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I have experienced life, long enough to come to a realization that there is no way out but to "Be Your Self!", to honor and celebrate who you are! We all are unique and important pieces of the big puzzle, the "game of life" and the Universe itself. The world would have been incomplete without each of us! I am grateful to advicenators.com for giving me this platform to motivate and empower others.
"Life is an expression of who you are than suppression; allow yourself to paint your canvas..." ~ Me
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There's a guy at my work place who I had a crush on who seemed to like me too. Most of my coworkers pointed it out and has been talking about it for weeks. He would flirt with me, playfully push or tease me and go out of his way to talk to me which gave me the idea that he was interested. Anyway he has a long distance gf and I guess things aren't that solid between them because apparently he was talking to this other girl from his second job. So yesterday I heard from someone I work with that he basically told my coworkers that I told him that I like him and how I can't help myself but to like him and I'm throwing myself at him when he's not interested and said in a subtle way that I was ugly or unattractive. I was extremely upset by all of this because most of what he said was a lie, I would never jeopardize my job by telling my coworker I like him and I feel humiliated. Especially since I was so kind to him in the past by giving him rides to his second(I'm just a genuinely nice person) like there was no bad blood there. Why would he diss me like that?
Oh well, looks like you have fallen (rather had fallen) for the wrong person. Now that you know what he did, there is no point in thinking why you felt about him what you felt. Don't beat yourself up or judge yourself for being a kind person. It's not your kindness that is an issue, it's about him not being genuine. As far as him lying about you to the coworker, I think you have to take it seriously. First of all make sure that the coworker who told you this about him is a truth, before you take any step! Assuming that he really said what the coworker told you, then depending how you feel about it. Human resources department in any company take any kind of harassment very seriously, especially something of the nature that points to your character or for that matter anything sexual. Talk it out with someone who is close to you and whom you trust at your work and take your decision accordingly.
I don't know what else to tell you. You don't need to think about why he did what he did. Instead take it as a lesson learnt and get over it. You may come across many people like him in your life. Don't judge yourself over other peoples actions ))
Good luck!
I met this guy online and we were kinda flirting (not proud of it since I usually don't trust many strangers online) but anyway I thought he was interesting and different because he gives sarcastic and witty remarks like I do but anyway after about 2 days of talking he just stopped. Then I texted him first and idk the way he typed changed-he seemed veeeery bored. Then after a few hours he changed his profile picture into him kissing this girl (it's in the title lmao). I'm not mad that he's kissing a girl, I just found it very rude. Should I just stop talking to him? Idk if I made sense anymore I'm just really weirded out and kinda pissed
I can understand how you must be feeling, like someone played with your emotions. But you know what? You should be thankful to him to show the real him before it's too late and painful. So don't judge yourself over it. We all have done such things at some point, so no big deal. I would have just sent him a message saying "Thank you!" and just block him immediately. Him fooling around with you does not make you less worthy or stupid. However this is a good lesson for you to not put your emotions and heart in anything which cannot be proved to be real )) I am not saying that online dating is wrong or bad, but way social media and dating sites have grown, so is the crowd of people who make it a playing ground and scams. Rule of thumb would be not to get involved in anyone unless you meet them personally. If someone is avoiding to do so, it's for a reason and you need to be smart enough to understand that.
You don't need to be pissed off or beat yourself up for being silly. Relax and stop judging yourself. You may come across many more people like him in your life; not only online but in your real life, so get over it and move on with the lesson learnt ))
Good luck!
Hi if you've answered my questions before you know what this is about. I have actually been whacking since 13 and coming since 14 and I love the feel. But the problem I I can't stop. I D it 1-4or 5 times a day. And when I'm not whacking I'm still having sexual thoughts. I need help because I'm an artsy person so I have an active imagination so yes I imagine stuff in class one time in Christian camp😓 I need help but it feels so good.
I kind of agree with adviceman that masturbating is natural at your age, however I strongly feel that your regular masturbating is more than just your age. You being an arsty person also tells me that you are have great imagination but at the same time you could be feeling like a misfit. Again I am speaking based on my experience. Usually the feeling of release from masturbating sometimes can become an escape from dealing with something which is more psychological or social.
If that is true, here are few things I would suggest:
1. Know that masturbating is not a bad thing at all. I started masturbating at the age of 10 and today I am absolutely normal person. In fact I think I am more normal and real than many people around me. So please please do not feel guilty about it
2. Trust me you are not different than any other boys who may be coming across as good in terms of studies or any other things. The matter of fact is that they are expressive and you are not. You have to learn to completely ACCEPT yourself they way you are (no exceptions) and do not try to show anything different than what you are.
3. In fact you may be more matured and understanding than many other boys around. Do not worry about what others think about you. It is only matter of time when you will realise that you were never a misfit!
4. So be expressive, don't be afraid to show who you are. Don't hesitate to put forward your point of view, even if not a single person involved in the conversation agrees with your opinion.
5. Don't be afraid talking to people. You will find many boys who think like you and you will get along very well with them. Believe me, I am telling this to you from my experience.
6. As far as masturbating, the feeling of sexual release is one of the most beautiful thing in this world. You are being to mechanical about it. Learn to enjoy the feeling and feel the changes happening in your body when you masturbate. Don't hurry into it. Don't be in hurry to reach the climax. Enjoy the process, without ANY guilt whatsoever. You are not doing a sin. When you learn the enjoy it, you won't feel the need to do it over and over again or atleast the frequency will reduce.
7. Don't judge yourself! You are absolutely normal. I can tell that you are hesitant talking to girls, unless they come and talk to you. You perhaps have a feeling that you don't deserve coz you are doing something wrong by imagining them while masturbating. The more to are open and yourself, the guilt will gradually dissapear.
8. I have gone through this before, but let me tell you that you will be fine!
My answer may sound like out of context, but I really want you to ask yourself these questions and you will get your answers ))
So relax and don't beat up yourself over it. You are normal and fine.
Feel free to send me a specific question you have about whatever I suggested and I will be more than happy to help you out ))
You are a beautiful being and not less than anyone else in this world. Believe in yourself and don't be afraid to show the world, the real YOU!!
Good luck!!
I am a student of a renowned university. my first year to be precise.. after a short period, I met a guy in his 3rd year.. to cut the long story short, we started dating..
Later I noticed that he comes to my hostel only on Friday nights, or Saturday.. Anytime we see each other in public, he does like he doesn't know me.. I don't know wat to do because I feel like he is just using me. anytime he comes to my hostel, late at night, he wakes me up while kissing me allover, we make our till dawn at times.. i
he has never acknowledged me as his girlfriend. we do talk at times, but lately it has been about us making out and I don't like it... what can I do to stop all this.. because I don't want my emotions to be toyed with
I really cannot add more to what "Dragonflymagic" already advised you. In fact I want to repeat what she said, and cannot emphasize more for everyone in a relationship - "A good foundation in a healthy relationship is made up in two parts, one being that there is the chemistry for being each others best friend and second the romance and sex chemistry"
For me, he is playing with your emotions and using your sexual energy. The very fact that you are not liking it, is an indication that something is not right. I don't see the emotional bond (best friend part), at least not from the guys side. If he loved you, he would have taken you close to him, holding your hands in his hand, explained you why he behaves weird in public and why he does not acknowledge. Even if he did not acknowledge, his eyes would tell you that and you would not have asked this question.
You already know the answer to your question. Most of us underestimate sexual energy. By making out with you only on weekends, and not acknowledging he is not only playing with your emotions, but also living and sucking up your energy.
I may be wrong here, but it seems like you got carried away when he got physical with you the very first time. Every time he comes, your body needs and wants it but your heart and Soul is missing. So as "dragonflymagic" said, you need to communicate with him about how you feel. He may give you all kind of reasons and excuses to continue sexually with you, but you have to ask your heart and make up your decision.
Good luck ))
Men, would you prefer a virgin female or a non-virgin female and why?
I would prefer female whom I love and passionate about )) You will adore everything about her if you love her, virgin or non-virgin. I love someone who has dark circles, stretch marks on her belly from post-pregnancy and of course non-virgin. I can give away the most beautiful virgin woman on this earth for her. Why? Because one she is my BEST FRIEND secondly I am very PASSIONATE about her at all levels. I can share anything and everything with her without fearing that she would judge me and same goes for her. Hugging and kissing each other is not any less pleasurable than having sex. That is not to say that we are not physically attracted to each other. Physical and emotional chemistry comes first. But whether she is virgin or not is the last thing I would ever think about ))
What I'm trying to get to is that your question is irrelevant. You are approaching love from a wrong perspective. At the same time I am not at all trying to judge you with your question. As youngsters this question crosses our mind often, especially when you find someone who is a beautiful person from within and you are attracted to them and you wonder, but she is not virgin? The question is not coming from your heart. It is coming from the conditioned mind which has been hearing and taught that a being a virgin is noble thing and a criteria for love))
Good luck! ))
Okay, here's the quick version: I have a crush, my friend has the same crush, and I'm getting mixed signals from him. Crush knows that friend likes him, seemed to not care when I asked him about it. Doesn't know that I like himn though, but he's had many people like him in the past, including some of my other friends. We're only in 6th grade, and I tend to overthink EVERYTHING. So, what do I do?
You are only in 6th grade and yes, you are overthinking about it for sure!
Nothing wrong in having crush on a guy, it's very natural at your age. He is your friend already, so you see, meet him and have conversation with him everyday, isn't that enough )) All boys and girls enjoy to be center of attention and this guy is not any different :) May be he registers and knows every girl who has crush on him and he wants to see many more added to that list, but does not want to acknowledge anything. Coz if he does then he is stuck with only one ;)
Now it's up to you to decide, do you want to be that one more added to the list? If no, then leave him alone and give more attention to yourself or someone who is real and genuine. I am not saying anything wrong about the guy friend. You all are just enjoying the school days, which is fun! All I am saying is that you are thinking too much about it. The day he tells you that he is not interested in you, you may not like him as much and soon have a new crush )) Hope you understand what I mean.
Be friend with him and everyone you go along with and enjoy the feeling of having a crush. Don't try to give it some bigger meaning than what it is, like "Love Triangle" ))
You may not have liked my answer coz you wanted to hear something more deeper and serious stuff... I am ready for 1 rating..hehe
Enjoy and god bless ))
im 32 and he is 41
Can you please elaborate? If you are worried about the age difference, it all depends on the kind of connection you share. For example, I am 40+ and can still be playful and take life sincerely but not seriously. I can be childlike (sing, dance, laugh loud, make fun of myself), at the same time I am be matured. One of the major issues that can happen with age difference is the conflict of priorities in life, not to say that couples with less age difference do not have this issue.
So I may be able to provide a more reasonable answer if you could provide me some information on:
what country are you from?
how long have you known each other?
Views you both share on how shud 1 live life?
what kind of connection do you share?
were you friend before you fell in love?
and anything that you can share. You dont need to worry about disclosing your identity ))
Hello I really need a job because my family is struggling bad right now but im not 14 until December 17 , 2016 so im only 13 but I was wondering are there jobs hiring at this age right now and I can really use your help
Sorry to hear that. Wondering what could it be that you had to think about working to help your family.
You need to provide some more details for even anyone to guide you with alternatives to having to work. What do you mean "you family is struggling" or "help my family survive"? And no you cannot work until you are 14 and that too only specific kind of work and for certain hour per day/week only.
Perhaps other advisers may be able to help you with some information on government aids and other programs.
my guy friend whom im close to, we can talk about anything and everything together......I had a crush on him but we both agree it'd be best If we just stayed friends.... not too long ago out of the sky blue he had told me "I deserve better"..that threw me off, cuz i was eating food and wasn't really thinking about what he had said....I don't know why anyone would think they don't deserve that special someone......well, the other day he seemed so down, out and broken....and there were lots of people in the hallway, so I didn't ask him what was wrong, but I did notice he was just staring at me, and he wasn't happy...... so I just said hi, and he just kept staring at me with this hurt look and said nothing and just walked away...should I ask him what's up or just not say anything at all.....thanks
You did not mention your age. I am assuming teenage. You both seem to be really good friends ))
Not sure what was your discussion with him when you both agreed upon staying best friends and nothing more.
Going by what you described and not knowing your age, appears like your friend is uncomfortable sharing something with you, which apparently is making him feel uneasy and hurt (again perhaps cos he wants to tell you but holding back). He is for sure a very good friend and likes and respects you.
Assuming you both see each other everyday, just pretend that you guys did not have that conversation when you were having your food. Just be normal as you were before the conversation. Regardless what is the reaso he said what he said, he is still your friend )) You will have to help him out to ease his discomfort or whatever it is that he doesn't want to tell you (assuming thats the case). When he sees that what is said is not bothering you and that you still love him unconditionally as a true friend, sooner or later he will open up to you and disclose.
Be genuine and tell him how you value his friendship and that you like him for what he is. Tell him how he is real and honest compared to other guys you see around. This will give him the courage to share further with you. While you are doing this, don't let him feel that you are pretending (which you are not). You should be doing all this out of your liking for him as a friend.
Wait until 2-3 weeks and if he still does not tell you why he said that, then find a time when you both are really engaged in some interesting conversation while you noth are happy and laughing, and suddenly ask him, why was he upset and looked down and out the other day. He may tell you in the flow of your conversation.
Worst case even if he does not want to tell you still, it should not matter to you, right)) whatever is the reason, give him his space and let him be what he is. when he tells you, it may not be something as serious as he thought, but we are humans and we all are different and that is the beauty! You guys are good friends and you should cherish that!!
I am sure he will tell you eventually.
Good luck ))
My mom realm gets on my nerves. I am a 15 year old girl and recently I was going out with a guy. We went out for about a month but I had to break I off because he acted too weird. He was obsessed with me, would get really upset if I did not text back in five minutes, and he was jealous of my friends. At first, my mom did not approve of me being in a relationship but then when I broke things off she said things like "its your fault and you were mean to him". I am so confused I think she wants me to be unhappy, but my friends understood that I was upset and that he was creepy and not good for me. Why would my mom want me to be I an unhappy relationship and how could it be my fault? She also says my friends are weird and she acts like she wants me to have no friends and be lonely. I just want her to mind her business and leave me alone.
To me it sounds like you are a very smart and practical girl, someone who know what she is doing and can take decisions on her own. You must have been like this since very young age. Sometimes parents can act little indifferent and even feel let down just because you are smart enough to take your own decisions )) She perhaps wants you to ask her about every single thing you do, which I believe you don't. It's not that you do it on purpose, but your mom perhaps does not appreciate that as much. May be that is the reason why she does not like most of the things associated with you. And something like a breakup with your bf is a perfect opportunity to blame you for everything.
Ok, so I am not trying to judge your mom or anything, in fact I don't know her )) Whatever I said is just something that came to me intuitively and partially based on what you described.
I don't think you should take everything that your mom says so seriously. At the same time please don't underestimate her either. Be your own judge. You are 15 and soon you would be getting more independent in few years, until then be patient. This does not mean you need to snap at your mom, just try and understand her point of view and if it sounds absurd or irrelevant ignore it for now. That is not to say that everything she thinks and does is against you. However we all have different problems and some times people change and become nasty and weird with the experiences, stress and many other factors.
In short, keep you calm, don't judge yourself and keep rocking!
Good luck
Hi, I am a female, 18-19,forgive me if my English is bad, I am from Namibia, Africa . I just graduated from highschool a few months ago now I am in a private institution studying Graphic Design. The thing is I am only studying it because my parents want me to. I tried telling them I wanted to study something else but they wouldnt listen to me . I tried telling them that I instead wanted to study Make Up Artistry for a while but they fliped their crap instead since its less proffessional. I eventually submitted . I know my parents want the best for me and love me and want me to be successful but I want to at least study something that I am passionate about. I decided to put my feelings aside and just complete my three year course but I am 'miserable'. I feel like I am slowly dying inside. To make things worse I study in another country and I get homesick sometimes. I just dont know how I am going to handle this for three years.How can I endure?
Hello from USA )) Hon I really don't know what to say that will make you feel good about your situation. Parents often do this to their kids thinking they know better than anyone else. I wish I could talk to your parents and help them understand how this is going to affect your career and moreover your personality and confidence.
It looks like you are really passionate about doing Make Up Artistry, meaning it is something that you always had in your mind and not just because your friends are doing the same.
Do tell your parents about how you feel 'miserable' and 'dead inside'. May be you being honest help them know and understand your situation, may be turn them around emotionally ))I would also talk to a common family friend with whom you can share your thoughts and who can influence your parents and make them realize how their decision is not helping anyone!
Assuming you are not able to get out of this, please don't stop reading and learning more about your passion. In fact being in a different country gives you the opportunity and freedom to do that.
As far as your Graphic Designing course, don't just give up on it yet. I know you just started the course and that is making it more difficult and being away from your home country makes it even worse! I would have studied just enough to complete the course, but be determined to learn as much as I can about Make Up Artistry. I would have even tried taking some online course simultaneously to keep me busy and motivated doing my passion. Once you are settled in few months, you can even take up some part time make up job which will not only give you some additional money but also make you feel good about yourself. As far as homesickness that is obvious and you will have to give yourself some time. Make new friends and don't keep bringing that thought to your mind all the time.
I don't know what else to tell you sweetie. It's like sometimes we have to go through and experience what we don't want in order to know more and more about what we truly want and your parents are just playing a part in this game :)
Good luck and let us know how it goes
I am a red head with blue eyes and was wondering why us gingers are turn offs for guys? All of my friends tell me I am pretty but guys seem to think different. Why???
If someone asks them why, they none of them would have a real answer )) Even they don't know why they react/behave the way they do..hehe. If they don't have an answer, why are you so concerned and focusing so much on it. Perhaps they got that from somewhere else and they in turn picked it from somewhere else. Don't bother yourself so much over it dear! I am guessing you are in high school
Of course you are pretty and your friends are absolutely right. Perhaps you are too beautiful and making those guys conscious, are you? ;)
Relax and chill out sweetie. Just be who you are and believe in yourself. If you are wondering about not having a guy friend, you will have sooner or later but before that you gotto stop focusing on them. Instead don't think and bother so much. May be you need to strike a conversation with the one of them and let them know who you are beyond the read head and blue eyes.
Good luck ))
23/f
Long story short. My older sister moved out due to the stress of my parents fighting, being overly dependent on us (they don't speak English and are struggling financially). My mom's room is smaller (that's the room she chose because it had more lighting) when my sister moved back in years ago and gave up her room (master bedroom).
Since my sister moved out, I asked for her permission if I could have her room--my room's air conditioning and heater doesn't work so it will be getting hot soon. She said I can take it and that she won't be moving back. I gave her a month to change her mind. During the remaining two weeks, my mom came back from Taiwan. I asked for my dad's permission and he said I could. I called my mom, but she didn't pick up so my dad and I started moving things out of her (my sister's) room and my stuff in.
When my mom came home she asked what was going on and I said that I was going to live in my sister's bedroom now and that my dad and my boyfriend was helping me move things around. And my mom told me, "I was planning on moving in here and now you're moving stuff in. My room is too small and I need more space." And she stared at me when we already moved things. I asked her if she wanted me to move back into my room and she said, "well, you're already moving stuff. If your sister says it's okay, then it's okay." But she kept having a conversation saying that she wanted her old room back.
I got slightly frustrated because my mom is kind of a hoarder. I kept telling her that she should probably get rid of a lot of her things because she doesn't even use them and she doesn't even get into the closet (her stuff even blocks the closet). She uses her closet and her room as storage along with the rest of the rooms and I knew that if she had her room back, she would most likely use it as storage space and wouldn't be able to get into her closet.
I told her that I was planning on moving out by next year as soon as I get my teaching certification and find a job. And that she can have the room then since she wasn't giving me a direct answer. She looked a bit panic hearing that I was also going to move out, she said "okay, if you're moving into this room forget it then." Five minutes later, she comes back in saying, "Mary, if you're going to take the bigger room, then you should pay for more of the bills." Again, I got frustrated because I told her that I was still studying for my certifications and I was working part time. And she said that my boyfriend should also help pay because he sometimes stays over. I told her that I ask him to stay over, that he has his own apartment and his own bills to pay for. I said that if she wanted, I can stay at his place instead because he doesn't ask me to pay him whenever I sleepover and I think it'll just be awkward to have him pay just to sleepover at our house.
And my mom said, "then overall, I'm paying the most money out of everyone in the family." It's not true. My sister pays for the $300 cell phone bill. I pay for the internet, the gas, the water bill, etc. and I barely even have money left over for myself. My dad (retired) pays for the car insurance. My mom pays for the new car's insurance (she has a problem of consistently wanting brand new things--washing machines, cars, etc. even though we can't afford it). And my mom pays for the end of the year taxes and groceries.
I told her that she needs to go back to work (her boss has been consistently calling my sister because she wanted her to work for her, but my mom makes excuses about not working because it's 30 minutes away) because how is she going to survive if me and my sister both move out. And she said, "I am going to go back to work but I can't be the only one paying for everything." I told her that the best option was to sell the house like originally planned because she wanted to get a divorce, didn't have money saved up, and it was the quickest way to get money since she won't be able to afford it herself. Again, she came up with an excuse. It was excuse after excuse after excuse.
But I can't help but feel guilty about taking the room that she wanted. Or I feel guilty about unable to help her right now but slightly insulted that she wanted my boyfriend to pay money whenever he slept over as if we were a hotel. He doesn't really eat our food or anything, he just comes over to see me.
What should I do? Should I feel guilty? Should I have given her the room?
Unfortunately some parents have this tendency to constantly give this feeling to guilt to their kids, hoping to get certain things done in the present or in the future. And when I say parents, I am speaking in general, not your mom in particular. As adults, it’s their way of covering up their shortcomings or holding everyone else around responsible/blaming for something or anything that they were not able to achieve in their life. And you just cannot do anything about it because those traits are so deep rooted that you cannot point its origination. For instance, if you ask you mom about her behavior she may blame her parents for that and her parents would have blamed it on their parents and so on… It’s a viscous circle with no ending and no beginning.
Having said that, you just have to accept it and do whatever you can to support parents and help them in whatever way you can. There is nothing more you can do because you have your own life and future as well. I do not want to judge your mom, but perhaps you may recollect incidents from your recent past of teens or even childhood when she may have made you feel guilty.
Coming to the situation you described, it’s not like you want to move in this bigger room because you are selfish. You mentioned about the ac and heater not working, which is enough reason for you to make the move and your mom should be supporting you. So stop feeling guilty about it. The more guilty you feel the more guilty your mom would make you feel. Instead think that now you would be able to space out your things and be able to study/work more comfortably. You would be more positive with more energy to do get things done, which in turn means to feel good about yourself. Sure, all this is going to help you, but it’s also going to give you the needed space to think how can you be of more help to your parents and the whole family situation.
In fact I would suggest you to stop focusing on all this family drama and put your energy towards getting your certification, job which means more financial strength and independence. Despite this if you keep getting bugged, plan to move out of the house once you can support yourself. I don’t know about your bf but you can even share this with him and have him support you in the plan. I am not saying all this to shrug off your responsibility towards your family. On the contrary, this will only help and motivate you to do better and bigger things for them, if you will.
You seem to be a responsible and understanding daughter. Stop feeling guilty or anything negative. Sometimes you just have to shut off your mind to get better things done. Now you cannot explain all this to your mom. For now, just do what you got to do. Get support from your father and tell him why you are doing all this. As for your mom, you simply cannot do anything about it. You cannot expect her to change at this age.
It's like sometimes we have to go through and experience what we don't want in order to know more and more about what we truly want and your parents are just playing a part in this game, in a way helping you ;) :)
Hope this helps))
Good luck!
Hi, I have a big problem and you are probably gonna think it's ridiculous, but anyways, I am 12 years old and I don't know how to divide. This is a big problem because everyone in the grade knows how, my dad is gonna ask me to show him if I can divide in front of him and that's a problem. It's not really my fault I don't know how to divide, nobody ever told me how. I know how to divide like, 25 divided by 5 and stuff, but I mean the long methods like 2678 divided by 568 and that kind of stuff.
Please no answers like "You should know how to divide by this age" or "Ask your teacher" only professional answers, or you are getting a 1 at rating.
Sweetie, I understand your concern and no I would not ask as to why don't you know if everyone in your class does ))
So before I talk about the example you mentioned, I would highly recommend you to take a look at some of the online tutorials.
Here is one of the best I would recommend for you. They have excellent explanations, examples, sample tests/quiz and step by step VIDEOS on every subject for all grades. I am sure you are going to love it! The website is - https://www.khanacademy.org
Coming to your example, so 2678 is the dividend and 568 is the divisor, right?
Something with such a large divisor needs what you can call assumption or trial and error. here is how I would proceed.
Because "568' is a 3 digit number, let's start with the first 3 digits in the dividend, which is "267"
As "568" is greater than "267", we would have to take into consideration all 4 digits in the dividend "2678"
Here is what I meant by assumption/guessing/trial n error - Let's round up 568 as 500 in our head. It is obvious that 500 times 4 is 2000 and 500 times 5 is 2500. 2500 sounds close to our dividend value of 2678, right?
So it's likely that 568 times 4 or 5 would be somewhere around 2678.
Let's find out.
We would try multiplying 568 times 5 which comes to 2840, which is greater than 2678.
We now try multiplying 568 times 4 which comes to 2272. So the first digit in our quotient is 4.
2678 minus 2272 is 406. So the answer is 4 remainder 406. Sure we could have continued dividing to get a decimal quotient.
here is one more link which gives detailed step by step explanation for dividing 3-4 digit numbers using something called double division method
https://learnzillion.com/lesson_plans/8890-use-double-division-to-divide-4-digit-numbers-by-3-digit-numbers
I know this is overwhelming, but there is no way out when it comes to math but to practice, practice and practice
Also remember that you are not any less that any other kid in your class. Do not get intimidated by anyone who tells you that you are any less. You may not be so good at math but you could be the best at something else, so don't judge yourself. Keep believing that you can do it and I bet you will!
One suggestion though if you don't mind - Next time when dad or teacher asks you about something that you don't know, please don't hesitate to accept and tell them that you don't know. We all don't know a lot of things, including the grown up adults. Part of the issue for school kids is that they are always afraid to acknowledge that they don't know something, out of fear or being judged or from the feeling of being humiliated or being compared to other kids. I am here to tell you that if you are not scared to accept, you will go long way in your life. No question is a stupid question ;)
Good luck ))
P.S. So, I have tried my best to help and answer your question. I don't mind a rating of 1 or -1 LOL
Female, 19. I usually don't care about what others think and in a way I still don't. However, as of lately I've been asking myself the same question. Is it really strange that I've never even been close to losing my virginity? I don't really care for it and I absolutely do NOT want to end up pregnant in college, therefore I kind of am glad of the way I am. But I've never had a boyfriend, never had a first kiss, first date, and I only had a few boys interested in me in ELEMENTARY school. After I got into middle school I never heard of any boy being interested in me and sometimes it kind of hurts to think that maybe I'm just not considered attractive or girlfriend material. I know there are tons of people out there with similar problems but sometimes I just wish that I could have at least one relationship, if anything to go through the experience. I don't wear much makeup and often dress up like I dont care or a bit boyish, I thought maybe guys dont see me attractive because of that. Or because sometimes I'm not as outspoken as other girls. I don't know. I'm just starting to think nobody'll ever notice me.
My fellow advisers Dragonflymagic and AlycetheLost have given some very good and practical advice. Here is what I would say:
You are who and what you are for a reason, so cherish and let the magic unfold
We should not and cannot completely change ourself, cus that would be like trying to be someone else
You feel and think in your head that you are strange or not a fit cus you are comparing yourself to others.
Don't be surprized if I tell you that perhaps you could be doing the right thing and the others may not be.
Stop judging yourself based on what everyone else is doing.
Stop thinking about others and start loving yourself for who you are. Once your focus is taken away from what is going on outside, you will feel at peace within yourself.
Once you are at peace and in harmony with who you are and accept and embrace yourself, your inner beauty will shine and radiate around you
And you will not have to take any efforts to please others. People and guys will automatically get attracted to you, wanting to know you, to know the mystical peace and soothing beauty ))
As fas a sex goes, trust me based on what you have described, you will experience the most magical and true love making in all the sense, so be little patient, wait and watch. Again the key is to accept and love yourself first!
I am not suggesting you to do this, however it's not a bad idea to try masturbating so that there is the release of energy to keep you in balance.
I can keep going but I am guessing you got the point
Good luck and god bless ))
I have B cup boobs, wide hips, small waist, long legs, and a medium size butt. Is this good or bad?
Sweetheart you did not mention your age. Anyway, everything you described is a perfect recipe for a super body )) Ofc you are beautiful dear! What makes you doubt?
So yes it's all good so you are all clear there ;)
Just want to add that beauty is in the beholders eyes. There are many girls/women who may not be as beautiful as you, however they found that special one, who could see through their skin and bones right into their heart. Someone who would love them for who they are, inside out and unconditionally. When you find that special one who just wnats to love you without changing, you automatically feel and become beautiful ))
Good luck
I dated a guy for two months. He's 27 and I'm 24. He was really sweet but seemed to think I was a 'goddess' and said he could imagine dating with the intent of marriage. I broke up with him because of the pressure- this is my first relationship and he seems ready for things I'm not ready for. Also I'm in a late bloomer so I'm in college and I have no idea where I'll be in 1 year. It was my birthday and he sent told me he wishes me the best and sent me a long love poem. He also said he knows I made the right decision for myself by breaking up. Is it normal to feel like I want him back even though breaking up seemed healthier? Should I ever contact him again?
You did not mention how long it has been since you broke up with him. You had to part from him due to the presssure that he wanted to date with the intent of marriage. It seems like you were fine until he sent you wishes and a long poem on your birthday, is it? I understand your dilemma )) Are you saying that you are now ok to date him with the intent of marriage?
No doubts he must be a very sweet guy. But my rule of thumb is whenever in doubt stop and introspect without judging. If you really had the intense feelings for this guy, you wouldn't have been asking this question. He is a nice guy and deserves a thank you from heart with lot of best wishes. I am not trying to discourage you, however based on what you described, you seem to be touched with his gesture of remembering your birthday and the poem.
Yes, it is absolutely normal to feel what you are feeling. We all go through these feelings at some point in our life. However experience says that this is not the last time you would have these feelings. You are still young and may find someone who is more of your match in terms of the timings of your college and other things. I would not have given you this suggestion if it was a long terms relationship where you both have seen the good and not so good in each other and yet want to be together ))
Do me a favor and ask yourself a question. Would you be more happy and at peace if you come across someone who is willing to spend time knowing each other and at the same time loving and caring? Would you rather be with someone who would be close to you after your college? Do you really think you would have had this feeling and doubt had he not sent you the poem? If your heart crys out loadly with 'yes', then you can think about contacting. In that case you can open up to him and tell him that you respect his maturity and visuon to date with the intention of marriage. However you are not ready for it yet and would like to give ourselves some time. And I am sure based you your description about the guy, he would understand your point of view. But you need to be open about how you feel and how you want to proceed. If there is even slightest of hesitation, let it go for now!
Again this is not to say that he is not a nice man to marry. All I am saying is that you already know that you did not want to rush into marriage. And when in doubt, I would always wait or let it go. If he has to be in your life, he will be no matter where you are.
I know it's not easy to take an answer like this with the matters of heart, but I am saying all this from experience. And I don't know why, but just got a intuitive feeling that he is not exactly compatible to your personality. I may be wrong so forgive me for that ))
Good luck and happy loving
I'm a 12 year old female. I was always interested in ghosts ever since I was a kid. I still am. I find death and the paranormal romantic and fascinating. I'm not suicidal or amything I just am attracted to the idea of spirits, afterlife and the such. I am Wiccan, so I believe in summerland and reincarnation. My relatives always told me when I was young I could name everybody in the family album even relatives no one told me about and identified them as "the man on the stairs" "the women in the kitchen" etc. More recently I identified a grandpa of mine who died before I was born. I had a panic attack at seeing him and my mom told me he didn't die happy...but there's still that. My cousin does the same thing. I love reading horror books and ghost stories. I'm wondering is being attracted to ghosts normal? (Also no Christians telling me I'm going to hell or whatever)
Hey there, this is interesting! But I am not surprised at all. Don't use the word ghost, instead just call them spirits ))
It is very likely that you are a natural psychic, which is great! )) And that is not bad, wrong, abnormal or unusual. You are still young and I would suggest you to express gratitude for this natural gift you have and keep developing on it with compassion, love empathetic feelings. Here is some reading for you - http://paranormal.lovetoknow.com/List_of_Psychic_Abilities
You will be surprised to know that there are many such individuals like you, who are natural psychics. You are gifted with the ability to being able to communicate with the decreased ones and seem to be remembering your past lifes, may be. Unfortunately being a psychic does not necessarily make you spiritual (Being religious does not necessarily make you a spiritual being). Did you know there are lot of people who give past life readings with great accuracy. You could be way more better and accurate than them because you would be able to tune into the higher frequencies/consciousness states without much effort compared to other.
For now, just know that nothing is wrong with you and enjoy the communication on the other side ;) Be careful on what and which websites you read to get more information, be it spiritual or about spirits. There is a lot of junk, fake and confusing ones out there. My general guideline would be to use your intuition and gut. Anything that does not resonate with you or does not give you positive, loving vibes should be avoided.
Moreover, you are still too young, so let it develop naturally and focus on your studies as well ))
Take care and good luck!
I'm relatively ignorant of this topic, and since I'm only fourteen, I have nowhere else to ask these questions without being judged. I've been masturbating using my clit for a while now, and it works for me. However, the only reason I was masturbating using my clit was because I've heard that breaking your hymen will make it hurt and bleed. I don't think I can hide it from my super conservative parents if there's something wrong. I know that if I'm turned on and careful, it won't break, but I don't know anything beyond that. If anyone knows something about this, please help me.
First of all, as far as I understand woman's hymen can break with non-sexual activities like horse riding, cycling, swimming or whatever. You don't even know if yours is broken already or now, so relax ))
We are in the 12st century and a guy would care least or even bother to judge you, just cause your hymen is broken or not. As far as your mom, how and why would she come to know about it. And even if she does, I bet she would be fine. Remember she is you mother and has gone through and known this better. So relax ))
You need to do some reading online to understand your body anatomy better. In fact you can post this question on Google and would get tons of information.
Answering your question, hymen is a stretchable membrane and it won't break if you are just massaging externally and as long as you don't insert something inside. Be careful with hygine in terms of clean hands and trimmed nails.
As I said, do some reading online. Masturbating is not bad or sin. It keeps you hormones in balance.
Enjoy and good luck!
So im 19/f and I started masterbating 2 years ago. Before then I had never been into anything sexual at all but one day I just started doing it and i havent stopped. Despite my many attempts to stop. Now its become a habit that I have to do almost everyday. I just get the slightest feeling and then I have to do it. Not only that but I imagine weird ass shit when I do it that I would never condone in real life. Like I just have this feeling come over me that it doesnt matter what I think of cause it turns me on, but after im done masterbating its like ew no what is wrong with me and I have to stop. But i never do. I picture my bf with different girls, and with family members. And idk why it turns me on so much. Is there a reason for this? Is this normal? How do I stop fantasizing about these kinds of things so much? How do I control my sensations and thoughts? I heard that keeping yourself busy works and ive done that before but its hard to because Im by myself with a lot of time on my hands the majority of the time. So how do I control it and have more purer nicee fantasies? Thanks!
I am not at all surprised with what you described. Yes what you are fantasizing is disturbing, but that is what sexual energy can do to you. It can take over your body and consciousness and ability to think sane. No wonder people can go to any extent to seek and experience sexual pleasures.
It's not masterbating or sex that is bad or wrong, it's the motivation behind those things that can have adverse effects on your psyche and body. And trust me, you are not the only one who has these issues. It's just that you decided to address it and came out open asking this question ))
It's going to be hard to help resolving this issue with a one time answer. You need someone who understands your situation, or someone who can relate to it and be able to work with you over multiple sessions, asking questions, understanding your state of mind and then be able to guide you. I know all this perhaps does not make sense to you ))
Anyway, I can think of 2 reasons (there could be more) this could be happening.
1. You have made masturbation as an addiction and if not all, most addictions are the result of wanting to escape from an psychological/emotional problem, which could be known or unknown. In most of the cases it's the later. So, what is yours? I know it's not an easy question. Had you known, you would have tried to deal with it. So, let me give you some hints giving you some questions you need to ask yourself. Don't think before you answer these questions. They have to come from deep within your heart and soul ))
Do you really love your bf ?
Does he make you feel complete and full emotionally (not just physically) ?
Are you with him just because he is a nice person?
Do you really feel passionate about him? Being passionate about someone is not always physical. We are all different and have different needs and attraction traits. And all this is very normal.
Do you love someone else but still wanting to stay in the current relationship just because he is a nice person and you don't want to hurt him?
Do you have any other emotional stress from family etc.? At least it did not seem like that is the case
If any of the above is true, you need to face it, deal with it and be open about it with your bf, regardless of how he feels. Love is not your dressing accessory that you need to be wearing to look good. The day you will be completely satisfied (emotionally and physically) with your love, your addiction will automatically disappear. When two people love each other unconditionally (without fear and judgment) they complete each other at all levels. I bet you have not shared this with your bf. When you are truly in love with someone, there should not be anything you cannot share with them. Anyway, I leave that up to you to think and introspect.
2. There is a likelihood that you fall in one of the categories - polyamory, polygamy. You may want to read about it and explore.
I know my answer sounds inadequate and perhaps not convincing. I hope my other fellow advisors may give their perspective about the issue and advice.
I would also suggest you reading on sexual energy and how to guide it through the right channels across your body. As I said before, no answer is going to be a complete answer for you. You need someone who can work along with you for weeks/months
Good luck!
Good luck!