about

I'm a 17 year old guy from the city of Stockholm, Sweden. I've spent most of my life in the suburbs, and just recently moved to the inner city, It's so much better. I'm kinda short i guess, like 180cm (that's around 6 feet if your too lazy to google it) or maybe less, i dunno. I'm studying Science / Computer and Math at the moment, don't know how that happened, cause I hate math and I hate science, stuff change I guess. I do ok in school though, specially the artsy stuff like music and 3dmax.
I'd say music is my main interest, I'm the singer of a punkrock band, and it's basically the best thing in my life right now.
I'm not with someone at the moment, and not exactly looking to be either.
Please don't ask me about help when it comes to programming, I really suck at it, I only listed it as an occupation because i somehow manage to get paid for it ones in a while.
Other than that, ask away, i'll be happy to help.
and by the way, they should really ad a drugs category here, think it could help a few people.

advice

I need to lose weight and I love to swim. I've heard it was good exercise but i dont know what to do. I would like to lose the majority by the end of the summer. I would really appreciate anyone's help.

swimmings good, but remember that it also makes your shoulders bulkier, so if you don't want that, you might not want to overdo it.
The best way to loose weight is low intensity training, like walking, high intensity workouts like
weightlifting, running, and to some extent, swiming are better for building muscles

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well to start things off i really liked the girl the first time we started going out and we went out for three months and then broke up...she broke up with me because she said that i was to nice and just a great friend and i was not thrilled by this but i lived with it and became her best friend she has ever had but now that i have done that i really want to get back together with her cause she is such a great girl .... this pass weekend i hung out with her everyday and then on sunday i was taking her home and i told her that this weekend has been great and i really enjoyed spending time with her and then i asked if she wanted to give us another shot and she said she dont no...Now i love this girl to death and would do anything for her what do you think she will say ... and do yoou think i made the wrong move?? Thanks I rate!!

OK, your doing several things wrong here...
First off, your putting her on a piedestal,
you actually stated you'd do anything for her.
I think the main reason you are so in love with her is you can't have her, people wan't what they can't have. This is also the very reason she doesn't want you, because she CAN have you, and she knows she can. She's basically established dominance over you,
she's the prize, you have to work for her, this is NEVER good. Don't know how much you've dated other than this girl, but if you've dated a few girls, have you noticed how the ones you don't like always end up liking you alot?
This is where something called "The Game" comes in play, even if your head over heels with a girl, don't let her know that, cause then your no challenge, be a challenge! Almost all people who are succesful when it comes to dating, act hard to get, it just works. Also, try hitting her with some neghits (negative comments), though keep it funny, always funny, never mean.

In Conclusion, let her come to you, make her work for your approval, because then she'll actually want it, need it even. Oh, and NEVER, EVER, take advice from your Mom, your Sister or any close female friend when it comes to girls.

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the volume on my computer wont work! the volumes up the highest it can go and it's NOT on mute! the volume just won't work! i did everything right and this is the 3rd time it happened. and i forgot how i did it the other times. my mom and dad tried and they can't get it to work either! how do i get the volume to work?

You might have a problem with the drivers for the soundcard, or the soundcard might be broken, go to "My Computer >> Hardware" and use the tools you find there to locate the problem (that is if your using windows)

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ok, so ive tried everything but i sweat alot under my arms
does anyone have any tips on how to make my arpits stop sweating so much?
thanks

If you're a girl, you might already be doing this, but if your not, try shaving your armpits, supposedly (i haven't tried because i don't have this problem). Other than that, antiperspirant deodorant usually works like a charm.

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ok so this guy asked me out. and i dont know if i like him or not. he is really nice and cool and i dont want to hurt his feelings by saying no. but i dont know if i like him!

i dont really know him. i only hung out with him once. im so confused. i dont know what to do!!!!!!

PLEASE HELP!!! ill rate 5's for anything.

Ok, first, chill. It's not the end of the world if it turns out you don't like him.
You've only hung out with him once and he asked you out, that's called a date. Since he doesn't know you either i doubt that he'll be heartbroken if you don't like him, even though rejection stings in any form.
So here's what you do:
You go on the date, talk to him, relax, there's really no pressure on you, it's just a date, it doesn't make you a couple or anything.
By dating him, you'll get to know him better, and by doing that you'll find out if you like him or not.
CHILL

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So I like this guy a little bit but I rarely am able to see him. Also I am almost positive he doesnt think of me in that way even tho he says im cute and hot and stuff.
I really want to hang out with him! but if I invite him over i kno my parents will emberess me.
How can i hang out with him and what can I do when I hang out with him?

Give your parents a chance, they might surprise ya.
Also, I don't think he'll care that much about it if they do, parents will be parents.
A good activity to do when you want things to happen would be movies... preferably at home, tho not in the living room or anything, cause that's just scary, parents hanging around and stuff.
Going to the cinema is another way, but it's harder because they usually have armrests inbetween the chairs so you're kinda "separated" (Plus some people are kinda shy about making out in public).
My game is usually just, invite her over, put on a good movie (in my room), start making out and ignore the movie. Hope some of what I wrote helps.

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I'v ealways liked to be there for people when they're going through a rough patch but lately it seems as though there has been a rapidly growing number of friends and aquaintances who continually whine and sodding whinge to me about the same problems yet refuse to actually do anything to help themselves.

I'm a nice person, honestly, but i can't take much more of this before I totally snap at someone. I'll be there for them and help them but they need to realise I'm not their emotional sponge there to soak up every little worry and complaint. What do i do?

I feel for you, It's been a problem for me too.
Thing is, you can't take on everybody else's problems all the time, it'll make you depressed too... Carrying other peoples burden weighs you down. I'm in a pretty bad state myself because of some of the things i've had to take on, and it's not something i would recommend unless you really care about the person.

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I'm 13 and in seventh grade. one of my best friend has a boyfriend. her boyfriend told me that his friend liked me. i didnt even no who he was but then i got to no him and he is so cute and nice and always is making me laugh. i really like him a lot. just last friday we had a dance. and before i got there 2 of my friends went up to him and was like "do you like lor?"(me) And hes said "yeah but.." and then just walked away. when i got there they go up to him again (when im not with them) and was like "are you going to ask her to slow dance or something?" and he goes "i can't i have a girlfriend.." there just like "what? i thought you liked her" and hes like "i do i just have a girlfriend" so my friends tell me what happened and i got pretty upset but of course i didn't show it. i am so confused. but instead of dancing i was just with him the whole night. i like him so much and one of my friends was with me and there like "omg he is so going to brake up with his girlfriend for you he keeps flirting with you" and i wanted it to be true but i dont no what to believe. i saw his girlfriend.. but the only commmunacation they did all night was say hi.. they didnt even slow dance together. im so confused and i dont no what to do =[ please help.

i'd sit tight, ball's sort of in his corner.

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well i really do not like my job. i don't talk to any of the people there except for one of them because i go to school with him and i like him. also my job interferes with a lot of things like my friends and how i have been doing in school. it just stresses me out a lot where i had a melt down the other night. so should i keep it and see how things go or quit so i can finish high school and not have so many problems.

If it's between finishing highschool and not finishing highschool, go with the first one.
You'll get nowhere without it, and even if you did, it'd bug you. Question is, what do you need the money for? If it's to help out at home, I can see why it might be necessary, but if you wan't to buy clothes and stuff, aren't your education and friends more important?

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ok im crazy about my bf. no one knows im dating him. he would do anything for me. but im worried what everyone will think. me and him have talked about it. and he is cool with it. he said it is my life and i can let people knwo about us only if i want. im not ashamed of him by no means. i dont know why i cant tell anyone. he always says that we dotn have to have the whole world nkow about us to have a good relationship. i agree. but i feel like im keeping my life away from everyone. what would you do in my position. ill rate high.

Well, I don't really see the problem here, If you like him, and you're not ashamed of him, then why not tell your friends?
You didn't write your age, so i don't know if that's the problem, but seriously, why not tell people?

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i picked this out to show a girl how much i care what do you think?

I'm not sure if you know or not
But I really do love you a lot.
You still hold a special place in my heart
And you did, right from the start.
But when he came along and took your breath away,
I was devastated and didn't know what to say.
I spend my nights crying, time after time,
I spent my days lying, saying I was fine.
Little did you know, my heart was crushed inside,
And on that day, a little of me died.
But with her, you look so in love
'Cause you are an angel from above.
I now have to teach my heart to move on,
For, you are now forever gone.
But about one thing I am unsure:
Why it can't be me, and not him?

Yeah, she'll know how much you care, A little too much! Unless she really likes you back already, you'll probably just scare her.
And if she's with a boyfriend, that's probably not the case.
Sorry to disappoint you, you'd think that romantic stuff works, but it usually doesn't.
I've been there, on both sides, and when i've gotten something like that, a poem or letter or whatever, it's usually just scared me.
"Who needs someone, who needs someone?"

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I have this boyfriend. He always says he lovesme but i cant say it to him. I dated this one guy and he said he loved me to and my heart naver beated and i never felf uncomfortable with him. But my new boyfriend i always fell uncomfortable and my heart always beats REALLY fast. He has tried to kiss me but i always move away. but i always kissed my old bf. do i have feelings for my new bf? I NEED HELP REALLY BAD! an i rate high for any decent awnser.

You've never kissed your boyfriend? If you like him, why not? But as those three little words go, don't say them unless you really mean them.

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I just recently started to fall for my best friend. We've always been close, but I never suspected that he liked me. Then all of a sudden he started flirting with me, and it was really cool. But then the next day, we got into the conversation of who we liked, and he straightout said some other girl. I got heart broken, but I still contiune to hang out with him. Now everytime I see him, I just get a bad feeling in my stomach, and I just dont want to be in a bad mood. I'm not the same person around him anymore. I know he could have just been to shy to say he liked me, but my other feelings overpower those. What should I do?
If you have any advice, you can talk to me at kmvb82791 on aim.

He might just be playing hard to get you know.
Don't let it get to you.
Oh and, don't listen to those people saying to stay away from going further with friends, those can be the best relationships, and definately worth the risk.

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Well , i really like this guy in 7th grade, but the thing is I'm in 8th grade. I don't really know him that well but i really like him.
I know him well enough to like ask him out, but i dont want to yet.
I know some of my friends would give me a hard time about it but i know his friends wouldn't.
Should i ask him out or not?
I rate high for help
x0
>torn

yeah, go for it, why not?

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For Christmas my bf got me this necklace. I can't say I am dissapointed, don't get me wrong, I am so happy he got me something! And it is beautiful. The only thing is that it is a little formal. It has dimaonds all over the chain and stuff (I don't think they are real though). But my question is, should I wear it everytime I see him? It is a little formal to wear with a normal outfit like jeans and a tanktop. I wore it to a New Years party and he noticed that I was wearing it cause he said, "oh you are wearing it!" and was playing with it. Should I wear it to school? It just seems a little formal. Do you think he would care if I didn't? I sorta wish he would have gotten me something a little casual.
14/f

Heh, he's a guy, doubt he cares all that much, just don't never wear it, cause then he might think you don't like it

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ok so i am 5'4 and weigh 131. i have big hips and i a pulgy stomach. for spring break me adn alot of friends are going to panama city, so i want to look good in a bathing suit. i would like to loose 15-25 in about 2 1/2 to 3 months. i am willing to try exercising alot, and eating only good foods. the thing is that i dont know what exercises are good and what foods to eat// not eat to looke weight!! any help is appreciated. thanks!!!

You should stay away from "fast" carbohydrates, like sugar, pasta (except wholegrain), rice, white bread, cereal. Basically, eat food that digests slower. Also, you should make sure you eat regularly, and often. Instead of eating alot 3 times a day, eat smaller portions 6 times a day. Also, don't eat late at night. Vegetables are of course good, they provide you with vitamins, which help you digest food.
Also, for loosing weight, you should use low intensity training, like walking, this burns alot of fat.

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Here's my problem. When I had Windows 98SE on my Pentium 1, my Windows Media Player played just fine, but now I've upgraded to a Pentium 3 (still using Windows98SE) and the songs skip quickly through the whole song. Is there an adjustment I have to make?And where?
Thanks Cujo

Speed connections probably has something to do with your internet connection. Has nothing to do with the playback. Also, the processer has nothing to do with this problem. My suggestion: Get Winamp

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15/f

I just had sex for my first time 2 nights ago. I'd like to get checked by the doctor for any diseases. Is it possible for me to ask a doctor and get a test done without my parents knowing anything? Including the results. Even if the results came out positive, I want it to be kept secret. Do you know if doctors tell parents this kind of information?

depends where you live, in sweden there are special youth clinics where you can do this, but if you were wearing a condom you should be pretty much ok, and besides, if you're not showing any symptoms, why worry?

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when i am with my friends i am really outgoing because im like comfortable with them you know? and also im a huge flirt. ok so people tell me that i think im the sh*t and i think im so cool and pretty and all of the boys love me. but thats not the case. what should i do because this is causing me a lot of trouble. it really sucks that people think that of me. please help. thank you ♥

fuck them, you are the shit, don't listen to those people, theyre probably just jealous.

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okay i really like this guy like Alot and we were talking durin the summer but kinda stopped cause we go to differnt schools and all so it wasnt working and now i still have feelings for him and all but we agreed to atleast wait till we can drive which is in a month or so but how will i know if he still likes me or wants to still make it work? i dont want to come out and be like do you still like me cause im not that forward with people but what are some ways i could tell him with out making it obvious

don't ask him who do you like these days like goodadvice 24 said, that indicates that you don't like him, and guys don't want to get that question from girls they like.

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