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In love and can't get out of it.
Alright, So there is this boy, he's super cute, athletic and funny. We have had a thing going on for a while now but he has a girlfriend and they just recently started dating. Her and I are 2 way different people and honestly I think he's doing to make me jealous. We still talk and he's always saying that he remebers the little dates we had and how great it was when we kissed. I am completely in love with this boy and I know he's not good for me so how do I tell him how I feel?
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In my opinion, I think you should stop that. No matter the guys relationship status with the girl. You must respect that and to be honest, respect yourself. Don't be third wheel. If you feel jealous about what's happening in their relationship, you have no choice. You are letting yourself be jealous. There are other guys that can be fortunate to be with you. but you're not letting that happen because you are too focused on that guy.
Also, There are men that doesn't have the cute or athletic type. But, look ahead. They are far better than you think.
Hope this helps =)
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firstly i think people dont honestly date people just to make other people jelous, they flirt with people maybe even kiss people but someone would be taking things a little too far to honestly go out with someone for a while just to make someone else jelous. he might hwoever still like you and just be dating this girl because she made herself more available or something. i would see where things go before you try to make yourself get over him, try to spend time with him, give him signs that your interested, and find a semi-joking way to let him say hes interested in you if he is. if after a while you see its not working try getting to know other guys honestly the easiest way to get over someone i find is to start distracting yourself with someone else.
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If I understand, the only thing you want to know is how to tell him how you feel? You mean about loving him and also feeling he's not good for you? It would confuse him. You confuse me a bit there. I have no clue why he's not good for you, whether your idea's of that are rational or not. Perhaps you're trying to say that although you dated and he liked your kisses, that there wasn't enough in common between you and that is what makes him not right for you. And if this is the case, why would you even want to still pursue him.
Caution! It is not an acceptable practice to approach a guy who is currently dating/involved with another and tell him your feelings, that you love him. So now would be the wrong time to profess anything if you really want him back.
Just follow missundersmocks advice and don't show any concerns and let him be the bad guy and break up with her if he really doesnt care about her.
I understand it may feel hurtful to you. But regardless of what he says to you right now, there's no guarantee just by the one thing you said, remembering the kisses, that he would come back to you. If he really wanted you for you and not just kisses or more, then he wouldn't have started dating another.
Then again I dont know your ages. Dont want to offend if in 20s or older but if you both are very young, his tactic to make you jealous is a common way some young boys will use to get some reaction out of a girl they like to determine if she really loves him as she was giving him no real solid clue and in a twisted round-about way some guys figure if a girl shows jealousy, it means she really likes him. Well, that may be true, but why couldn't he just ask her if she loved him. Because younger males and well females too, really have no idea what the subtle signs are that someone likes them. For example, if some guy you dont like and find unattractive to you wanted to talk with you and steal a kiss, you wouldn't like that and be backing away long before the kiss. And so, if he had feelings for you, then why did he not come right out and confess whiile you both were still together? He was plain old, too chicken. Or it didn't occur to him that all he had to say is, "I know we've done some dating and I know lots of guys do that just to look cool to their friends. But I want you to know that I am dating you because I really have strong feelings for you and wonder if you feel the same. He could have asked but didn't. Then again, he may be looking for something that he didn't find with you and didn't with the new girl. Perhaps the only thing he did like is the kisses if thats all he's mentioned and thats not enough for a relationship, heck, not even enough for a friendship.he may actually feel stuck and not know how to break up with her and you professing your feelings will only help him out but it's no guarantee he'll come back to you or whether he does for the right reasons. As it stands, neither of you know how the other feels. But while he's dating another is not the time to share those feelings. He needs to be the man and break up on his own without help from you that makes her jealous and she leaves and that lets him off the hook in his mind.
If thats not your question or you have another equally important, wanting to know how to be sure if a guy is right for you? Let me know by asking that question but only from going to my column and writing from there as I can't answer where you put comments. I do have a list of criteria for you to learn how to create for yourself as a help when you are considering a guy and while dating. Dating is for learning more about the person and therefore able to determine is he's right for who you are right now. the list will change as you experiences the highs and lows and rotten stuff of relationships and as you get older/more life experience.
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Sounds like he is doing it to make you jealous because if his new gf isnt his type and your both very different then he doesnt REALLY like her and is leading her on for the sake of making you mad.
The best thing you can do is NOT show that your upset or effected by him or by his choices. When he brings up things like that a totally neutral answer would be "ohh ok" and "uhuh" and "well you have a girlfriend now so maybe we shouldnt talk like this anymore"
get HIM to show the bad guy because he may be trying to turn YOU into one by playing with your feelings like this.
He cant have you and this other girl, its one or the other. To be friends is ok but if he crosses a line then thats it, its over and threaten to tell the girlfriend what hes done if he does try anything. But my recommendation is to not hang out with him alone. he could try something knowing there are no witnesses to confirm anything.
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