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how to know when friendship goes further?
i would like to know when your'e friends with guys and a pretty close friends, how would you know if its just a friendship or something else? but he tends to do to much tease with you and jokes around with you lots, how can you tell if he likes you thats why he does all these stupid things to get your attention but he doesn't do this to other girls. so plase let me know u what think thanx.
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the easiest way to tell if a guy is interested or not is if his attention to you becomes more focused. he may stand up for you more often, his jokes may not be as mean or bullheaded as before, and most importantly, if he seems to ignore other girls when he is around you. if you want extra advice without waiting, give me a email at bones316@comcast.net.
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If he constantly wants to get you alone, or is always wanting to be with you, or perhaps even satring your way when he thinks you're not noticing, he definitely wants to take it a step above the friendship level. Ask him outright, if you're not the introverted type. If he does thing to you that he doesn't do to other girls, wait a bit to ssee if you can spot other things that may prove his interest. And if all else fails, just ask him if he's like to go out to see a movie, or on a casual date!
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Firstly, if he's doing things like that, I can safely say he most likely has some sort of crush on you, though I cannot say he's willing to admit it. I went a good looooooong while before I realized how I feel about my girlfriend. Anyway, you can pretty much assume he wants to be more than friends.
Now, just because he feels this way for you, or vice versa, or both, doesn't mean you two autmoatically have a deeper relationship, that's just plain stupid. If you don't like him, I'd suggest asking him how he feels, then saying (GENTLY!!) that you don't really feel the same. Else, ask him how he feels and then tell him how you feel. Maybe ask him out if he's still reluctant. I didn't really want to but because my girlfriend wouldn't tell me how she felt I just came out with it. And if neither of you like each other that way, tell him to 'bug off' and 'stop being a bloody weirdo'.
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He is <i>probably</i> thinking about more than friendship. Depending on how you feel about him, I would just try to find out. If you don't want to directly ask him if he is interested in you as more than a friend, you can ask your friends to ask his friends, or something like that.
Added from my feedback on this question:
>thanx for your reply, but he say's i remind him of his ex-girlfriend and he used to say nice things about her and he say's it's like being married to you, i mean why did he mention this as we are really good friends and know for each other 7months and he say's i can imagine to bump into u in 8 yrs time having lunch together while you tell me about evertything that has happend to you! please reply back as your advice was good!
My answer:
It sounds like you are interested in more than friendship, since you are asking for advice on this. It also sounds like you have questioned him further, although not specifically "Are you interested in more than a friendship?" Since he is answering with describing you as a wife, ex-girlfriend, and old friend that he might meet in 8 years, I think he may actually want it to stay at friendship level, and not want more. The only way to be absolutely sure it to ask him, and that may make both of you uncomfortable. I think your best bet it just to stay friends.
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