I know most of the questions are posted by teenagers. I'm 24, so I'm old enough to have experience but young enough to remember my teenage years. I also know the drama of youth doesn't last forever, so I'd like to help you get past those stressful years. I'm getting married, so I know the ups and downs of relationships.Think of me as an older sister type of person full of wisdom and advice, but hip enough to remeber my youth:)
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i really want to babysit for someone. how do i start a babysitting job so i can earn some money? i am in 7 grade is that too old or too young? if i cant do any babysitting what other job can i do at my age? how do i go about finding babysitting jobs? (link)
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First of all, there isn't a certain age that would be good to start babysitting- it depends on your maturity level. Ask yourself these questions- 1. Are you mature? 2. Do you like children? 3. Are you willing to give up free time in order to babysit? 4. Are you willing to give the child your FULL attention when babysitting- no tv, phone calls, reading, naps etc.. but actually interacting with the child? 5. Can you tolerate the child's screaming/fits/loud play? 6. When you are on a babysitting job, do you realize you must stay with the child at all times?
If you are able to fulfill these requirements, then ask neighbors, family friends, and relatives who have children to let you babysit or to recommend you to people they know.
If you don't feel like you are ready to babysit, perhaps you could clean houses, walk dogs, do yard work, provide pet care, or run small errands.
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whatz giveing head? (link)
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oral sex (which means sexual contact between one partner's mouth/tongue and the other partner's private parts) performed on a man
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I am Juliet. My Romeo is gay. At the end of the play there's a kissing scene. So as not to offend his homosexuality I need to learn how to fake kiss. Any ideas? (link)
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"All the world's a stage..." You are an actress and he is an actor and there is no fear to offend him with a fake stage kiss. It is no different than kissing a male actor that you don't know well. Anytime you are kissing someone in such a planned, contrived way as a play, the kiss will be a bit awkward. Overall, he is probably just as nervous as you are b/c it is a new experience for him( I mean acting and kissing on stage). Trust me, in front of all those people you have nothing to fear about offending him with a fake kiss- he won't even be thinking about it, nor will you.
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The kid pooped on his finger and gave me a poopy-willie in my ear. I have no idea what to do i don't even know how to change a diaper. His parents are out of town for a month and i have stuff in my ear. What on earth do you propose I do? Should i
a. Clean it out
b. leave it for proof
c. Take a picture for proof
d. Call 911 and get to the emergency room
e. All of the above
One more question,is this hazardus to my health?
Thank you
Big Momma P (link)
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I honeslty think this question is a hoax, because no one can be this, uh, well, stupid (leaving poop in your ear is just stupid). If you can't change a diaper, you shouldn't be watching the child for a month. And if you are nasty enough to leave it for proof, you deserve whatever happens to you for leaving it in. For goodness sakes, people will leave their kid with anybody. It won't kill you. Clean your ear, clean the child, then put him in time out for pooping on his finger. If you are still worried call your doctor, but I think he'll laugh at you.
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is it a bad thing to fall asleep while ur babysitting a 3 yearold in summer while thre in a pool?
~>confused (link)
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I will be frank with you- It is horrible. It sounds like you are too immature to be babysitting if you can not stay awake while the child is in the pool. If you know you will be babysitting, get plenty of sleep the night before. If you are still sleepy, don't let the child in the pool. If you get sleepy while the child is in the pool, have enough sense to get the child out of the pool when you become too drowsy to watch him/her. Dry the child off. Involve the child in some SAFE activity and maybe, then maybe, you can doze while watching the child do the safe activity.
I'm sorry to be so harsh, but you should not be babysitting if you are not responsible enough to have the good sense to know you should not sleep while a three year old child is in a swimming pool where he/she could drown.
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i made my news years resolution to loose weight but the only problem is i cant stop eating like even when i am not hungry i need help and just to let you know iam 14 1/2 and over wieght (link)
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I've struggled all my life with my weight, too, so I know what I'm talking about.
First talk to your mother/father/guardian/trusted adult. Ask them to make you an appointment with your doctor to discuss healthy ways to loose weight. Maybe your doctor could recommend a HEALTHY diet or a program like Weight Watchers. Exercise is a must in order to lose weight, keep weight off, and to have a healthy, toned body. Diets will do you NO GOOD WITHOUT EXERCISE. If you start exercising now, you will improve your heart health and lessen your risk of illness later on. Yes your young, but I wish I had started taking care of myself when I was your age because the longer you excercise in your life, the healthier your adulthood will be.
Please remember that to lose weight and keep it off, it will be slow. Losing weight too fast makes you gain it faster and causes you to actually gain much more in the long run (trust me, I've made the crash diet mistake losing lots then gaing it plus more back).
Get a hobby to keep you busy, it sounds like you are eating out of boredom. But not a tv or computer hobby b/c you can eat then. Take up something to keep your hands busy, like knitting. (All the stars knit, plus you can make gifts for people or stuff for yourself).
Good luck
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im so much in love with neighbor and i wanna tell him but the words wont come out please help me?? (link)
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Maybe you could start by doing some nice, neighborly things, like baking him cookies, clipping newspaper/magazine articles you think he'd like (about things you know he is interstested it), loaning him a bestseller you just read that you think he'd like. I know it may seem cliche, people really do appreciate things like this. So, start doing random, nice things for him. Be friendly. Talk to him when you see him outside, or invite him in to watch tv or have coffee, or dinner. By then he'll definately condsider you a friend, and the best relationships start with friendship. Or he'll start liking you or at least you will be more comfortable with him and thus, be able to talk to him more easily.
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how far into your relationship were you when you decited to have sex? (link)
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I will be 100% honest with you. When I was 14, I had sex with a guy I had been dating for three months. We broke up within the month That was a huge mistake, because not only was I too young, I did not know him well enough. Similar situations happend to most of my female friends in junior high and high school. They were not necessarily my age, but they jumped into a sexual relationship too soon and their relationship didn't last a month. So basically, for a new relationship between young partners, sex is basically the end of the relationship.
My current relationship begin when I was 16 and we did not have sex until I was 18. I actually loved my boyfriend and knew he loved me and I we both knew we had a lot more in common than just sex. I'm now 24 and we are still together (now living together) and, in fact, we are getting married in May. It is a proven fact (in both my case and in psychological studies) that the longer a couple waits to have sex, the more likely that they will stay together in the long term because they have more to their relationship than just the physical. I belive the stronger the relationship, the longer it can survive without becoming sexual. If it can survive the wait, then it is not worth the sex.
Basically, if you and your partner are both emotionally, physically, and mature and you are in a stable relationship, and you are using sex as an expression of love (not as a way to stay together b/c that doesn't work) then it might be the right time for you. But first, you must consider sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy and decide if you have the means to handle these situations if they do arise.
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I want to make my best friend a care package to cheer her up because that's just the sort of thing we do for each other. I guess I should put candy in it and maybe some fun little toys but I want unique little fun things, not stupid redundant little things that aren't really that fun. Anything you can think of that's surprisingly entertaining yet fits in a lunch bag? (link)
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Make her an indulge herself kit:
Relaxing scent Bubble bath, candles, imported high quality chocolates (on a limited budget by the german tolberlone bars at Wal-Mart $2 and very yummy), Freeman's Mini Facial Spa to go, manicure set, relaxing CD
Make her an inner child kit
keychain toys (like a tiny mr. potato head), fun kid's bubble bath like mr. bubbles, crayons, coloring books, her favorite candy, funky, fun ink pens, Lisa Frank stuff
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okay im like with this guy on the net and stuff and we've like been 2geter for two months rite and i like really like him and like he's all like saying about how much he luvs me and junk and want to like sped eterinity with eachother and im like i don know and like what do i like do. (link)
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If you have your doubts, then don't give in to his pressure. Follow your heart. Two months is not a long time, especially if you have not met this guy in person.
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Ok see here is the problem,I really want a boyfriend but I am afraid I will not get one because i am what some people call gothic and what other people call punk or a skater.I dont know what to do!I really want a boyfriend i feel so lonely without one what can i do to get one without changing who i am or what i belive in? Also i dont like getting rejected i think it is akward. (link)
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I would not change myself for a guy. You wouldn't really be happy. Find a guy who shares similar interests and hobbies.
Do realize that you can be a complete person without a guy. A boyfriend won't make you feel less lonely, it is better to work on your friendships, first. You must be complete in yourself before you can be happy in a relationship. A love affair is not a quick fix.
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my friend mari just got dumped by this kid zack and he likes my friend nicole.. and nicole liked him. well, mari found out about nicole and zack and she told nicole that she doesnt want them going out because she still likes zack. i tried to tell nicole not to do it because her and mari are friends. well, nicole did it to mari. and they are both my friends and i dont want to get stuck in the middle of everything. then they went to a basketball game. and nicole told me that mari went up to her and said that she is going to get zack back. and i asked mari if thats true and she said no. then she went and told nicole that i told mari nicole punched her in the face. and i didnt. and i dont know what to do! (link)
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Eek! This are the worst type of triangles and they always drag an innocent in the middle of it. Explain to both Mari and Nicole that you are friends with them both. Get them together if possible so they hear the same thing. Explain that this does not involve you and that you do not want to be dragged into the middle of their fight about a guy. Explain that you want to be both of their friend and that no guy is worth risking a true friendship for. I would also explain that you don't want to hear about this at all, no she said this, she said that. Tell them to keep you out of their fight because you are an innocent bystander who does not deserve to be dumped on so harshly by your supposed friends. If they care about you they won't drag you into their fight or make up lies about things you say. I'd probably tell them to work out their petty little argument without involving you. Then hang out with some different friends until they back off the lies and agression.
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whats the best way to tell someone you don't like them anymore?
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It may be better not to tell them that you don't like them outright. If it is a friend, tell him/her that you feel that you've grown apart and that the friendship may not suit both of you anymore. If it is because of something that person did to you, tell them what they did wrong, so they can avoid doing this to someone else in the future. If it is a lover, explain that you are no longer happy in the relationship. Be easy and don't put the blame on that person.
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ok well I have known this kid for about 2 years right. and we would date off and on. and this year I started dating him again and I introduced him to my bestfriend because I wanted them to know each other but I didn't want them to start liking each other.ok well my friend came up with the idea that both of us would date him at the same time. and I love my friend to death and i would do anything for her even this so I was like I guess. so after like 2 days I was like to my friend if you like him that much you can just go out with him I odn't like him anymore hes all yours. but I relaly didn't mean it so now the go out but I wanna tell her how I really feel what should I do? (link)
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Oh No! A good friend would have NEVER even suggested going out with your boyfriend. Tell her the honest truth. She hurt you and was a bit insane for asking. You'll get into a fight about it, but what she did was brutal.
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I'm sure everyone's sick of hearing about these type of problems, but...there's someone at school who I'm really interested in. He has a girlfriend, and I'm fine with that, but I'd like to be closer with him friend-wise. He comes up to me sometimes and occasionally sits with me for long periods of time. The only problem is, I'm extremely shy and have a lot of trouble conversing with him. I usually end up staring into space, wishing I knew what to say, while he talks a little bit. Of course I don't stay completely silent the entire time, but I feel like my lack of interesting things to say is keeping us from becoming real friends. What should I do? (link)
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Ask questions. When he comes up to you to talk, ask him questions about whatever he is talking about. Even if you already know. Have him explain things. Everyone loves and interested listener. Ask him about himself, his girlfriend, his pets, etc...anything as long as you seem truly interested.
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If you're still stuck on an ex who has a new g/f, are you as pathetic as you feel? (which is very pathetic) (link)
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No, it is hard to get over a broken heart. Just give it time. Unrequited love is very romatic. Indulge yourself in your broken heart.
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I guess, any answer to this is just a matter of opinion, but here goes....Um...Ok, my ex b/f has a new g/f, and they seem to being going strong. But, in school he seems so unhappy. I don't know. I still really like him. And I'm not saying that I won't date other people for him, or not hang out with my friends to just sit around and wait for him. But, I don't know. What do you guys think? (link)
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Talk to him, as a friend. If he has another girlfriend, don't be a homewrecker. Just explain that he seems down and you care about him and want to listen to him and help him out. AS A FRIEND.
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I'm a 16 year old girl. Lately I have been really distant and detached from everything, and I don't know what makes this attractive or if the moons are aligned or what, but all of the sudden I'm getting all of this attention from guys at school. Any other time I'd be thrilled to death, but right now I'm just kinda like, "Eh." The guys that have professed their feelings, indirectly or through my friends, are great as friends, but I'm just not interested in them in a romantic way. A month ago I'd even be happy to go out on a date with whomever, but now I want to be boyfriend-less and have a good time hanging with my friends and concentrating on school.
The one guy I do have a little bit of interest in is currently into someone else.
How do I turn these guys down without hurting their feelings or making an awkward situation? I still want to hang around with them with my friends, just not in one-on-one sessions.
Ugh. (link)
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Be honest. Say, I really like you as a friend, but I am not interested in having a romatic relationship with anyone at all right now. For this to work and not to hurt the guys, don't go out with anyone as soon as you turn these guys down. Wait a month or so, at the very least. The same thing happened when I was your age, and this approach worked very well. One of the guys is still my best friend.
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Ok, I don't wanna sound brutal or anything, but my BFF (let's call her Emma) is so freakin' boring. I'm getting into going to parties, dances, and other fun stuff. Emma is the total opposite. She'll sit at home, watching TV, or sitting on her computer for 5 hours. I really feel like she's holding me back. What should I do? (link)
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It really will benefit you to go out and make new friends. You'll only resent her in the long run if you don't do what you want. Plus, she may see how much fun your having and join you. Never limit yourself to one friend alone, your young and you need more friends and more fun. Friends do outgrow each other.
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Alright, my friend liked this guy and so did i. It all looked as if he liked my friend, but when she asked him out she found out he liked me... then he was being all a jerk to my friend... but she still likes him and can't stop liking him... ummm... then he asked her out cause i guess he realized he was being a jerk... she said i don't know... he said all suprised "You don't know!?!?"... then she talked it over with her other friend and she said no... she still likes him and now knows i like him... should I go out with him... my friend said to me the other day "Why would u want to go out with him if you saw him be such a jerk to me?" and i though about that and can't decide, and i'm afraid my friend will hate me if i do but i like him. (link)
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I honestly would not go out with this guy. He sounds like a jerk. If he treated your friend badly, chances are he will treat you badly, too. Plus, you will feel guilty whenever you are around him and your friend at the same time, trust me, I know from experience. I say you both forget about him, because honestly your friendship is more important than this guy. Whenever the relationship with the guy ends, you will regret risking (or even losing) your friendship for him. Plus, if he likes three other girls and you two, he won't be faithful.
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