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There would be relationship?!
I have a friend and we went out together several times but he has not asked me for relationship yet and im confused!:( hes a quiet and shy boy but we are friends for 2 months now
Im not sure if i should expect a relationship or not.....
I didnt go out with any other boy this 2 months
Im not american. Im a 20-year old girl
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Hi.
In my opinion. just be friends with him more. 2 months is just too soon for a relationship. keep up to what you are doing. Stay as friends as long as you can until you know him from head to toe. loving someone is more complicated than how people think. My advice is to Love who he is, but love his flaws more.
I don't believe in people just having a relationship just for the sake of having it. You and he are still young. enjoy each others company. then decide whether both of you are good for each other or not.
Hope my short advice helps you. good luck my friend =)
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I will answer this question from the angle of moving from friendship to romantic relationship.
It is true that best friends can become romantic partners, however most have been best friend for a year if not years and still find it awkward to make a change to something more.
Basically you can only know what you feel, same for him. And there is no way to really know without bringing up the subject whether the other feels romantically towards you.
What holds both people back is the fear of losing a friend is the other didn't feel the same way.
It's very possible this is too soon for him due to his being quiet, shy and thus more likely slow to move forward in any life situation including dating.
On the other hand, we are not talking about making a 'commitment" to the other to become a committed dating couple or to marriage. There is such a thing as dating first for the purpose of information gathering to learn if you like the person enough to make the commitment to the other, to be the only one you date. To want that stage from a guy will be jumping the gun for any guy worth your time. Unless a guy is solely after sex, he doesn;t proceed as quickly with a relationship. Guys tend to like the chance to go from friendship once they are satisfied they make good friends, to gathering more information by dating romantically to see if both are still a match on the romantic side also. And they need to be VERY sure of this area with a girl, if its going to be a long term relationship because its very important to them that they have chemistry here with her BEFORE making a commitment to her.
This is why some guys, other than the excuse of shyness, may hold back from dating, afraid the girl will assume it means he's made a commitment to her when he has not. This is a valid concern because a great majority of females believe he wants a commitment when all he's still doing is gathering information. This puts great pressure and worry on a guy to the point they may never get up the guts to ask.
Why did I bother to tell you all of this...because it all figures in to your situation.
Here's how.
You have dated 2 months. That doesnt tell me how often you actually hang out together. Some people meet once every two weeks due to a busy schedule. So over two months time have only seen each other 4 times. That is not enough time to feel sure about you. If on the other hand, you've met several times a week, 2 or 3 or even more, then he should have enough of an idea if he really likes you. If you aren't seeing each other enough for him to get a grasp of whether he likes you enough to check you out further in dating, then try to encourage him meeting you more often. It may be up to another 4 months then before he's sure and ready.
If you have been seeing alot of each other in the 2 months, very often together, and he's still coming back, there's definitely an attraction. Give it one more month and if he hasn't backed away, then you ask him about dating. But word it carefully. "Since we're doing so well as friends, I wonder what you would think if we were to try dating as boyfriend/girlfriends. Should we give it a try?" This type of wording isn't demanding a commitment, only to TRY to see if it will work and a guy is more likely to say yes, not feeling any pressure.
If he says no, it isn't a good idea or that he's not sure or not ready. Just shrug and say, "Well, you naturally sounded like a good first choice. So this means you have no problem if I started dating some other guy and just be friends with you, right? Make him make a decision at this point if he's too shy to make one himself.
Don't just assume he'll get the picture if you start seeing another guy and it makes him jealous. give him the chance first by saying something in ways I've suggested.
Good luck dear!
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ok, well for HIM 2 months into things could be way too soon still. I would give him some time. Most lasting relationships can TAKE the wait, so if you really like each other theres no need to rush into things. Let the love grow slowly on its own because its not always "love at first sight" he might be scared still and really like you but just not ready or know how to go about it yet.
All you can do is continue to be nice, see him, show him that your still interested until he does something to show you that hes not invested in you and then see what happens. This is the reality of human relationships. we dont all move at the same speed, so maybe just slow your horses a little there. ; )
good luck.
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