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My daughter wants to play pretend too much
She is 4 and she almost always wants to pretend to be a cartoon character, and wants me to be one too. Sometimes, I just am not in the mood to be a cartoon character and talk in a silly voice. I already told her I won't do it in public, and she understands, but she still bugs me to be characters at home. How do I get her to stop this, or at least not expect me to play along with it every time? It's getting old. Does anyone else have kids that do this?
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ok well shes 4 and wants to have fun and you should let her. but telling a four year old to stop something is like talkin to a wall.. more than likely they are not gonna stop so maybe you could let her play with some onther kids her age every once and a while. but i thik its wrong trying to get her to stop doing someting that she enjoys... all kids wanna have fun... im 14 and i loooooove to have fun and when i was 4 i did every thing i could to have fun and my mom sometimes told me to stop and i got really upset because i was having fun so unless shes doing something that will get her hurt or into biiig trouble let her do it part of being a parent is entertaining your child and if you get embarassed about that then you neeed to work on that because you shuldnt vcare about what other people think as long as your child is having fun-that what bein a kid is all about
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She's 4 years old, and though it may be irritating for you, this is how she learns.
Perhaps you could arrange some play dates for her? She would get to play with other children, and you would get a break. A preschool might also be a good idea.
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telling a 4 year old to stop might not help to much. get her interested in other things or have her do it with friends or something. just dont stop her imagnation. teach her to use it in a better way.
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well you should have her do something else with her time like read to her or teach her something new
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My lil cousin went through that stage then my aunt got lil kids to come over and they did it and i think he relized how stupid it was when they asked him to be barney.. but he was 5... so i dont know-trix
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She loves playing with you and that is a compliment. However, I know that kids love repetition and it can really unnerve adults! You have shown her that you can and will play along with her in the past, so she is going to keep asking you to pretend. Tell her that you will do it another time (you have to fufill that other time though) and ask her to choose something else you can play together. Also, give her 2 choices that you are willing to do with her. Maybe you could share with her some ideas that you enjoyed when you were about her age. She would probably jump at the chance to do something that her mommy did when she was a girl. It would be fun for her and you, too.
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actually, i am 13 years old and i think i could be of some help. your daughter sounds like she wants attention. when i was that age, i wanted attention so much that i would do similar stuff. when she asks to play cartoon, offer to take her outside or take her out for a treat. maybe she is just bored.....
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Try to get you daughter interested in other things. If she wants to be a cartoon character to omuch then maybe you should consider taking away some TV hours so she won't look to made-up people as her idols. Other than that, just continue to play with her. You're probably the most important thing in the world to her.
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Yes, most children do this. Your child is now going through what's called the " formative years". Doing so, she finds the first permanent aspects of who she will be as she ages. In asking you to " do it too" she may be seeking the simpleness of your attention, or your approval. Your attention becuase, she likes who she sees in you and wishes to emulate that ( BIG compliment ), or your approval, because she wants to know if what makes her happy makes the person she cares the most about ( you ), happy, as well. I know this can be a quite tiring and even annoying time for you, but trust me, it won;t last long. In the meantime, you might be able to "fool" her into not wishing to speak like that by praising her whenever she uses her "adult" voice. The next time she uses a voice other than that of spongebob squarepants or the powerpuff girls, make it a big point to tell her how proud you are that she's becoming a "big girl". Soon enough, the cartoon voices will lose their appeal to her.
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Have you tried: reading books? Turning off the TV? Going outside? Going to an indoor playground? Puzzles? Art projects? Just get her to do something else.
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turn the game to work for you. tell your kid that she has to pretend to be a cartoon but only when noone can see her. that way, when she is around people, she will behave. tell her also that if she pretends to be a cartoon while people can see her, she will get tickled by you. make it a game. as long as whatever they are doing can be made into fun, a child will do almost anything you ask of them.
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