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I'm sure everyone's sick of hearing about these type of problems, but...there's someone at school who I'm really interested in. He has a girlfriend, and I'm fine with that, but I'd like to be closer with him friend-wise. He comes up to me sometimes and occasionally sits with me for long periods of time. The only problem is, I'm extremely shy and have a lot of trouble conversing with him. I usually end up staring into space, wishing I knew what to say, while he talks a little bit. Of course I don't stay completely silent the entire time, but I feel like my lack of interesting things to say is keeping us from becoming real friends. What should I do?
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Explain to him why you have such trouble talking around him. tell him that you're shy and that you don't want to give him the impression that he's boring you, you're not interested, or whatever the case may be. Knowing that, he may make it a little easier for you to be comfortable enough. Or at least having the weight lifted off of your shoulders will.
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Ask questions. When he comes up to you to talk, ask him questions about whatever he is talking about. Even if you already know. Have him explain things. Everyone loves and interested listener. Ask him about himself, his girlfriend, his pets, etc...anything as long as you seem truly interested.
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if you cant talk to him in person try to talk to him on the phone or on the net. It's way easier and u dont have to see him maybe it can help u talk in person better.
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Why be shy? If he's sitting with you for long periods of time then he must want to become friends, otherwise he would ignore you! So talk to him, be yourself, act natural and just go with the flow. If you keep holding back and acting shy, then nothing will ever develop out of that.
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Who are you kidding here, girl? Deep down inside you wanted to be friends with him in hopes that he will find you interesting too...but don't worry that's completely normal. BE YOURSELF. Althought it's kinda hard being yourself when your major crush is beside you, but try harder. Pretend he is just one of your closest friend. Try to open up a conversation on a topic you're well informed of or something that is of your interest so you won't find yourself staring in space, but don't blabber too much. Most guys don't like girls who blabbers a lot. While playing this game, keep your eyes open. Who know's you might find another big fish in the sea. Goodluck!
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When he says something lead say something that relates to that. Like he says I liked the movie Elf! You say "ya I want to see that" or "that was a great movie" or "what did you get for Christmas?". Hope it works.
-shay :-)
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