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I feel distant and detached.
I'm a 16 year old girl. Lately I have been really distant and detached from everything, and I don't know what makes this attractive or if the moons are aligned or what, but all of the sudden I'm getting all of this attention from guys at school. Any other time I'd be thrilled to death, but right now I'm just kinda like, "Eh." The guys that have professed their feelings, indirectly or through my friends, are great as friends, but I'm just not interested in them in a romantic way. A month ago I'd even be happy to go out on a date with whomever, but now I want to be boyfriend-less and have a good time hanging with my friends and concentrating on school.
The one guy I do have a little bit of interest in is currently into someone else.
How do I turn these guys down without hurting their feelings or making an awkward situation? I still want to hang around with them with my friends, just not in one-on-one sessions.
Ugh.
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You don't seemlike anyone that as ANY trouble expressing themselves. You do so quite well. When they ask, tell them exactly the same way you stated it just now and I'm more than sure that will be enough.
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Be honest. Say, I really like you as a friend, but I am not interested in having a romatic relationship with anyone at all right now. For this to work and not to hurt the guys, don't go out with anyone as soon as you turn these guys down. Wait a month or so, at the very least. The same thing happened when I was your age, and this approach worked very well. One of the guys is still my best friend.
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Good for you! I think you are on the right track. It's pretty normal to feel that way. Maybe you've matured up a bit and got your priorities straight. Now is actually a good time to have fun and just hang around with friends. There will be plenty of time to be seriously involved with someone in the future...You're only in highschool (assuming you are) once in a lifetime.
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You need to tell them (calmly) that you just would rather remain friends with them. That you have interest in another man. That way they know what you're feeling and lay low for a while.
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well either way if you hurt the guys or not your going to have to tell them...we dont catch on to things like that too quickly.... but just be straight up with them i know i like it better when the person doesnt make up some long fake stroy so it wont hurt my feelings as for the guuy you like just wait it out but dont wait too long you gotta move on for all you know maybe hes interested in you but if he thinks youll be waiting for him when his current relationship breaks up then it will never turn out good for you....move on and see what happens you never know you may find someone a whole lot better -me
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You in a phase I went through it to. But dont detach urself from everyone because once u get out of that phase they would have ditched u and wouldn't be ur friends anymore. But as for the guy thing just tell them plain and simple that ur not intrested and that maybe in the future u may be. Tell them u still want to be friends.
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Ah, you are living, breathing evidence of my "get on with life and they will come" thesis. Although once you're on with life, the boys have to be a little more fantastic, eh?
I'd use the paragraph before the "ugh" as a guideline: "I don't want to hurt your feelings or make stuff awkward, but I'm not up for romantic stuff right now... friends is still good though" or something like that.
As for the other guy, well, he'll become available or he won't, and it'll matter or it won't: but most importantly you've got better stuff to do than worry too much.
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Just tell those guys that your just not interest right now but you would be okay being friends.
~L~
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Well I see that the grass is always greener on the other side and its so true in this situation. Go up to them and tell them that you would rather just be friends and that right now you dont feel like having a relationship. Its better to turn a guy down rather than lead him on.
-shay :-)
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