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How to masturbate without breaking the hymen?
I'm relatively ignorant of this topic, and since I'm only fourteen, I have nowhere else to ask these questions without being judged. I've been masturbating using my clit for a while now, and it works for me. However, the only reason I was masturbating using my clit was because I've heard that breaking your hymen will make it hurt and bleed. I don't think I can hide it from my super conservative parents if there's something wrong. I know that if I'm turned on and careful, it won't break, but I don't know anything beyond that. If anyone knows something about this, please help me.
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I've got the perfect site for you, Laci Green on you tube, a young person in her 20s who started as a teen researching for herself to gather the real facts and truth about everything pertaining to sex, sexuality and dating. She does have some of her own personal views such as stating shes a feminist but of all the rest I've watched, she has bothered to get the real facts on everything. She's funny that videos short and heres the one she calls Hymen 101
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The hymen stretches like a rubber band. Maybe not so easily but over time it can stretch to fit toys, a penis. My hymen never broke, it just stretched. Not all hymens break. Usually the skin of the hymen might tear a little if a guy pushed in too fast and/or there was a lack of lubrication. ONes fingernails can nick the skin too. This may result in a couple of drops of blood on the panty but thats pretty much it. Of all the women I've talked to who had no problem sharing their stories, no one ever bleed a lot of blood. The pain refered to is when a toy or the penis has gone as far as it can go before meeting the skin of the hymen and the trick to conditioning ones hymen so it never hurts much is to only push at it a little each time, never attempting to insert anything all the way, just to the point you feel the discomfort of stretching if you even feel that. Like I said, many girls never need to do anything like that.
The only other thing, rare but enough instances to mention it is a septate hymen. You can look up photos on line, is when instead of the hole Laci cuts to show what a regular hymen looks like, instead there are two smaller holes side by side with a strip of hymen down the middle. If this is the case, even putting in a tampon will be difficult at the least to extremely painful and one end of it could be ripped off where it was attached. If you beleive you may have this situation, the natural procedure is to see Dr and have them snip that strip of hymen away, using local anaesthetic and from what I've read, the teen girls had no pain or discomfort after wards and it heals quick and fine on its own as do any other tears that may occur during sex.
So if using your fingers or later a toy, you'll be just fine cus you'd be able to tell if it felt too tight or started to hurt. The moment you stop, it stops hurting. We're not talking a pain like period cramps that might have you doubled over. So don't worry and enjoy exploring.
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Hi there. I think your line 'it works for me' is actually crucial here. Your clitoris is extremely sensitive to touch. And stimulating it is usually the surest way to produce some very exciting, pleasant and satisfying feelings. Including reaching your climax/orgasm/ 'cumming' whatever term you prefer. Perhaps you are already enjoying a climax sometimes, or regularly? It might be tempting to think that actually penetrating yourself (with fingers, or commercially available 'sex toys') will feel much better? Because that simulates 'having sex' more closely? Butthat isn't necessarily the case by any means. It's all about the feelings masturbating produces. Not a particular technique. And most women would say that finding something that 'works for them' is the key to the whole thing. Plus, if you're getting stressed about tearing your hymen (Not a damaging thing in any way of course, but I can appreciate that you don't want to risk it. Lots of girls feel the same) while you masturbate you won't be able to relax and 'let go' enough to enjoy it as fully. You might try slipping a finger inside, quite shallow at first, and gently, to see how it feels. Stop straight if it feels at all uncomfortable. On the whole, stimulating your clitoris as you are already is actually a very good way to enjoy all the perfectly natural and desirable sensations and feelings that masturbating produces. So enjoy what you're doing. OK, us guys pretty directly simulate 'having sex' when we masturbate and that 'works' and it's about the only option for us anyhow. But it's more complex for you ladies. PS...you're not at all ignorant. Quite honestly many girls of your age (and older) don't even know how to locate their clitoris, or what it's significance is!! And as you point out, unfortunatrly it's not easy to get proper advice on the subject. Finally, don't let the idea of 'popping your cherry' while masturbating get you all stressed. Maybe look through some other older questions and answers on this site? There's lots of sound advice on THIS subjet! The term is actually a bit misleading anyway, and does not qualify as 'losing your virginity' or anything if it does happen.
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First of all, as far as I understand woman's hymen can break with non-sexual activities like horse riding, cycling, swimming or whatever. You don't even know if yours is broken already or now, so relax ))
We are in the 12st century and a guy would care least or even bother to judge you, just cause your hymen is broken or not. As far as your mom, how and why would she come to know about it. And even if she does, I bet she would be fine. Remember she is you mother and has gone through and known this better. So relax ))
You need to do some reading online to understand your body anatomy better. In fact you can post this question on Google and would get tons of information.
Answering your question, hymen is a stretchable membrane and it won't break if you are just massaging externally and as long as you don't insert something inside. Be careful with hygine in terms of clean hands and trimmed nails.
As I said, do some reading online. Masturbating is not bad or sin. It keeps you hormones in balance.
Enjoy and good luck!
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