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i started masturbating a few months ago i'm 13 male it feels really good i have started masturbating a lot more lately sometimes i get sexual urges i'm not ready for sex there's nothing wrong with masturbating a lot is there? (link)
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Hi.
There's nothing wrong about masturbating, Because it's part of growing up. But, I suggest you pace yourself with it. I think limit yourself to 2-3 times per week. Because if you do it too much, you'll get exhausted. You'll still feel very tired even when you wake up in the morning.Self control is the key.
Hope this helps =)
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please don't tell me to see a counselor, because ive got two right now who are not helping at all, and ive seen so many damn counselors. counselors are absolutely useless. and im seeing a psychiatrist who prescribes me medication. and all the medication he has prescribed me has never worked.
nothings going right:
my parents and I are always getting into fights over nothing.
I want to kill myself.
my boyfriend is not helping my happiness, but it literally kills me to have the thought of him being with another girl because I love him with all my heart, but everyone around me says hes part of the reason for my depression.
I want to overdose on medication.
spirituality has always interest me, and I don't have any higher being to look up to.
I want to shoot myself.
im never motivated for school, so that makes me more depressed.
I want to hang myself.
im hopeless.
have I mentioned how i want to kill myself?
my body hurts all the time, and the emotional and physical pain is just way too much to bare any longer. I just cant take it anymore. like Ive been suffering all this pain for so fucking long, and I don't know what to do anymore. I strongly believe I have the right to kill myself if ive been suffering for almost ten years. but everyones hanging on to me because theyre selfish bastards. if they knew how much pain I am in, theyd let me go.
if no one tells me at least one way that'll help me, then im leaving!!! (link)
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Him I hope I'm not too late.
I'll answer your questions as simple and straight to the point.
1. Don't kill yourself - Why? Because you'll regret it. Why? Because death is a cowards way of going out in this world.
2. You love your boyfriend but he isn't much of a help to you right now. - Maybe you are not giving him much information regarding to what you're feeling. Or Maybe you are overthinking too much about him with another person.
3.Depression really is hard to fight. believe me I'm also in this situation right now and I've been fighting it for my whole life.
4. I agree with you. Counselors and Psychiatrist won't help you. you need someone who also has depression issues yet knows how to fight it.
Message me if you need more help. I can give you my number if you have viber. I'll gladly help you out!
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hi.so im trying to figure out my activity level so that i can calculate how much to eat and theres sedentary,moderately active and active.im not sedentary.i walk 4-5 days every week for 1hour and 30 mins at a very fast speed,and i do 10km hikes saturday and sunday. is that considered moderately active or? i tried looking it up on google but every site said different things and confused me.thanks for the help :) (link)
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Hi.
Continue to what you are doing because what you're doing is healthy. Don't totally believe in websites regarding what to do with your health. You are the only one that can know whether you feel healthy or not. =)
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I'm tired of loving. Simple as that. I wish I was dead.. All I ever do is cause problems... I just want my life to be over. I don't want to take my own life though. I wish for someone to do it for me... Can someone help me? Please... Living is pointless for me. I can't escape the pain.... And now.... I'm completely... Irrevocably numb. (link)
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Hi.
Do not judge your life as pointless when your reason is about tiring due to love problems. I tell you, you still have a lot to learn about life . Through experience I know. I've been there, done that, laugh at myself for doing that before.
I sense that you are one of the guys that will do everything for that special someone yet he/she is not acknowledging it enough. I'm like you. yet I thought about it and realized that why don't I give my love to somebody that really deserves it?
lastly. It's obvious you lack self love, because you want to take your own life! plus you want someone to commit murder just for you to die. That's crazy talk.
Love yourself first before you love others my dear friend. stay stronger and train yourself to be more susceptible to pain.
I suggest you meditate. Play video games. talk to friends.
Hope this helps =)
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20/f
So I'm starting to develop a crush on one of my co workers.
I'm not sure how to go about it. We talk on facebook almost every day, he usually initiates it which I think is a good sign.
I don't hang out with him outside of work. I did invite him to my party tomorrow and he said he'll probably be able to come.
We're pretty cool, we talk normal, tease each other at work and online.
My friends/coworkers all say he likes me. I haven't said anything about me liking him. They said because he messages me often and he doesn't message them.
He hasn't given any hints if he likes me or not. Usually a guy will start calling me pretty and talk about hanging out and all that if they're interested in me. He hasn't done anything like that. I'll tell him about the dates I've had in the past and he'll bring it up later and ask how they went.
The only thing I've tried is asking if he had a girlfriend, and he said no. He asked what is considered a date and then he said he hung out with a girl but it wasn't a date. I asked if he liked her and he said no. I asked if he liked anyone and he said his mom...so he avoided the subject and I let it go.
I don't want to straight up tell him I like him. Mostly because if he doesn't like me, it'll be weird when I work with him.
So is there any other ideas? (link)
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Hi.
This is a bit of a challenge, my friend. Because if ever you and he get together? It will affect your work.
But nevermind that, let's focus on the now.
I suggest that you make him your best friend first. Trust should be one and first of the elements of a relationship because you should know him first from head to toe. Be more open to him but, be careful and don't be too vulnerable.
2nd, keep your feelings to yourself and prevent others from knowing your feelings towards your co worker. believe me, news spreads like wild fire when it gets out. It will affect you and whatever relationship you have with you friend.
lastly, if ever you have the time to be with your friend and you know he likes you. talk with him about this and just enjoy his company. Outside of work that is. prevent places where you know your coworkers hang out.
Hope this helps =)
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Details:
We've been friends for two months before we got together
When we got together, we were separated after two weeks
We are now 5000 miles apart
We always talk and text
We get to see each other only once a year
We love each other so much
Do you think it'll last? (link)
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Hi.
I think it depends on you two whether you want keep your relationship strong or to let it whither which don't want to happen.
Do what ever you need to do in order to keep in touch. get viber, wechat, skype, face time. anything that can make your relationship strong.
the answer you're looking for is not how your relationship can last, but rather, how can your relationship be strong enough to withstand the harshness of LDR. If there's a will, There's a way.
I have few friends who are in an LDR, they did all they can to stay strong.
I hope the both of you will do everything to stay strong.
Hope this helps =)
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Guys T-T I filed this under Abusive Relationships because I feel so tormented.
I have a bestfriend, and I love him, he always says he loves me back. We've been bestfriends for nine years. Then she came along.
This girl, gods! This girl became his girlfriend for only two months. All he talks about is her. I have access to his facebook, and all I see is, "I only love you and no one else" That's not all.
Everytime we ride the jeepney, it's a public transpo vehicle, I always get dizzy so I rest my head on his shoulder. But now, this girl gets MY shoulder. It's supposed to be MINE! T-T Now, I cant even ride the jeepney without holding my stomach and getting teary eyed.
We were enrolling for school. It was a respected school and it was my dream to go there. Suddenly, they started kissing and doing PDA. I get it already! they love each other! But not here! Gods!
We were kicked out...
I cant stand them T-T I dont want to leave him though... What can I do? Please help me! T-T (link)
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Hi.
I can see that you are in the philippines
Kaya sasagutin kita ng ating wika.
Una, Hindi mo ba napapansin kaya ka nagkakaganyan ay sa sarili mong hinanakit at hindi sa best friend mo?
pangalawa, baka naman yung sinabi nya na I Love you sa iyo ay bilang isang best friend o kapatid lamang? Hindi ba kyo naguusap kung ano ang nararamdaman mo sa kanya kaya sya nag hanap ng iba? Para sa akin lang, sana sinabi mo sa kanya nararamdaman mo. mas magaan sa loob kung alam mo ang nararamdaman nya towards you kaysa sa nanghuhula ka kung gusto ka nya o hindi.
pangatlo, sana sinabihan mo yung best friend mo at yung babae na huwag mag PDA. syempre as his bestfriend dapat alam mo ang tama at hindi mo sila pinayagan na tuloy tuloy. Mind to tell you na ang PDA eh medyo nakakabastos kapag sa publiko.
lastly. As his best friend, huwag na huwag mo siyang iiwan. period. unless sinasaktan ka nya physically. pero like I said before. Hindi nya kasalanan na nasasaktan ka, hinayaan mo sarili mo na masaktan.
Hope this helps =)
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i am a 15yrs boy and i want to know that what can i use instead of dildo for sex i am from india
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Hi.
Aren't you still young to be thinking about these kinds of things? Enjoy while you are still young my friend. Don't hurry yourself to have sex. And please, do not give in to peer pressure. Not everything you see can be treated as cool.
Don't think about sex too much. It will ruin you.
I know this doesn't help, But I hope this will alter your decision regarding your concern =)
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Hey, so a few months ago I started dating this girl. I absolutely love her, but long story short, she has her phone taken away, and I can't contact her at all cause she's like 2 hours away. I honestly haven't talked to her since like February or March. I love her, but I'm not even sure if she's happy, cause her friends won't answer my calls for help. Now I've been talking to a few other people, but I just can't seem to let go of my love :( I don't know what to do, please, I need advice. Someone help me. Btw, we're both 14 (link)
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Hi.
In my opinion my young friend. Love is for all ages, yet it has different perspectives when getting older. All I can say is, love is not to be criticized but to think about... You are just 14, When did you know this girl or where you met her I will not know. but, think with not just just your heart but also with you mind. you will find the answer for your problem.
In her parents'perspective. It's obvious They will tell you that you both are still young.
All I'm saying is that it's still too young to feel heart broken. You still have a lot to learn about love. Only time will tell if you and her will meet again. if you feel it will happen. Then it will. Just believe.
Hope this helps =)
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why dont i have nippels
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Nipples or no nipples, Love yourself. simple as that.
If you like someone yet gets weirded out that you don't have nipples. He/she is not right for you buddy.
Love your flaws, others should too.
Hope this helps =)
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Alright, So there is this boy, he's super cute, athletic and funny. We have had a thing going on for a while now but he has a girlfriend and they just recently started dating. Her and I are 2 way different people and honestly I think he's doing to make me jealous. We still talk and he's always saying that he remebers the little dates we had and how great it was when we kissed. I am completely in love with this boy and I know he's not good for me so how do I tell him how I feel? (link)
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Hi.
In my opinion, I think you should stop that. No matter the guys relationship status with the girl. You must respect that and to be honest, respect yourself. Don't be third wheel. If you feel jealous about what's happening in their relationship, you have no choice. You are letting yourself be jealous. There are other guys that can be fortunate to be with you. but you're not letting that happen because you are too focused on that guy.
Also, There are men that doesn't have the cute or athletic type. But, look ahead. They are far better than you think.
Hope this helps =)
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I am an American citizen married to a Mexican citizen, and I live in Mexico City. I work as an English teacher and am very happy with my job and have great friends here. The problem is my marriage of 4 years. My husband is a serial cheater and liar. He has taken money from me, and has racked up so much debt that we have lost our house. He has physically threatened me, and has a Jeckyll and Hyde personality that I am always very careful of. We are currently in the process of divorce. I basically have 2 options right now. The first option would be to take off and bolt for the USA, leaving him to complete the divorce process on his own here in Mexico, and I could start a new life with my mom in Tucson, or go to San Diego with my daughters who study there. The problem with that is..the divorce would draw out to about a year, and of course Hubby would be sure and 'love me again" so that he could come to the USA with my help of course. The second option I have would be to stay another 3 months in Mexico, finish the divorce completely, and then get back to the USA without having any more ties to my husband in any way. This plan has risks to my physical and mental health since he could find me at any time. He especially looks for me when he needs sex, and threatens me if I don't submit claiming we are still spouses. When I go against his wishes, he threatens to call the police with a made-up story and send me to jail. I feel very vulnerable, not knowing what to do in this situation. (link)
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Hi.
I think do what you need to do in order to rid of him. He is already hurting you physically and mentally with his lust and physical abuse. I may be a man, but hell I know women should be treated with respect and love. Go to your mother and stay there. It is much safer than going to your kids. It may lead to another problem if you stay with your kids because he can have the audacity to go without thinking. Because he can act that you should all answer to his wants because he is your husband/ Father to them. at least if you are with your mothers. safety will be implemented at all times.
Hope this helps =)
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I have a crush on a girl and I want to get close to her but i don't know how.I reckon that She indirectly show that she has feelings for me but i want to verify them.We hang out and play together.
In addition, I want to get close to her and indirectly verify if she has also some feelings for me too but I don't know how.Another problem is that I think a friend of mine has also some feelings for her too and i want to make out with her before he does.
Taking everything into consideration, i would like to give me some advice about my thorny issue.I appreciate any advice you give me.
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In my opinion. C'mon man think! That is not how things work! what do you mean by you want to make out with her first before he does?? Are you treating this girl like someone you just want to use once? then your friend can have him after?? dude that's very disrespectful and a stupid plan ( sorry for being blunt) For me women should be treated as they should be, with love. I advise you to not continue with this so your friendship with her will not be in jeopardy. Be the better man and treat her with respect. If she HAS feelings for you then triple your respect for her more. relationships are for people that can love their significant other.
Better be careful of your decisions my friend. Hope this helps.
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I have a friend and we went out together several times but he has not asked me for relationship yet and im confused!:( hes a quiet and shy boy but we are friends for 2 months now
Im not sure if i should expect a relationship or not.....
I didnt go out with any other boy this 2 months
Im not american. Im a 20-year old girl (link)
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Hi.
In my opinion. just be friends with him more. 2 months is just too soon for a relationship. keep up to what you are doing. Stay as friends as long as you can until you know him from head to toe. loving someone is more complicated than how people think. My advice is to Love who he is, but love his flaws more.
I don't believe in people just having a relationship just for the sake of having it. You and he are still young. enjoy each others company. then decide whether both of you are good for each other or not.
Hope my short advice helps you. good luck my friend =)
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So this lady in my apartment we talk sometime I've known her for a while now but haven't really talk to her but one day I had the guts to talk to her so lately we have been talking so one day I went up to her got her number 2days ago called her up at around 6 she didn't pick up her phone but about 20 minutes later she called 2 left a message 2 yesterday when she called back I was too busy to called back so today at around 7 called 1 but she didn't pick the phone my thinking was no big deal cause I see her around in the apartment but my question is was it too soon to call back or was it just rigth (link)
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Hi.
Why call when you can just go to her apartment and actually talk to her in person!
Awkwardness will just be there if you let it. But, it seems it's already happening. Afraid not my friend. It's will power you need. not just guts. go to her apartment, knock on her door and say Hello, can I ask if you're available for coffee sometime? When I say go to her apartment. I say ask for her time, not barge in to her apartment just to talk, that will just make it more awkward and a bit disrespectful of her space.
Hope I helped =)
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Hi..i'm from India M/32. I have a girlfriend.we are in a relation since 2010. She is beautiful lovely and very educated.we both wanted to marry.everything was right but 1year ago i came to know that she had an affair in her school days.i asked her and she agreed.she doesn't told me anything about it before i asked! Her ex bf's friend tell me that they had very intimate relation and had sex.when i asked my girl,she denied it and claimed that i am her first man whom she had sex 2times. But i can't trust because when we had sex she doesn't bleed. I can't trust her anymore.she hidden everything about her past.she told me that her past relation was very abusive,her ex tortured her so she breakup,she told me she wanted to tell me but she affaird to lose me.I am in dilemna. I cannot fully trust her now.and everyday we fight with the issue of her past. What to do? Please suggest me. (link)
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Hi. I'm new to this site but I'll do my best to give you an advice.
First of all. Is your relationship all about sex? If it's all about that then, my friend, that is a relationship you cannot expect to last longer. Having a relationship with somebody needs trust. Love is the main reason and the glue you're both together and second, Trust will be the paint job. Yes she has a past I get it. but, haven't you ask yourself that she is afraid to lose you because she actually loves you? Haven't you thought about that she is afraid that she may lose some one very dear to her because she was actually felt love by you? I think that this may be hard for you to understand but sex is nothing if love is not present. Sex and making love is 2 different things. May be the real dilemma you're having is if you trust her that much so she can trust you more with her problems so she can share it with you more than hide it from you. May be that's the problem why she is not sharing you her dark past because you would react like this rather than talk about it and finish it then and there. Trust her more my friend. I'm sure she'll share her problems and also trust you more. =)
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