno im so confused about shit tho 4 some reason, i dunno what do u think about this? Telllllllllllll meee what ya think hunnie..thanks MuahZzZ!! (link)
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i think..that i've been through the saaammee thing. me and this guy didnt break up THAT many times..but yea..i kno what you mean. it seems like yall have been through alot together..he cheated on you..you cheated on him..and it seems like yalls love has helped yall get through the heartbreaks that ya'll have caused eachother. that love is very very strong. and im a sucker for guys who cry..when they cry because they're hurt..or because they love sumone so mcuh and dont wanna lose them..i dunno..and that was very sweet. i think that if yall are in love..screw what your friends think..if they cant accept you THEN THEY ARENT TRUE FRIENDS!! yall have a very cute and loving relationship adn i hope yall last forever! and wiat for marriage..shoot..get engaged! haha.but just wait til yall are outta college before marriage! okay well if u need ne thing else lemme know..love always ally!
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Hey i heard my older brother say to this girl "she is pms'ing" and i asked him what it meannt and he wouldnt tell me...can you tell me.
Thx,
Signed Confused (link)
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"pms'ing" is just another word for ..pretty much.."pissed off" at just about everything. it happens when a girl is on her period and most girls get mad at alot of different things when they're on their period..so people make fun of it by saying "pmsing". what it really is..is just bein on ur period..and bein bloated and craming and all the stuff that comes along with that time of the month..and alot of girls do get pissed off at little things when they're on it..cuz there in so much pain! But some people do say it to girls even when they arent on their period..if they're just bein really mean or sumthing..people will say they're pmsin even if they arent on their period!! wel thats bout it..if u need ne thing else lemme kno! love always..ally!
hey sorry bout this but..pmsing stands for pre menstrual stress..i shoulda told you that before but i didnt think about it! sorry! well bye!
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ok..this is very hard for me to say..but hopefully it'll stay confidential. I recieved news that I had gotten aids about 4 months ago. This news, however, I have kept to myself..I haven't even told my girlfriend of 2 years. We have sex quite often and we are both very much in love..but I'm afraid if I tell her of my disease..she will leave me. I have also had sex with many other people and I'm not sure when I contracted the disease but I may have given it to them as well. What should I do? (link)
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you HAVE to tell your girlfriend..and any other people you have slept with! you cant let them be living their lives going around and having sex wiht other people..thats just letting them pass it on. you have to tell them so they can go get tested to see if they have it. and the best thing to do with your girlfriend is go with her to get tested. but before that..tell her that you have it..and if ya'll have been together for two years and are in love she will understand..of course it will scare her very much but she will understand and just take her to go get tested. it will all be okay! if u need ne thing else lemme kno! love always..ally!
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How do you tell someone that you love them without making them freak out and like hate you?? Cuz i really wanna tell this guy how i feel but i guess im scared that hes gonna idk freak out and not talk to me...please help and fast hes coming over soon....thanks (link)
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hey! im sooo sorry im answering this late...too late! wel a guy cant hate you for saying your true feelings,but..they could freak out..u got that rite. if you just have a crush on him but yall arent going out yet..i'd say..tell him your feelings..that u like him alot and would like to be with him...then wait til the relationship grows before you say you love him..and also before you say it..maybe you should ask him what his opinion is about saying it. and if he's not ready yet..maybe you should wiat for him to say it first..then you'll already have ur feelings for him and you can just say it bak!If yall are already together tho..then talk to him..like i said before..see what he thinks about it. BUT if you can wait...then just dont talk to him at all...if ur able to just wait and see what happens and see if he says it first..then there's no need to talk to talk to him at all! so you decide what is best..tlak to him..or..not! whatever happens im sure everythign will be fine..and if he freaks out on you..he'll get over it and if he doesnt get over it..then he's not good for you anyways!if u need ne thing else im here! love always..ally!
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I was just wondering... if asking a girl out during a movie is a good i asked a girl out in the movies.... lets say spiderman 2?? :) luv ya (link)
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Well..thats very very romantic! especially what part the movie was on! ( i kno..im psychic) and im sure she's VERY VERY HAPPY! GOOD JOB!luv ya too babe!
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OMG i cant ever chose!! i mean there both so sweet but i know i cant have both. I need your adive which would you rather have.
Beans.....or Rice?? please help me (link)
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oh come on!! dont you kno you NEVER have to chose between food!? I SAY BOTH! mix them together..its AWESOME! dont just chose one! k well need ne thing else lemme know! haha..love always..ally!
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I have almost no ones instant messaging address. My mom walked in while i was talking to one of my friends online and saw that i only had ten people on my list. Since i had a different s/n last year i didn't bother getting a lot of people's IM, so she sent me to this counsiling group for teens who can't get along with others. I went to the group once and they said that i just don't want to talk to people. Should i stay in the group, or leave, i don't think i belong in there, but should i give it another day?
Please help
Lizzy (link)
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um...well..i say you should stick it out and try to make new friends...it mite be fun! just try talking to people and prove your mom wrong about not bein able to! and once you meet more people..you can get their s/n and talk to them! meeting new people can be alot of fun! i love meeting new people! u should try it! its great! oka well good luck! and if you need anything else just lemme know! love always...ally!
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well i've looked up to you and katie for advice so now im going OUT im gonna ask on this thing so i can see it lol well you alredy kno about this one girl that i met and yes she rocks half of my world but what do i do with the other half? im so confused and there's so much that i want but i dont know what to do about the other person.. i love one but im starting to like the other.. i know that there's no correct answer from you because u cant choose for me but thers so much that can happen. With the one i love if i let 'them' go i'll have to be dealing with depression from 'them' .. however the other one isnt so bad because she is in in another city a couple of hours away. and im not a sex maniac so wether i get sex or not WONT matter to me =p ! what do i do to get either out of my head and for me to stop being so stressed and alone about it?
Love,
*the one you already know* (link)
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well..it seems to me like ur liking the one from the other city more! u kno what i think u should do! you should talk to the one you love and tell her your starting to have mixed feelings..and you wanna take a break. maybe after awhile you will realize how much you love her and you'll realize that its a bit hard to have that other girl so far away from you if u start liking her more. and dont feel alone! ur rite! u have me and katie here for you!just talk to the one you love and things will get better..if yall are meant to be yall will get bak together! i promise! if you need this in more detail call me babe okay! i'll be happy to talk to you about it! just call me!k i love you babe! bye!
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Hii. i was reading what uve been writeing to everyone and u seem like u have helped soo many people so i had a question i have been really confused. i have been dateing this guy for about a year now. he is my 1st bf. we have been in and out of fights and we break up with each other and usually hook back up the next day but this time we broke up and it has been about a week. he tells me he loves me and he misses me everyday and other time of the days hes all pissed and he doesnt say shit. what should i do? my friend say he relly loves me and wants to work things out and he wants to ask me out again what should i do should i just get over him or keep loving him? hehas taken a big part of my life. i know confuseing but i dunno what to do anymore. (link)
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First off, thank you! hehe..and secondly..people get who are in relationships get in fights..its just natural..i kno it sucks but its part of having a bf'/gf. But it seems to me that yall fight alot. maybe ya'll should just take a break from each other..because what could be causing your fights is the fact that maybe one of yall isnt as in love as you think. so taking a break to think about things and sort things out would help alot. i kno that doesnt sound good to you because you wanna stay with him. but trust me it will be for the best and then youll find out if yall really are in love because if yall are..you'll go bak to each other and realize that that u love each other and most of those fights will stop. but dont worry bout it babe everything will be just fine! love always..ally
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theres this guy and we r rele good friends but i want to take it a step up with out getting hurt HELP ME!!! (link)
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aww babe i kno all about getting hurt! but life is all about taking chances, and if you dont how do you live!? gettin hurt sucks..but it all turns out for the best and you learn from what happens with one guy so that you kno what to stay away from with another guy. but if you dont take a chance with this guy..then you could be missing out on a whole lot..maybe even the best relationship you've ever had. so if you feel this way just go for it..dont let anything stop you or get in your way cuz nothing is better then loving sumone and bein loved and if u take this chance..thats what it could end up it! love! wel i hope i helped! and go for it sweety! love always...ally!
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i wanna spice of my love life w/ my bf...u know make it more fun....and sexy...got ne tips for me?? (link)
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ahh..well first off..dont give him what he wants. I know that sounds a bit weird..and unreasonable..but its sexy. Teasing is key. when you first get him alone..walk up to him..and grab his shirt and pull him towards you makin him think ur gonna go for it all rough..then go in to kiss him and just nibble on his lip but dont acctually give him a kiss yet..then nibble some on his ear and touch his face and his hair..and his body but dont go below the waiste..at least not YET..then finaly after a bit of teasing go in and give him a kiss..and yea ig uess its time to add a lil toungue. then put his hands on your waiste and have him grab ur shirt and lift up to make him take it off. then take his off. then push him on the bed and while he's layin there undo his pants but dont take take them off just yet..go down on him and do sum mouth business..but not too much. then take off your pants while he's laying there watching you..then take his off and get into bed with him..get him to use his mouth to take off the rest of ur clothing ..he can use his hands to help.a LITTLE...then do yall's business! need ne hting else lemme kno! bye!
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What exactly is the G-Spot and how do i find it?
Signed, Clit Commander
A.K.A. Tony Danza (link)
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Well mr. clit commander! with a name like that you should kno the answer to this question!hah..well a g-spot is an orgasm that supposedly feels AWESOME...!look it up on www.findthegspot.com! bye!
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Is 9th grade a good grade and does it go by quickly? (link)
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9TH GRADE IS AN AWESOME GRADE! and saddly..it goes by WAY to quickly. before i knew it all of my senior freinds are goin off to college and now all my junior frends just have one year left!:( i try not to think negative about it tho..what happens happens and i'll always keep in touch with them! but yes..9th grade rules! i have to admit..i am glad im not a fish anymore..but stilL! its awesome! well if u need ne thing else just talk to me! love always..ally!
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i need to no how u find a boyfriend...help me asap.
thxx (link)
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YO! so..you wanna find a boyfriend huh!? well the best thing to do is be yourself! i know you probably hear that from so many freakin people it gets old!! but the reason you hear it from so many people is cause its very true! just be yourself, and thats the best thing you can offer! trust me..there are alotta guys out there who will like you for you. you dotn wanna pretend your sumthin your not around a guy cuz thats NO FUN at all!! find a guy who u dont have to lie to!! and just be urself and he could be your future boyfriend!;) also if your havin trouble finding one..open up more! be more outgoing! guys will notice you then! and maybe chagne your physical appearance..but dont change so much to where you dont like it..you have to like urself before anyone else will! wel i hope i helped! im here for ya so ask me ne thing! love always..ally!
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hmm...okay ..lets see...well ever since me and my ex broke up ..talking to him has been a little different...actually alot different..he's just not the way he was...i mean i'm not looking to hook up with him again..i just wanna stay friends..but when we talk we always seem to fight over something..he says that i'm the one that change...but i dunno..i think i'm the same person...i just don't see why he always hurts me when we talk..i mean he says he wants to be friends too...but friends don't make u cry ...i dunno what to do? ...should i stop talking to him and lose a friendship ? or keep trying to be his friend...but end up getting hurt all the time? (link)
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Well..first off..you should try talking to him. Tell him that the things he says to you sometimes hurt you, and that you'd like to see if yall can start over on fresh ground. Tell him that you dont think you've changed, but if he does think that..ask him to tell you what he thinks has changed about you. then if what he says makes sense..explain to him why you changed..or tell him ur sorry for the change. but if what he says doesnt make sense..try to explain to him that he's mistaken and that you havent changed. guys are dum! heh..but eventually he'll understand. i say you continue to say hello to him after you have talked to him about this..jsut act like you usually do and if problems persist then maybe yall arent meant to be friends..and you'l be better off without him! if this doesnt help..ask me again..and maybe i can think about it more for you! im always here! love always..ally!
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