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Help! What should I do?
Okay, I'm really sorry if this gets kinda long, but you need to know the whole story, but I'll try and keep it short.
Okay, so last year, my boyfriend (we'll call him charlie )of a year and 4 months broke up with me. At the time, I was upset, as anyone would be, but I somehow got over it very quickly. This is part of my predicament. Ok, well he broke up with a month before prom, and I, being to young to go to prom, wasn't going. I had a dress, a hair appointment, everything, and dumped. So, I turned to a guy friend (we'll call him David)that I had just found out liked me. We ended up going out, and went to prom (all after 2 weeks after the split-up). Well, at the time, i was fighting the idea that iw as on a rebound and using him, but now i see that that is exactly what i was doing. I broke up with him after 2 months, because he started asking questings about *Charlie and things got complicated....Ever since that, every guy i go out with, somehow doesn't compare to *david, and i'm starting to miss him. Now, almost a year later just out of the blue, out of nowhere, i realize i want him back, and its all i can think about. I keep thinking that, yeah, i was using him to make Charlie jealous, and i never really gave him a chance. I know that he still likes me, we ALWAYS flirt, and my best friend has talked to him. I guess the advice i'm looking for is, should i talk to him? I'm really afraid of trying it, and hurting him again, because that would hurt me more, knowing that i did it all over again.
I really appreciate you guys reading all this, and answering my questions.
Thanks again!
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i have one simple answer...tell him everything you just said in that paragraph if he knows whats good for him he will understand...hope i helped <33 ~danni
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You most definetly should talk with him. Its a simple answer. So talk to him and just let it run its course.
Signed
The Football Prep!
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hey! That's happened to me! I was sooo in love with this one guy..and...he dumped me after a long relationship. I went on the rebound not realizing i was doing it. Then i found the perfect guy. he was sweet, funny, hot. But for some reason i felt bad about being with him so i broke up with him. Then later..i realized i really still liked him a whole lot. I ended up never giving him another chance because iwas never sure enough..just like you arent sure enough with your situation. i was scared i would break up with him again and hurt him. the one thing i learned through all of this is you have to do what u feel is right. You should hang out with him alot..talk to him on the phone..do more things with him and see if you really do want him back. then if your heart still tells you to go bak to him then do it. if yall break up again then thats okay. fate will step in somewhere and make everything okay. YOu just have to trust yourself and your heart to guide you. there will be problems along the way, but its normal and perfectly fine. Just go for it for now..you only live once! well i hope i helped! love always, ally!
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If you can't stop thinking about him then yeah you should talk, but that conversation shouldn't start out about getting back together. You should talk about what happens if you guys get back together, but if you don't want to lose him as a frined if you guys break up then thats what you need to discuss. Tell him how you feel but that if and when you guys break up you don't want that to be the end of your relationship all together you still want to have a "I'm your best frined, Your my best friend" kind of relationship. Or what ever kind of friendship you want/have. If you think he still likes you then give it a shot, if he doesn't then oh well he now knows you like him but he won't throw away a friendship just because you like him, and if he likes you well then its celebration time you got your man back! As for hurting him and yourself take the relationship slow that way if it doesn't last very long you won't have already done something life changing or something so special that it would make you want to rip out your heart. I doubt that will happen though. From what I can tell about you and David you are really good friends and that ya'll mean alot to each other! So I hope things work out!
Hope I helped!
((Steph))
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You should always talk to the one you like or care about. People get hurt and regret things from unsaid words. So just definetly taLk to him and tell him why you broke it off with him in the first place and just start out honestly.
Love Always,
Maria<3
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