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Hey, my name is Val and I love writing, cheerleading, fanfiction, skating, hanging out with my friends, etc. I'll be happy to help out with any questions you have. :)
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ok ive been wit this guy for 3 1/2 months......i kno im to young to love someone but i seriously would be in a state of deppression without him......anyway ive been really mean to him lately like startin fights wit him for no apparent reason..and being sarcastic just to get him pissed..........lASt week i broke up wit him 3 times and we got back together but im so obsessed with him but i cant stop treating him this way.......it might be just because of my perod (i hope so) but im so mean and i dont want to lose him......how can i try to stop acting this way
plz help me
Perhaps you two are spending too much time together. Wait until your period is over before spending a lot of time with him again. You could be becoming too dependent on the relationship, as well, in which case you might need to find some extracurriculars to keep you busy and still maintain a healthy relationship with your boyfriend. Do you know why you're being mean to him? Try to avoid it if you can.
ok i've had sex numerous times (with the same person who ive been datin for a mad long time) but the problem is i have gotten my period this month and ive taken several pregnancy tests and they all came back neg. why havent i gotten it yet? i would talk someone but my mom would be so dissapointed because my sister had kids at an early age and i'm her "last hope" please tell me wats wrong
Wait longer before taking another test. You could just be late, not necessarily pregnant.
my sisters know almost all my business. i tell them almost everything and there 11 and im 15. is it bad that they know about my personal stuff?
If you feel comfortable with them knowing what's going on in your life, then it's not bad at all. If you don't want them to know these things, don't tell them.
It's good, though, that you have people to talk to that don't go to your school and will love you no matter what. ♥
Ok me and my boyfriend have bene dating 3 weeks and we hug intimately and stuff and I lvoe him..adn I get urges to kiss him..I really want to..but the teachers cant see...cause my parents will know..and only my mom knows about the guy and my dad is not clued in at all...and i really love him and i want to kiss him..but im also afraid..i mean im a very pessimistic, paranoid, frightened, depressed type person...i know he wants to kiss me..so what should we do
Kiss him in the janitor's closet. That way, the only person who'll know is the janitor who's hiding in there, and he likes the free porn, so he won't tell.
But on a serious note, kiss your boyfriend when you're not in school. If you can't date him, then find another time to do it.. maybe when you're walking home from school or something? Hope this helped! ♥
Okay well i guess this isn't a diet, but all I eat pretty much is like junk food and im kinda overweight..i think anyways..so i want to try and stop eating that and eat healthy. The thing is, since thats like all thats in my house is things that are bad for you its hard and thats what i crave all the time-sugar or something so its really hard to stick with it..what should i do to keep with the healthy food and stuff and not eat sugary things or junk food??
Stop buying junkfoods. Start buying fruits and vegetables to replace the sugary foods, and buy the healthier versions of some of the junk. Watch out for hydrogenated fat, trans fat, and too much unnatural sugar. Give into your cravings once in a while as a treat, but don't eat junk food all day and night. Make it an easy and smooth transition.
hey i had my period and i dont wanna tell my mom. but how do i get the pads and tampons and stuff? and how do i explain it when i get cramps and stuff
help meeeee
I think you honestly should tell your mom - sure, friends are cool to go to for advice, but your mom has been through it all and she knows the situation better. What your mom went through is probably similar to what you'll go through.
But if you're not going to tell your mom, stick to buying pads instead of tampons. Tampons are dangerous if you don't know how to put them in, so pads are really the safer choice, and wiser for beginners. You can get them at any drugstore, and you'll see ads for various brands in teen magazines.
For cramps, just take a painkiller (or two- it depends on what does the trick for you). If your mom doesn't trust you in the medicine cabinet, then you might as well tell her what's up. It'll save you a lot of explaining later on. She's eventually going to find out.
Hope my advice helps! ♥
ok... i am a little overweight and I like this guy who is really cute. and my parents own a pizza joint so everytime we get in a fight (which is like everyday), he says that i get loaded from my parents shitty pizza... and i get really offended and i still really like him... should i still be his friend? should i block him from my screen name? help please
Don't block him, but don't be so friendly to him. I think you're being a little too available with him, and he thinks that you'll like him no matter what, so he say whatever the heck he wants to say in order to see if you'll still like him.
I'd say let him be the one to start the conversations, be a little colder with him, and show him that you have a head on your shoulders and that you CAN live without him. Guys like hard-to-get girls, and this way, you can see if he was ever really worth it. I can't tell you to stop having feelings for him, but I would say that you should stay away from him for a little while.. let him be the one to approach you.
okay my motto is that I'm young wnough not to know and old enough not to give a ....(fill in the blank)
and u see.. with me that pretty much means that I'm leagle... even though I'm 16
So.. is it bad to have a crush on someone who is like 7 years older than me? And what if it possibly happened 2 turn out to be something in like a year or so... is this wrong?
I think a lot of the time, we have crushes on people we shouldn't have because it's convenient and we like the feel of it. That's perfectly fine- but don't let things go further than a crush. Older guys can be manipulative, first off, and that's not fair to you. Also, it would be illegal, and if you are truly in love with this guy and he loves you too, then wait it out for the next couple of years.
ok i have a problem, i like this senior at my school ALOT!!! not only do i see him at school, but i swim with him 8 times a week. im only a sophmore, but i like him so much. we talk all the time and he hugs me and he always calls me his fav. he doesnt have a gf and hes only kissed a person once. hes really extremly smart, and i am really sad that he is leaving...i really dont know what to do about the situation...please help!
He sounds like a great guy! He's shown some interest in you, apparently, from what it sounds like, so I think you should really be the one to make the next move. Let him know how you feel about him, while you've still got him here. ♥
as u know by now my grandma tried too kill herself.she was nerly dead but my uncle caught her just in time.i dont know what im going to do now i feel angry,upset and cheated.im angry cos shes so selfish how could she do that.i cant face her nad i cant talk to her anymore.any know how i can start talking again?i want to cos i know she hasnt got long left.plse reply swn bfor its too late.xx
I'm sorry about your grandma. That's really got to be tough. Try to realize, though, that she probably wasn't trying to be selfish when she wanted to kill herself.
Talk to her when you've cooled down a bit. Nobody lives forever- you need to keep your communication before she dies, otherwise you'll regret holding back. I suggest a good heart-to-heart if you want to feel better.
I have a friend who I want to take on vacation with me thi summer. Only I don't want my other friends to be hurt and mad. I have some friends who are very tepermental and stuff. Don't tell me not to tell them, because I know the secret will get out. What should i do???
Don't lie to your other friends, but don't say anything unless they ask. If they want to know what you're doing this summer, you can tell them you and your friend are going on vacation, but don't go boasting it if they're the jealous type.
If they get really mad about it, they're not really your friends. Sorry if that was way too straightforward but I had to say it.
is it okay to wear a black hat (like the french type of hats) when you're wearing a black dress, black sandals, and nude tights? and the dress is like 3 inches above the knee...
That sounds cute! I'd say, go for it!
OK im the only gurl i swear in my 9th grade class that likes cars and i sumtimes get made fun of 4 it
should i find sumthin else to be interested in or dont kare wut they say?
Don't change your interests because of what others think. First of all, there are plenty of girls out there that love cars, too... maybe not in your class, but perhaps in your school. You should try not to be too discouraged because of a few girls making fun of you.
Also, they're probably jealous because you do have something in common with the guys, and I'm sure they like that. Try not to let the girls bother you... while they're busy worrying about makeup and being prissy, you can impress a cute guy with your car knowledge. ;D
I have to sell these gold cards for a fund raiser at my school for us to go on a trip in may... and I sold 4 today but I still have to sell 6 more in order for my whole trip to be payed for and these things are kind of hard to sell b.c. they are $10 each..but they have 142 discounts in a 90 mile radius that u can use as many times up until 10.31.05... any ideas as to where i can go to sell them?
If you're on a sports team or another type of extracurricular activity, and you know people who haven't been sold the cards already, you should hit them up. Try neighbors, relatives, friends of family, or anyone else you think might be interested. Give some to your parents to bring to work, if you'd like.
Also, if your family has contributed to any fundraisers for other kids in the neighborhood, go try to sell the cards to those people. After all, they owe you. ^^
Hope this helped! ♥
Srry this is so long.
ok i broke up wit my boyfriend last month , cuz he moved to florida, nd for his birthday this month i sent him a plane ticket, bak to new jersey to visit som friends, nd when me nd my family picked him up from the airport , he tld me he was goin out wit my best friend, nd he said he still had strong feelings me tho, nd i tld him i still had strong feelings for him. nd the other night he slept in my room , nd me and my best friend slept in the guest room , nd when i went to get my clothes out of my room , he kissed me , nd my friend came in the room while he was kissin me , so now she's mad at me, nd he wants to go out wit me again. Wut should i do? Should i go out wit him again? or Should i jus let him nd my best friend go out? Wut Should i do bout my best friend bein made at me?
Before going out with him again, you have to talk to your friend. Explain to her that you still have feelings for your ex, and that when you kissed him, you were never trying to hurt her. Have a heart-to-heart. If she takes it well, that's great, and you should definitely pursue the relationship with the guy you really like. If she is still mad at you after that, you have to decide what's more important - your friendship, or the guy you really like - and that's your decision alone.
I am 17/f 220lb and like 6 foot tall, I was wondering if you think it will be posiable to lose like 50lb by august if i work out (go 2 curves) and eat right and diet? cause when i went to curves before I lost 20 lb in a month. or can you give me any good diets or things to do? thanks alot i will rate you
My sister lost some weight on South Beach diet, and I know a lot of other people who tried it too and it worked for them. Try it! It's worth a shot.
One mistake that a lot of people make is eating super late at night. When you eat late at night, the food just sits there while you're asleep, and you tend to gain weight from that. Also, be sure to get plenty of exercise AND sleep- sleep deprivation causes problems not only mentally, but it makes it more difficult when you're trying to lose weight because your body is more run down.
Be sure to eat healthy foods. It's okay to give in to your cravings once in a while, but remember to read labels and try not to go overboard on junk foods.
Hope this helped! My dad's really into nutrition, so I learn a lot about it from him. If you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask me in my advice column page. :) Good luck with that weight!
♥ Val
I'm looking for an online forum/bbs/message board that is for teens that has like fashion, trends, recipes, pixels, etc. I rate 5 everytime someone posts a forum! Thanx
I was thinking maybe you should try one of those free online journals, such as Blurty, LiveJournal, or GreatestJournal. (I recommend GreatestJournal, if you do.) They allow you the freedom of your own journal to post your thoughts in, and you can post these privately, or to the public, or even to a limited group of people.
These journal sites also allow you to join communities, where you can talk with other people through threads and ask your own questions. You can join a specific community for a TV show you like, a certain celebrity, a book or movie, fashions, recipes, graphic design, and many more! There are even rating communities for people to compare pictures and whatnot. It's really neat. You could try that! I think they have a forum, as well, and you meet people from all over.
Good luck! :) Hope this helped.
♥ Val
Ok, my head hurts really bad. Its not a headache ( I know when I have a headache) and Its kind of a weird feeling, like my head is a melon and everytime I lay down or bend over, my head feels like its goign to fall off. My nose is all stuffy and I have no idea if I am getting sick or what. What do you think this is, the flu? What should I take (over the counter) to help me get better? Thanks
I remember last year, a bunch of my friends were coming down with flu-like symptoms, some different than others. While mine was more of a high fever than anything else, one of my good friends came down with similar symptoms to what you have.
You should go to the doctor to confirm this (or talk to a pharmacist) but if you do indeed have the flu, which I suspect, then you should try this anti-Viral that really worked for me. It's called TamiFlu and it's supposed to cut the duration of your flu in half. Look it up online in Google or something if you need more information.
Feel better! :) Hope this helped!
♥ Val
I came to a new school this year and i hav a couple new friends and i eally miss my old friends and hardly ever hear from some of them. I kind of feel like my new friends are replacing my old ones but i know they're not and they are great friends. Every time we go to the CVS in my old neighborhood i think it would be the coolest thing if i saw them. Someone please help me.
If you live within an hour or so of your old neighborhood, then you should definitely go back and visit your friends on weekends and during breaks from school. Since you feel like your new friends are replacing the old, why not hold some sort of social event where both sets of friends can meet? Even plan a trip to the skating rink or the movies or wherever you like to go to socialize.
Make sure you keep in touch with your old friends that you want to stay friendly with. From personal experience, I know that if you want to keep a longer-distance friendship going, you should stay in communication.
Good luck! :) Hope this helped!
♥ Val
I need advice on some science fair ideas!!!! I need some realy cool looking science fair projects .. it would be nice to have some websites or even ideas for me to look up! Very open and i will rate high for all ideas!!! Thanks a million please help!!!
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I had the same dilemma last year, finding a topic, but there were some interesting projects in my class. I chose how music affects your concentration and memory, in which subjects were to try and complete a memory game in two minutes time while listening to a certain type of music. (If you do that, make sure you take into account age, gender, etc. because it can have somewhat of an effect.)
Other project ideas I remember were how color affects memory, how different temperatures of water affect the mood of a lobster (you need lobsters for that one, though!), how cell phones affect concentration, etc. Try Yahooligans search engine or Ask Jeeves for more ideas. :) Hope this helped!