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was it a bad idea
ok so my question was it a bad idea that i bought something yesterday i work with this lady yesterday was a mothers day in the restaurant its our busy day of the year ok so i know that when you guys are not official its a bad idea to get somebody with a gift it just puts you on a friend zone ohhh your a nice my thinking was ok its not gonna hurt to get her a small bottle of water that water cost me $1.45 my thinking i wanted her to think that i care lately she has been asking me to hangout with her i have never given her a direct answer yes lets go my strategies was i have all the time in the world to surely build attraction patient.discipline.selfcontrol is the key to lady heart do was it a bad idea that i got her a bottle my strategies wa how is she gonna react in the freindzone or you know what i mean so when i gave it to her she seems very happy
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To answer your question, NO, not a bad idea. There are plenty people who are thoughtful and do nice thngs and aren't attracted to someone as more than friends.
However, I want you to be honest with yourself. Why did she get the bottle of water and not others?
The fact she's asked you to hang out means she likes you enough to want to learn more about you. That is the only way two people can learn more about each other, enough to be able to determine if this is someone they want to become committed couple with. Dating is merely another way of hanging out to learn this and unless there's an exchange of words promising commitment to each other, the type of dating hasn't changed. But I did make this clear when agreeing to date a guy that I was merely still in the information gathering stage and this in no way indicates I am at the level of ready to commit or that I am commiting to them. However, without commitment, the two are still free to see others and that also needs to be made clear at the beginning, while both are still in the info gathering stage. And that would also mean the possibility of such a person having sex with someone else while seeing you if they were so inclined. This is not cheating because no commitment was made. So if this is not made clear at the beginning, a gal may think you seeing someone else at same time means you are cheating unless this has been established at the start and you both agree to 'hang out' in essense with no strings attached. But just using that phrase isn't enough, it needs to be spelled out. So ask yourself if you want to learn more about her to discover how much you may really like her. She may be ready to commit before you but both need to wait until the other is sure. However don't take years to decide. It usually months only before someone knows they're ready for this level of commitment. Even so, that a couple are 'together' doesnt guarantee they will marry or be a couple long term. The next stage is living together for many,during which a person discovers more about their special person that won't be revealed while dating. You discover their cleanliness habits, how responsible they are with money, etc... and sometimes, even with a commitment, at this stage one or the other finds something they just can't live with long term unless it changes so you discuss this and if a person can't be responsible money wise, you wouldn't want to marry them and have them overspend and run you into the poor house and ruin your credit, lose your place you live, etc. I know its more than you asked but its really the question that you didn't ask that needed answering. Why if she's asking you out are you not giving an answer. Whats holding you back? A bottle of water is not going to satisfy her if she wants your company. So something must be holding you back, and hopefully in sharing the most common reasoning for doing so, I've taken care of that for you.
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No.. I don't think it was a bad idea to get her a water bottle. That is like totally harmless. If someone did that to me that would just make me feel like they care. Unless you did it in like a super creepy way, it should be fine.
Hope this helps~
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