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Best Friend Drama
Me and my best friend have been friends since 4th grade, and we're 19 now. I don't agree with a lot of the things she does, but I've always been there for her regardless. Lately, though, I'm at my wits end.
She has two kids already by two different guys. She just had her second child maybe two weeks ago with her current boyfriend, and he treats her terribly. He used to be like a brother to me, but after a bunch of drama, we really don't like each other. First, it was little things he did that made me worry. He'd tell her what she could and couldn't wear, he didn't like her talking to guys, stuff like that. But last night everything changed. She called me hysterical. He had hit her three times in the face and held her down when she tried to grab her phone. He finally left, and she called her sister, who called the police. I went to her apartment and he was in the back of the cop car. I went with her to the court house to get an EPO and everything, then stayed with her from 3 am to 10 am. At 10, I was exhausted and had to go home to take care of my dogs. I asked her if she would be okay, and she said "I guess". I didn't want to leave, but I just had to sleep. She texted me after I left and asked if I thought he missed his daughter or regretted doing it.
I called her when I woke up, like I told her I would, but she wouldn't answer. I texted her and she wouldn't answer that, either. I even I.M.'d her, and still nothing, but she talked to my sister on I.M. a few minutes earlier and said she missed him.
I don't know what to do, and I'm getting really frustrated. She asks me for advice, and I tell her what the best thing to do is, but she never listens. Then, I'm always there for her, but now she's ignoring me. It's like she's mad because I had to leave. I don't want to be rude and say "what's your problem?", but I don't know what to do. Any advice?
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i understand that shes goin through a difficult time right now, but shes not bein greatful at all for what you have done for her. some friends wouldnt even stay that long with their friends. you went with her to the court house then stayed with her for 7 hours... shes being immature and a drama queen for ignorin you. plus, youve been friends with her for 10 years even though you dont like some things she does !
dont take it personally, youve obviously shown that youre a good friend and shes just not makin an effort to thank you.
shell come around and call you, but until then just forget about it. you dont need to apologize to her, but if youre still up to help her just ask her if she needs you.
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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I would suggest your friend go to counseling. There are a lot of abused women groups and non-profits that can help her. She may not realize this, but she is also hurting her children. She needs help in realizing that she was in an abusive relationship.
I would go over to her house with your sister and talk to her. Realize, there is only so much you can do to help her.
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