I am someone who likes to try and be as honest as i possibly can with everyone, and i do not like to sugar-coat things. i would like anyone who needs advice to know that i don't claim to know everything, and nor will i try to pretend to. my advice is based on my own experience and what i've learned so far in life.
***also, if you are a single female who is near my age and who lives in PG/AAC county (maryland) let me know, and i can give you info necessary to contact me by. i'm about 6' tall, athletic and kind. i play football and wrestle as well as swim and bowl. i have light brown (almost blond) hair and baby blue eyes. and best of all, i'm single. contact me if you are in PG/AAC county and are interested in a date***
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Location: Bowie, Maryland
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Okay, I would like everyone to be totaly honest you wont hurt my feelings.
Do you think that it is like pathetic/stupid/weird ect. that I have never had a boyfriend before? Oh and im 15.
Thankss. (link)
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no. in fact i say its good. you havent had to experience being cheated on, and you havent been forced to choose between some guy and your friends/family/favorite activities. what i'm getting at is for now, don't worry about it because there is a bad side to being with someone that you are fortunate enough to not have experienced yet.
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Alright I see you anwser alot of questions on advicenators.com, so I'll ask you a question.
I used to have a crush on this guy, Charlie. I wanted to make out wth him, and date him for a long time but then he went to college and I never saw him anymore. Well a month or so ago, I saw him at a party and things happened and we made out. Things progressed and we decided to be friends with benefits. It was to be on the down-Low.
He told me that he doesn't want a relationship with girls because all girls are sweet at first then they turn out to be phsyco.
He's totally hot and we've had sex a few times. I'm not going to lie, the sex is great. But now lately we just hang out or talk on the phone. He doesn't try anything with me, although he does encourage me to call him every night, and tells me to be careful. There is obvious flirting and chemistry going on between us.
I wouldn't really call us "friends" - Although that could be debatable. He sends mixed signels.
If we are just friends with benefits why does he calls so much? I thought all FWB's do is call for a booty call. I'm not sure what to do in this situation. I'm confused and not sure what to do. How should I handle this situation and what the heck is going on???? (link)
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I am sorry for taking so long to answer your question. I have been working so much recently I havent even been on this webpage in a month. Any way, to answer your question, the guy usually determines the problem. Does he go out of his way to be nice and non-confrontational? Wants numerous calls, but avoids physical contact? As a guy, it sounds to me like one of two things are going on here. One, he likes you a lot, but is worried about strapping himself down to just one female. If he is a very flirtatious person then this is more than likely the problem. He feels that the more frequently you two hook-up, the less it will feel like random, FWB-style sex than being with a girlfriend. the very idea of a relationship scares him.
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well, my subject pretty much says it all... i like this other boy now... he knows that i like him - my friends tell him that all the time and i told him that i do like him once, just so he knows that what my friends tell him aren't lies... we used to be friends - well, i THINK we're still friends... but ever since he knew about me liking him, we barely talk anymore, unless for a couple of words - thanks, here - or we're in the same group for class and we HAVE to talk and help each other... was it wrong to tell him that i like him?? what can i do so that me and him talk again, but not seem desperate for him?? [[i'm not desperate for him, although i catch myself looking and searching for him at times...but you can't really help doing that... it's nature to look and find your crush, right?]] i would REALLY APPRECIATE VERY GOOD advices... thank you! i'll rate 5s (link)
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You were absolutly right to tell him. The reaction this boy is displaying is totally normal, allthough it may be aggrivating. By telling him that you like him, and your friends constantly reminding him, he is waiting for you to follow up on your first move. What i mean is that it is not unusual for a girl to pursue a guy, but traditionally the male pursues the female. In his mind you did what he percieved to be unexpected, and now he is waiting for the next move. Look at it for your point of view; if a guy tells you that he likes you and then all of his friends confirm this, what would you do when he starts acting shy? You would wait and see what his next move is, may it be asking for your number or finally talking to you in person. He is doing exactly that; waiting for you to try and talk to him about it. the pressure is off of him to make the first move since you already did that, so now the "ball is in your court" and you must make the next move.
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I have an.. well interesting sister. She is 4 years older than I am and I am nearly 18. My sister and I both live at home still. My sister acts as if her life is the most important life on the face of the earth, and she treats everyone around her like a lesser being. Sometimes I just want to physically hurt her because words just never get through to her, that is, if you can words out at all. She never lets people speak, especially when she is angry. She blames her problems on everyone else in my family, especially my mother and I'm starting to believe my sister is really breaking my moms heart to pieces. Her actions and words hurt all of my immediate family and it is so extremely peaceful and quiet when she is at work.
The thing that bothers me the most is that she always claims that her life is so much worse than everyone else's, no matter what they are enduring, she refuses to offer support, instead she will explain how much more difficult it is to be her. I can't stand being around her because she always insults me, she claims that she is just being honest when clearly - she is just being rude.
I had hoped she would be moving out soon but she enrolled in school again and so she will be staying at home for at least another 2 years. Its madness and I simply can't be around her.
When I have tried to explain how I feel and how badly she treats us she refuses to let me finish and assumes I am attacking her and she responds with attacks of her own. She always tells us how horrible it is to have a family like ours and how no one cares about her and how she wishes she could leave.
I have tried to tolerate her disgusting attitude and no one outside my family can understand my grief over this issue because my sister changes her entire self when she is around anyone other than our immediate family - she is suddenly nice. Therefore, no one else understands.
My question to advicenators is this - is there anything that I can say to my sister that will make her realize how bad she is hurting our family or do we all need to simply tough it out for the next few years until she moves out on her own?
However, even if we do tolerate her, I don't ever want to simply sever ties with my own sister - I want her to care about us and love us - I want her to be a friend to me. Not someone that hates us and supposedly makes her life horrible. (link)
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sit your sister down and ask her one question and give her one answer. ask her if she really really believes her family hates her. when she answers, tell her she is wrong. if she starts to flip out (which i am fairly sure she will) simply point out that if her family hated her so much they would have abandoned her a long time ago, so by staying her family loves her. also tell her that her family does hate one thing about her, though, her attitude. tell her this and ask her to think about that for a while. once you have said everything i told u, walk away. just walk away. do not turn if she calls u, don't respond if she asks you a question. give her the room she needs to see what she has and what she is throwing away by behaving this way. on the other hand, if while walking away you hear what sounds like a sincere apology, turn around and prove to your sister how much you love her and forgive her.
keep this in mind;
it takes great strength to tolerate one's faults, it takes love to forgive them.
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my guy friend...lets call him gary...he likes to wrestle with me but i dont like it cuz i get hurt most the time and im really bad at it. everytime i finally sit down he tells me 2 get up or he pulls me up and keeps wrestling with me. how can i tell him i dont wanna wrestle without him getting mad or pulling me up and doing it anyway?
signed,
ouch (link)
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beat him. beat him with a stick.
seriously, the easiest way to repel a wrestler of any kind is swift beating that isn't really within the rules. go along with it, but when he hurts u or u get sick of it, kick or hit him HARD. pain is usually a good attention-getter. it is up to u where to hit him, but stay within reason according to his actions.
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She is 4 and she almost always wants to pretend to be a cartoon character, and wants me to be one too. Sometimes, I just am not in the mood to be a cartoon character and talk in a silly voice. I already told her I won't do it in public, and she understands, but she still bugs me to be characters at home. How do I get her to stop this, or at least not expect me to play along with it every time? It's getting old. Does anyone else have kids that do this? (link)
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turn the game to work for you. tell your kid that she has to pretend to be a cartoon but only when noone can see her. that way, when she is around people, she will behave. tell her also that if she pretends to be a cartoon while people can see her, she will get tickled by you. make it a game. as long as whatever they are doing can be made into fun, a child will do almost anything you ask of them.
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I went to this party and I'm 15 and I drank but I only had one beer and than I woke up the next morning in my bed. After that for the next couple of weeks I got sick daily, I started to get worried and had my friend buy a pregnancy test for me and it turned out that I was pregnant. I don't know how that's possible because I'm a virgin. But I can't remember what happened that night at the party. I don't know what to tell my parents.
~Pregnant?~ (link)
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some one may have slipped you a ruffie when you put down your drink during the party. the drug is designed to make you fall asleep and to not recall whatever happens while you are sleeping. tell your parents the truth, that you were at the party and you blacked out. they'll be angry, yes, but if you were raped they will be more concerned for your health. also, go to a hospilat and get a rape kit done, or see a gynocologist.
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i dunno if this is the right subject 4 this but..im homeschooled and i wanna play sports cuz i wanna be able 2 beat my crush in sports and impress him. do u guys know any way i can get into a sport even though im homeschooled? (link)
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boys and girls club, youth leagues, etc. also, guys don't take losing to girls very well. i'm not against you playing but beating him at something he loves to do may have the opposite effect than the one you want. try impressing him with maturity or intelligence as well, and not just sports. also, try to let him win every once in a while
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good luck
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I have a 1990 300ZX and the check engine light came on today and I do not have a manual. What does this mean for this vehicle? (link)
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the 'check engine' light is the standard warning light that is turned on when something is not working at full capacity in your engine block. the fact that your car isn't a manual means nothing. if it did, than no automatic cars would have check engine lights. just take your car in for an inspection and tell the mechanic to really look at your engine and the spark plugs.
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my boyfriend wont kiss me because he doesnt know how to kiss. im not a very good kisser either. im afraid to make the first move becuause i think he will pull away b4 i get to his lips and i will look like an idiot. how can i get him to kiss me? should i send him a site about how to kiss on email or what? i really wanna kiss him. (link)
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DO NOT send anything about kissing to him. the last thing a nervous guy needs is a 'how to' guide to doing something that is supposed to come naturally. jsut make the first move either by trying to kiss him or talking to him about what you want to do with him. he will get the message in a much better way if you take the initiative
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me and my bf have been together for 2 months but we spent alot of time together, i know he still wants to be together but i think it just isnt working, i dont like him as much as he likes me. I want to break up but i dont want to hurt him, how should i do it - as nicly a poss?
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honestly. lies, no matter how small, hurt more than the truth. sit down with him and tell him exactly what you do and do not feel for him. he should be hurt but that is expected. all in all, he will understand eventually and respect your openness.
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Ive just started babysitting and i dont no how much i should charge and hour. any ideas? (link)
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don't charge a set rate. always change the charge according to how difficult the little rugrats are and for the length of time you watch them. also include charges for any excess driving and expenses that you pay for out of pocket. i babysit alot and trust me, this method works like a charm as long as you don't charge rediculous amounts of money for everything you can think of. and try to work in discounts and such for your regular customers.
goodluck!
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how to know you feel better about doing the right thing (link)
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remind yourself that you helped others and that god is proud of you for your contribution.
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i would like to know when your'e friends with guys and a pretty close friends, how would you know if its just a friendship or something else? but he tends to do to much tease with you and jokes around with you lots, how can you tell if he likes you thats why he does all these stupid things to get your attention but he doesn't do this to other girls. so plase let me know u what think thanx. (link)
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the easiest way to tell if a guy is interested or not is if his attention to you becomes more focused. he may stand up for you more often, his jokes may not be as mean or bullheaded as before, and most importantly, if he seems to ignore other girls when he is around you. if you want extra advice without waiting, give me a email at bones316@comcast.net.
****my email is not working, so if you send one to me, mention that the message is for ray (the email account is my brother's).****
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my friend is getting married very soon . her problem is that she is very slim and he is fat. their height is almost same.
how without getting hurt she can make love with him (link)
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many ways. namely the reverse cowgirl position (girl on top), doggie-style, and orally.
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hello i know someone must be able to answer this the national guard wants my 16 yr old daughter to enlist and they will pay for her college i think it is a good idea for several reasons but my daughter is not in shape will that matter she is 5 ft 4 and 190 she is not athletic or anything is sorta of a girly girl i want to know the down side to the national guard she wants to be a school teacher but i want her to try the guard but i would like to know the down side to the guard thanks
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My father is an army soldier in iraq. while he was home he would always tell me what the army was like (from his point of veiw) as a drill sergaent (sry, i never could spell that word). the only down sides to the Guard is:
1.the stress her body will go through as the Guard gets her into shape
2.separation anxiety if she can't stand being far from her friends and family,
and 3.the possibility that after boot camp she may be stationed far from home.
my dad has been in iraq for almost a year now. he's been in the army for nearly 20 years and his recent deployment has been the only negative aspect of his enlistment.
as the loving father you surely are, i suggest that you let your daughter join the guard but not until her junior or senior year of high school. by then not only would you be sure if you want her to go, but she would be more aware of the choice she is going to make.
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I have this friend. Well, he's not exactly my friend, but we hang out at school and stuff. Awhile back, I used to like him and I told some people. One day, someone told him. Then he started avoiding me. Now he's talking to me, like all the time. He always wants my advice on something and always sticks up for me. Does anyone know why he's acting like this?
Thanks!
Confused (link)
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with guys, relationships can seem like traps, especially with people they know and even more so with people they dont't know. in your case, this guy was probably shocked and not sure how to handle the fact that someone he chilled with liked him. then once he get used to the idea, he wanted to try to see where this would go. in truth, all guys have that one female friend or acquaintance that they would love to have some type of relationship with. you may be his secret love.
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