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sutck in the middle
my friend mari just got dumped by this kid zack and he likes my friend nicole.. and nicole liked him. well, mari found out about nicole and zack and she told nicole that she doesnt want them going out because she still likes zack. i tried to tell nicole not to do it because her and mari are friends. well, nicole did it to mari. and they are both my friends and i dont want to get stuck in the middle of everything. then they went to a basketball game. and nicole told me that mari went up to her and said that she is going to get zack back. and i asked mari if thats true and she said no. then she went and told nicole that i told mari nicole punched her in the face. and i didnt. and i dont know what to do!
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Eek! This are the worst type of triangles and they always drag an innocent in the middle of it. Explain to both Mari and Nicole that you are friends with them both. Get them together if possible so they hear the same thing. Explain that this does not involve you and that you do not want to be dragged into the middle of their fight about a guy. Explain that you want to be both of their friend and that no guy is worth risking a true friendship for. I would also explain that you don't want to hear about this at all, no she said this, she said that. Tell them to keep you out of their fight because you are an innocent bystander who does not deserve to be dumped on so harshly by your supposed friends. If they care about you they won't drag you into their fight or make up lies about things you say. I'd probably tell them to work out their petty little argument without involving you. Then hang out with some different friends until they back off the lies and agression.
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I dont think this is your problem. I know they're your friends and you want the best for them, but right now its best to stay out of the situation.
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Just stay out of it. Dont say anything to either of them until they sort it out. But, the first and only thing you can say (for now) is..."Look, I dont deserve to be put in the middle of my friends problems, and i definatly dont need them lying to one another about what i "say". So ive decided not to talk to either of you if you wont have any consideration for my feelings. Or at least not until you sort things out." You can either do this or just every time they try to talk about each other just say "no comment" or "i dont have an opinion on any of this". I hope things work out for you and im sure they will. Friends get over guys. Its just part of life. Well hang in there.
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Well if you don't want to get stuck in the middle, like you said, then maybe its best you leave it up to them and stay out of the situation. :)
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Tell everyone to stop having anything to do with Zack. He sounds like the low life in all of this. He shouldnt have apprached anyone he knew was a friend of his ex.
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