hi im 14 years old and im turning 15 in december and most of my friend in my class have gotten there period and i have started puberty like hair and pimplies etc and im going into grade 9 and im kinda worried because one i have breast my cup size is 34B and it strange how i havnt gotten my period yet i really need help i just want to be sure that i wil get my period
Everyone's hormone is different. Some people get it sooner, others get i later.
I would talk to your doctor if you're concerned.
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I'm having a Sweet 16 on the first week of January. It's gonna be a candy themed party. Could you give me any ideas for making the program? I'm kinda stuck 'cause I haven't thrown a party in yeeaaars. So please give me any suggestions to keep my guests entertained throughout the party. Thankyouu.:)
I like what Isearchforwords said.
You can let people decorate their own cupcakes.
Try to get a band or a DJ. I love to dance at parties. You can have a cocktail bar, but it can be fruity drinks like virgin daiquiris and Margaritas. Those are candy like flavors.
I love caricatures and photo booths. You have a professional photographer go around taking pictures of everyone. You can find students at local college's who will do it pretty cheap.
There are some good ideas on this site http://mixmingleglow.com/blog/?tag=candy-buffet Do other google search. I put candy party. http://www.thoughtfullysimple.com/candy-theme-party-candy-party-favors/
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16/f
about to turn 17 in 14 days.
I'm aware of what being "emancipated" is and I understands the circumstances of it, but I'm in a stressfull situation where I really am dying to move out of my house. My parents and I do not get along & what I mean by this is we disagree on everything & are always arguying about the littlest things. Now I know what your thinking..why not try talking to them ? Or get counceling? Well trust me I've tried . I know me being my age is going to make it difficult for me to be able to find rent anywhere else but I refuse to be here any longer & I really am looking for some positive outside advice..I'm not looking to fix things between me and my parents I simply just want to move out..I've been supporting my self since the age 14 and I have a steady job . I basiclly just come home and sleep . But I can't take this anymore I'm too stressed and there not making it any easier..please help?
If you have any other family members that you could live with, I would contact them first. There are not many people that will rent out to a 17 year old. Search for youth shelters, here's an example of one http://casayouthshelter.org/aboutUs.htm They can help you.
You can also look on craigslist.org for a room. I would figure out how much you're making a month and determine if you are able to pay rent. I don't know where you live, but I rented a room for $600 in California.
Happy early birthday.
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Me and my best friend have been friends since 4th grade, and we're 19 now. I don't agree with a lot of the things she does, but I've always been there for her regardless. Lately, though, I'm at my wits end.
She has two kids already by two different guys. She just had her second child maybe two weeks ago with her current boyfriend, and he treats her terribly. He used to be like a brother to me, but after a bunch of drama, we really don't like each other. First, it was little things he did that made me worry. He'd tell her what she could and couldn't wear, he didn't like her talking to guys, stuff like that. But last night everything changed. She called me hysterical. He had hit her three times in the face and held her down when she tried to grab her phone. He finally left, and she called her sister, who called the police. I went to her apartment and he was in the back of the cop car. I went with her to the court house to get an EPO and everything, then stayed with her from 3 am to 10 am. At 10, I was exhausted and had to go home to take care of my dogs. I asked her if she would be okay, and she said "I guess". I didn't want to leave, but I just had to sleep. She texted me after I left and asked if I thought he missed his daughter or regretted doing it.
I called her when I woke up, like I told her I would, but she wouldn't answer. I texted her and she wouldn't answer that, either. I even I.M.'d her, and still nothing, but she talked to my sister on I.M. a few minutes earlier and said she missed him.
I don't know what to do, and I'm getting really frustrated. She asks me for advice, and I tell her what the best thing to do is, but she never listens. Then, I'm always there for her, but now she's ignoring me. It's like she's mad because I had to leave. I don't want to be rude and say "what's your problem?", but I don't know what to do. Any advice?
I would suggest your friend go to counseling. There are a lot of abused women groups and non-profits that can help her. She may not realize this, but she is also hurting her children. She needs help in realizing that she was in an abusive relationship.
I would go over to her house with your sister and talk to her. Realize, there is only so much you can do to help her.
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ok im 17 female and my boyfriend is going to be 18 in january. well we have been talking about wanting to move to hollywood or los angeles. and just moving out of the town we live in now, well today he jus randomly says "hey you need to start searching for houses or appartments or anything in L.A. or hollywood so we can move there i want out of here. and you need to get a job and we need to start saving money!" ok well hes working on getting a job. and i already applied for target and in-n-out burger. well once we get jobs i understand to save money thats the biggest thing. but what are some ways we can totally be ready at least by the time i turn 18 in september...of 2010? cause i need advice on how i can go about getting a job. saving money. and what can i search or what are good places to look into in hollywood or los angeles that are good or nice to live and raise a family that arent cheap but there not expencive. if thats possible. i just basically need advice on how to start a life together with my boyfriend. please help me thanks in advance! and the more advice you give the more help you will be thankyou! =]
I don't want to put down your dream.
I don't know where you're living now, but I live in Los Angeles. The economy has hit LA hard. There are very little jobs and the cost of living is very high. You will not be able to survive on a In-n-out or Target job. I just moved back with my mother and have been searching for a job 2 months now. I went to an interview recently and was competing for a spot with 200 other people. The best resource is craigslist.org for apartments and jobs. If you have any connections in Los Angeles, hit them up.
If it were a different time, things would be so much better for you and your boyfriend. It's very hard right now for everyone. A lot of people are losing their jobs.
I was living in Marin County before I moved back to Los Angeles. It was easier to find a job there. Specifically in Corte Madera. That's in Northern California. It's a nice place to live. It's one of the richest counties in the United States. The cost of living was high, but you sound just like my friend. She's married now and living very well in Marin County. You might want to look into that. They have a lot of FREE public services.
Seriously, I would much rather live back in Marin County, then in Los Angeles. It's hard living here, the pace is much faster.
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maybe I'm paranoid but lately my right arm (my dominant arm) has been hurting. Right where the shoulder and arm meet, on top of the arm, not the arm pit, it's been aching. It has these really intense pains randomly while I'm just sitting and doing nothing. It started today. It happens with about 3 or 4 pains each lasting 2-5 seconds, and then it stops for a while.
The pains enough to make me gasp and wince.
my mom says it could be from my backpack. I always have the strap on my left shoulder, but to support the weight I have to hold my right shoulder a certain way. I have a 'messenger bag' style backpack, so it's not like I'm being lazy and not putting the strap on like I should, the thing only has one strap in the first place
I know it's nothing serious at the moment, but any idea if it will GET serious if I don't change something? What could it be?
It sounds like it probably could be the backpack. Messenger bags are good if you're carrying light things. I had one in high school and it hurt my shoulder and back. I would try using a different bad and see if there is a difference. You can also get Salonpas. It helps relieve muscle pain. They sell it in all pharmacy stores.
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Earlier in the month I had sex for the first time. But it wasn't really anything. I was too tight to even go through with it and he really didn't get it inside really. We didn't uses a condom.
This past Saturday I had sex for the second time and this went much better. I used durex and we went at it for a decent amount of time.
But yesterday afternoon and all day today I have experienced an uncomfortable itching sensation that has been on and off. It's center right around the entrance of my vagina and its really bothersome.
I don't know what it is and if it continues to bother me tomorrow, I will get myself checked out. But I want be reassured it's not something major and if it is, an honest answer.
Thanks
Do you have yellow discharge on your underwear? It could be yeast infection. This happens if the vagina is moist. I would get it checked out in case. Almost every women experiences yeast infection at some point in their life.
Always use a condom. You don't know if your partner has an STD. Also, a bit of semen comes out when he puts his penis inside even if he doesn't ejaculate.
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My bff constantly lies to me about being pregnant & miscarrying & I can tell she's lying because she says she's preg one day after having sex and stupid, obvious stuff like that. She also lies about constantly being sick and random stuff like what people say or what her mom says, its dumb. I know its for attention but me and her boyfriend give her all the attention she needs. Tonight I told her for the first time I knew she was lying and I stood up to her she cussed me out and I don't think she wants to be friends anymore. We work together and she is like the bosses pet and everyones favorite I'm sure she'll make my life aweful there. Any help or advice on what to do or what to say to her would be helpful, thank you so much
If you want to be friends with her, talk to her about how you felt.
If you don't want to be friends with her, you don't really need a friend that constantly lies. If your doing the right thing at your job and she influences how people interact with you, you can file a complaint against her. That's harassment. I would just try to continue to do your job. My mom had a situation with a co-worker. The co-worker sucked up to the boss, but always said something bad about my mom, the co-worker ended up getting fired.
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Well, And My Love Had A Conversation On How We Both Thought We Loved Each other Enough TO have Sex. He Said "Whenever You Are Ready, I Am. I'm Not Going To Rush You." I'm Still Kind Of A Shy Person, So How Do I Let Him Know I Am Ready? And Should I Be Playful. Any Tips Will Help Also. Thank You :]
Seriously, the best way to let him know is to put your hand on his leg near his crotch and look him in the eyes. Be seductive. I had a conversation with my guy friends and they said this is the best method. I think it's awkward to say "I'm ready for sex".
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I'm a 21 female been married for 2 years. My husband is in the army and for the first 15 months of our marriage he was in Iraq. Our marriage hasn't been the greatest and it seems like we argue all the time and we never agree on anything. Since he has been back it has gotten worse. It seems like he never wants to spend anytime with me and he doesn't find me attractive. We are lucky to have sex maybe 2 times in 2 weeks or so and even when we have sex it feels like he is doing it out of obligation or mechanically. I feel like he doesn't love me anymore. I want to start a family but he doesn't seem to want to have a kid with me. I don't know what to do I want to get counseling but he doesn't want to go. I am seriously thinking about getting a divorce but I don't know if thats the best idea. I am so confused can someone please help me....
I think he might have PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). He should go to counseling. Most people who come back from war have PTSD. Often, they have a hard time fitting back into their lives after war.
If he doesn't get help, I encourage you to leave. I was married when I was 21 and I got divorced a year later. My relationship with my ex wasn't good before we were married and it got worse after. He would always go hang out with his friends and left me at home. It took me about a year to recover from it, but I found someone who cares about me. You don't have to stay in a bad marriage. My family and friends told me for so long to leave. I really regret staying with him for so long. We were together for 4 years. It was a total waste of time.
Go see a counselor. They really help you find your voice.
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Female- Well, The Question Is Pretty Self-Explanatory. I'm Not Exactly Sure What Gets Me Aroused. It's Actually Really Hard To Get Me Aroused. So Is There Anything That Will Help Me Get Aroused By My Boyfriend? Because I'm Not Exactly Sure What Gets Me Going. Except Biting. Biting Is Awesome Haha. But Any Tips?
You just have to experiment. I found that caressing my boyfriends skin makes him go crazy. I get aroused when he touches my nipple, sucks on them. Also, when he fingers me, caresses my body, role play, and massage my head. Sometimes we watch porn together.
Try getting a book about sex and trying different things.
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18 .. female. basically, i'm uncomfortable with how my body looks when i'm naked. i'm 5'6 and weigh around 120. when i have clothes on .. i still look quite thin but not so bad. my legs arent super skinny .. its my arms and stomach/torso area. i'd love being sexy with a guy and wear like a thong and my bra but i look so unproportioned it's rediculous which then makes me self conscious. i've tried everything to gain weight. i've tried protein shakes/bars. i've tried working out certain areas to gain muscle (mostly lifting) and that didn't work. i eat ALOT .. not just so i can try to gain weight but i'm always hungry. i eat more than most girls haaah. the thing is .. it basically goes right thru me if you know what i mean. how can i put on a couple pounds to look more healthy. i'd love to have some curves .. anything !!
You might need the help of a nutritionist or trainer. It sounds like your metabolism is very high.
You shouldn't feel uncomfortable being naked. I've had a few boyfriends and they've seen me naked. I'm a big girl and they don't care. Most guys don't care. If they are with you then they will love your body. If you're shy about your body, you're making the guy shy.
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ok me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 11 months. hes a 17 year old male and im a 17 year old female. everytime we go to his house if his girl neighbors are outside there making a whole bunch of comments either insulting me or just stupid stuff as if hes messing around with them behind my back. like just trying to cause problems between me and him. cause i know hes not cheating on me, we spend like every second and every minute together he wouldnt have time to do it anyways. well like one girl will continuosly be like hey my babys daddy! or little stupid comments like that, it makes him mad and he will say shutup or something cause he knows there just doing it to make me mad. well i try to ignore them cause i dont want to start any problems. a few times they kept talking he told his mom and she went out and told the girls a whole bunch of stuff cause its not nice. and today we were walking away from his house cause he was walking me home and one of the girls was like you dont even say hi and he said ya i nodded my head it means whatsup and she was like oh you mean like whats up my babys mamma?! and he was like shutup and he didnt laugh or anything he just kept walking. well what are some things i can do. to show hes mine and they need to stop messing around like that cause its pissing me off. do i just ignore them or do i do something or say something what are some things i can say/do... i dont want to like stop him in his tracks and start making out with him like that cause im not like that., so please dont have that as an option..thanks in advance!
These girls are obviously jealous that you are with your boyfriend. They also like that you both react. If you two ignore them, they will probably stop.
If that doesn't work, you could always go the route of embarrassing them. Get a whole bunch of friends and just have everyone talk about how stupid those girls are really loud. It will especially hurt if it's guys talking about how stupid they are. That will shut them up.
I always say go with the peaceful way first, but some people don't learn till they are hurt.
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Okay, so, I think this could go under health or injuries. So I just put it here. This is a bit longer than I thought so I just put **'s by where the question actually is.
Well, I had a cyst in my lower back for over a year (July 08). Bothered me everytime I sat down, eventually I got used to sitting a certain way but in long eriods of time in school it would strain my back. Well, I went to many doctors who prescribed tons of medicine which NEVER worked. Frusterated me. Finally, my mother took me to a dermatologist, which prescribed me the same medication... still didn't worked. Well, they finally just took out the stupid thing about 2 weeks ago. well they stitched it up the hole and told me to come back in 10 days. About 5 days later, a hole appeared, kinda like the stitches breaking. I went back ASAP the doctor said it looked fine. Then, I went and got the stitches taken out, thought everything was wonderful, not even a day later this huge hole appeared.
**The stitches didn't work. The wound broke open. Now this is where you come in, haha, Any ideas? I mean there was no blood and it doesn't hurt. Should I just leave it alone for a couple days and it'll eventually heal itself? Or go back to this stupid doctor again? It's really frusterating and disgusting for me. 17/f
I don't know what your insurance is, but you might want to get a second opinion.
I have Kaiser and had ingrown toenails removed in January. I was in a lot of pain and the nail ended up falling off. I went to 2 other Podiatrist before I found my current one, who is the head of the Podiatry department. He explained to me what happened, the other didn't.
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Ok so I know how this sounds, I am a 20 yr old male and i have this friend, weve been friends since freshman year in high school and weve always experimented with diffrent drugs and alcohol weve stopped since then minus alcohol and pot. I hadnt seen her for about 2 years, she randomly called me and told me she was pregnat so we decided to meet at her new place but little did i know she was still smoking pot! im no doctor and i definitly dont like telling others how hey should live their lives but i seriously question the health of her baby, could it possibly induce a miscarage? i have no idea i would just like some opinions.
Looks like that is a very controversial topic. I found this website http://www.babycenter.com/404_is-it-safe-to-smoke-marijuana-during-pregnancy_2490.bc . There's a lot of research and debate both ways.
I don't smoke Marijuana, but personally if I did I wouldn't smoke it if I were pregnant. I've taken a class on drugs and any drug (prescription or illegal) will have an effect on a fetus. It may not be immediate and it might not be huge, but there is some effect. My thing is, why even take a small chance that something might go wrong.
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so ive been with this guy for probably like 2 weeks.
but im wondering when we should kiss?
we havent yet, and he would be my first.
any suggestions on what to do?
If you want him to kiss you, I would send signals that you want to be kissed. Sit closer to him, caress his face and hair, look into his eyes, maybe lean towards him. Also, you can kiss him first. The kiss should just happen. My current boyfriend kissed me on the first date.
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14/f
My friend says he doesn't like me.
Okay, I'd believe him, but here's why I don't
-He is always staring at my lips or neck or chest in a lull in the conversation
-If we aren't around his friends and just by ourselves or around strangers, he can't keep his hands off me. He'll flip my hair or tickle my neck or poke me in the leg or grab my wrist and pull me closer and act like he's gonna hurt me, or he'll grab my jacket and say "It's mine now~
And he'll tease me.
He just touches me or grabs me ALOT.
-He'll randomly pop up wherever I'm at
-Even at like, 12AM if I'm upset he's there for me. One time a guy was getting on my nerves, and he said he'd beat hell out of him if he kept at it(this could be a 'just friends' thing, I admit)
-Every morning he texts me a clever little greeting
-He delights in proving how he's bigger and stronger than me. He doesn't treat other girls like this.
-He'll flirt with my friend when I'm there, yet I asked my friend how he does when I'm not around, and he doesn't do a thing.
What do you make of it?
That all sounds like he likes you, but you might be reading into too much. If he said he doesn't like you, then leave it at that.
When I was in high school, I thought one of my guy friends really liked me because he acted like it. Then I asked him and he said he didn't. It was very awkward after that.
Anyway, even if he secretly liked you, if he won't ask you out, then what can you do? Nothing.
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okay i'll make this as concise as I can:
I am part shy part confident. I can flirt from across the room but freak out when I start talking to someone...
Anyway so there is this guy who FINALLY got the hint that I like him and is showing some signs of interests (he is very very shy). Thing is he works at the library so it isn't really a social environment where we can get to talk and stuff. I asked him questions a couple of times and he's been quite helpful. Today I went to get some research done and got so mad at the noise so I got up very frustrated and was about to leave (I've got a major paper due) and right then he walks right infront of me. Luckily I manged a "hello how's it going" and he said good good you and turned completely towards me taking a go at a potential conversation but being as upset and 'not in the mood' as I was I blew it and cut it short by saying alright thanks smiled and i don't remember if I said something else and left!!! It was a perfect opportunity to start a conversation especially that it seemed like he was strolling around and not busy at the time.
How do i fix this (this might be the second time I accidentally turn him away!!!) he's super shy.
We don't know each other well as I said I only did ask him a couple of questions and all the flirting done was from across the room or non-verbal! I am going back tomorrow so what's a good scenario (emphasis on SCENARIO) to play out ... I can't ask him something else cause he knows that I know everything there is about the library and because he tends to focus completely (or maybe I do??) on the question..... I don't want to make it too obvious that i "ran into him" by accident.....
I like Annie's idea. I would probably end with asking him if he would like to get coffee on Friday (or whatever day, always pick a day). I would pick something casual since he is very shy.
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I moved across the country to start a master's program- it was a big change for me. Friends always ask me how i like everything, and think that i am having the time of my life. The truth is that I am not. I don't have close friends here, hardly go out, and generally feel homesick and start having doubts about being here. To top things off, things at home are not going well at all, adding to my stress. I started to fall behind on my studies and totally bombed an important exam- since then i've felt like complete crap. I stay at home a lot, since i don't really have friends who want to go out (either out of town, studying, etc.). I started doing yoga a while ago with a friend- i swear she is the only one i feel is a true friend to me-- she is often busy too, and we do have plans to start yoga again- so that is my proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.
But lately I've been feeling down- not clinically depressed or anything, but down. I don't like where I am at academically, I don't feel connected to the department or professors; don't really have a shoulder to lean on, and I am stressed all the time. What to do?
This sounds like me before.
Your school probably has a free counselor. I would highly recommend seeing them. When I went to college, it was far from my family and friends, I felt the same way. It really helped me regain control of my life. Whenever I was really down, I would call the crisis hotline. Just talking with someone helped.
The only thing you can control right now is your studies. It is ok that you bombed that test. Regain yourself and focus.
Get involved with a club or group at school. Talk to people in your class. Check out meetup.com . They have some great groups for different interest. I'm in a knitting group. The yoga sounds great. Do things that you love? I love cooking and baking, so I do that.
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Long story short, I talked to this girl everyday for a couple months over the summer, and when she moved back to school I asked her out, only for her to say it was complicated because of an old relationship. She never straight up said "no," but that's basically the jist of what she said. Anyway, our conversations started to dwindle a bit right after that, it was a little awkward. But we kept talking, and we're back to talking nearly everyday now, hanging out on the weekends, etc. I'm nervous to ask her again, but here's my question. Girls, if a guy said he liked you and you didn't like him back, would you keep talking to him? She knows how I feel, and yet if she doesn't feel the same way why would she talk to me?
She may assume that you got over it. She might like the attention and the fact you like her.
I really wouldn't ask her out again. I really think you need to move on. If she wanted to be with you, then should would be with you. I really don't like girls that play games and this is what it looks like. I wouldn't stop talking to her, but I wouldn't talk to her everyday. There are a lot of great women out there that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
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