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HELP! im not getting any schooling!
Hi im one of your fellow advice columnist!
I'm asking this question because i'm desprete! (no offence) My mom has this hatrid for schools and so i'm home schooled but I don't get taught anything! Some of you may think this is great but I want to go to collage and my mom is excepting me have my GED when I turn 16 which is in 2 years. My mom says thats its my responsability to remind her to teach me. Its just that I don't like to remind her because all she does is give me the same stuff to that she has been giving me for the last 6 years. My mother REALLY depressed and I am having a hard time with her. this year when school starts I should be in 9th grade and in high school but I amm really scared about what to do! because if the state knew that I'm not getting any schooling they would take me away. I mean I'm getting to the point to where I'm going to tell the state. Please don't tell me tell my mother to put me in school because I have done that MANY times and trust me my mom isn't pretty when she is mad.
I have taught myself to read and write play the piano and many other things that I could learn to do in school. I am very advanced in piano and I write poetry and I have one that is published and I have storys published in magazines too. i am very good at cooking and baking. sewing.
So you see I'm not stupid but I cant go any futher now. I NEED to be in school.
I really could use your advice! i really would like an aults point of veiw on this but will take anybodys advice.
thankyou you can e-mail me at kutekrushkat@yahoo.com
signed
not stupid
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Hey poetry girl. I had no idea you were in such a situation. I'm the one you wrote to about poetry. Everyone here has excellent advice. Why does your mom hate school so much? My guess is that she is over-protective and is afraid you'll get mixed up with the wrong crowd, gangs, bullies, take your pick. But if she is really concerned about your welfare, then she needs to realize that she is not doing you a favor by sheltering from the world, then refusing to give you the education you need to survive in that world. Does she expect you to live at home forever? Don't you have older siblings or family you can discuss this with? If so, then you need to arrange an "intervention" where you all sit down and talk to your mother about her need to keep you dependant on her, and her depression. I think you and her both need help. You need to go together to a family counselor and discuss this. If this won't work, go to the nearest school and ask a school counselor for help. Nobody should be deprived of a good education, and she may just not be able to provide it because she is not well. No offense, but this does not sound normal. Find someone you can trust, and take action right away! Let me know what happens. You can write me at nicegirl90247@yahoo.com
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First, make your mom buy you a book called "Cracking the GED" by the Princeton Review. It contains all the information you will need to take the GED test. You've got two more years to learn the basics of what's in that book. It should contain some sample tests to help you identify what your weak points are. The actual GED test changes from year to year but the book should give you a baseline from which to work.
When (not if, WHEN) you apply to college you'll need a bit more than the Princeton Review can give you. You don't have the kind of problem that can be addressed with a quick fix. So I've also written to you via E-mail; write me back and tell me what you think.
Good luck.
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teach me how to cook...i'll pay, i'll pay!
a year ago, i typed in "science standards for seventh grade" in google. here is one of the websites i got:
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so...go do that, only with a different subject and grade...i'm sure you can find something!
good luck!
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It is a federal law that children go to school, and if you want college, believe me, hold onto that dream. It's a fantastic and wonderful place. You must inform someone. Your mother is not providing the duties she is required to, and if you can take action, you absolutely must. It is your future that is in danger. You know that. She sounds like she's in the middle of some psychological problems, so this is a situation where you have to help yourself the first step. Authorities only want the best for you. Go ahead and tell someone.
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You are definitely not stupid. Wow, you have a lot of talents. Cooking? Baking? Sewing? Yeah, I can sorta sew, but I can't do anything food-related aside from cooking noodles. I regret to say that I'm not an adult, but I am good at advising people. Alright, have you tried just sitting down with her and calmly explaining that, though you appreciate all she's doing (even if you don't - a little white lie never hurt anyone), you feel like you'd get more out of life if you were to go to a school? Now you know she hates schools, but she must love you. She undoubtedly wants what's best for you - most (not all, but most) parents do. Make sure you never use the word "you" when talking to her. Never say "I know you don't want me to go to school, but I think you should let me," or anything like that. My suggestion, to fix that sentence, would be something like "I think I should be allowed to go to school next year. It would help me so much, and I really want to learn," or something like that. Just remember, if she gets pissed, keep your cool. If you want more help, or someone to talk to, feel free to IM me (SirenCytherea), or e-mail me at DemonIre1024@hotmail.com. Good luck! ^_^
-Siren
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My younger daughter was home schooled because she wasn't learning anything in public schools. I put both daughters in a small inexpensive private school when my oldest was in 10th grade. She graduated from there (still not knowing much) and is now attending college. She is in her third year. My younger daughter stopped attending school in 9th grade. She was essentially self taught, passed her GED, and is also attending college. She is in her first year.
The home school program here requires you to keep records. They don't check them, but you need them in case they ask. If your mother cannot show a structured home school program, they will not necessarily take you away, but they will require you to attend public school.
There are correspondence courses that you can use. You can research on the internet for home schooling at the high school level and ask your mother to get them. They will give you enough information to pass the GED. With a GED you can enroll in a community college, and transfer to a regular college after that.
So you can improve the home schooling you are now getting. Or you can contact the state and force the issue of attending public schools. I don't know if that would be an improvement, considering my own experience.
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Its not your responisbility to remind her, its hers as your legal gardian and 'teacher'.
It sounds like you may have to go behind your mothers back, and get into a state school.
Or maybe you could suggest that you think your mother isn't coping well and could you get the state to send you a tutor. That way your mother wont have to worry about you being in school, but you will still be learning.
On a personal aside, I really admire you for being able to teach your self to read and write ect.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
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