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i was in a 7 year relationship and got married last year.and throughout my relationship.i worked hard to get the things we have together .i worked 80 hr a week two jobs.and no days off.barely getting any sleep just to pay all the bills so she could go to collage.i helpt her get the new car she wanted,new furniture for the apartment,etc,etc,well after she graduated and got the job she wanted and everything else she said she wasnt happy anymore and told me it was over with us. i had to leave.and of course i had no place to go cause the apartment was my home.and i have no family to go to.so i was homeless.i had to go to a hotel witch is expencive.for now. till i figure out what im going to do.i was used this whole entier relationship.i dont have any extra money to get an attorney for a divorce since im not working 80 hr a week anymore.my wife switced my phone # to another phone she had cause the service was under her moms plan through verizon and now shes useing my old # for her personal use.and when people call my old #she is telling lies about me.contacting my job and anyone else she can .because i wont pay for her bills.i dont know what to do.its bad enough that she used me .but taking my phone # and lieng about me also .i just want to start over with my life but she wont let me.what am i suposed to do .im a decent good man that dont deserve this.
First of all, let me tell you that you are incredibly strong and you're handling this awful awful situation very bravely. I'm really blown away by your courage and strength of character. Judging by the way you are handling this predicament, I'm certain that things will work out beautifully for you. I'm only 17, and I don't know what you're supposed to do in such a situation, but I felt I had to tell you this.
I'm just wondering, it's not clear whether the apartment belongs to you or your wife. It sounds like it belongs to you, if that's true, then you should reclaim it and let this bitch go live in a hotel. The way she's treating you is totally unacceptable. I would have zero tolerance for such behavior, and you should too. Do not let her get away with this. You are an incredible person, and no one should EVER get away with treating you like this. Gather some friends, and discuss some ideas of how to proceed.
This predicament will be over before you know it, and hopefully you will move on and find a great girl and start over. As for your wife, judging by her abhorrent character, she'll never be successful or happy. She's hopeless. I'm sorry you were a victim of her criminal acts. As you say, you're a great decent guy, and you really don't deserve this.
You are going to be okay, trust me. You are a strong guy, and you don't let people break you. You're my hero, dude!
Good luck and I hope things get better fast :) Keep me posted.
Okay well does any-one know of a website that is free forever and has phycoligists that I can talk to 24/7 I was sexualy abused by my brother in-law and I don't know how to talk about it.by the way I'm 12 and he started it when I was 9 turning 10.I really need help urgently please
Rainn.org is a free website where you can get free help 24/7. RAINN stands for rape, abuse, incest national network. You can have a live chat with a professional or call their toll free hotline 24/7: 1800.656.HOPE.
I was sexually abused a few months ago, and they've really helped me and given me great tips on what to do when I have a flashback, like standing up and putting my feet on the ground. It makes me feel secure and protected.
I am so sorry you were abused. I know how that feels, and it is so so awful. If you need any support, I am always here for you. You can send a message to my inbox anytime, and I'll get back to you. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. You really don't deserve this.
Hello
I am in a very scary situation right now. And I'm just trying to reach out. I met this guy on mubi.com which is a social networking site for people who likes movies.
He seemed super cool and I really liked him at first but then slowly he started getting more weird. I found out he was doing drugs, and the more i distanced myself from him the crazier he started to act.
(I also need to mention that he is from the states and I live in Canada)
I stopped talking to him completely in January. I blocked him on all social networking sites. He would make new fake profiles and send me these scary crazy messages saying how much he was in love with me and that he was coming for me. That he was hearing voices telling him I was his soulmate and how we're gonna have a kid together and he just knows it. Despite me telling him over and over again to leave me alone and that I wasn't interested he kept on harrassing me.
He is a complete psycho. I think he might be psychiztophrenic.
On wednesday at 4:30 pm I recieved an e-mail from him saying that he had driven to vancouver from the newyork to come and surprise and they didn't allow him to enter (for reasons I don't know yet). He said he was gonna come to my house and surprise me. He asked me how I felt about that, and that he was gonna try again the next day.
It was one of the most surreal and scary moments of my life. Knowing he knows where i live and he was coming to 'surprise' me.
I was kind of paranoid that this would happen before it did because he had made a blog just for me. Directing everything at me. Sometimes threatening.
I e-mailed him back and said that I was calling the police.
I called the police and I went down to the station and filled out a police report and talked to the officer for 40 minutes.
I didn't have enough proof to make him understand how crazy he really was. I just took a copy of the e-mail he had sent me.
The officer said he would call them at the border to let them know whats going on. and he said he would e-mail him to hear 'his side of the story' which was kind of disheartening.
I went to stay at my aunt's that night because I was terrified. He kept on e-mailing me that night saying things like 'come on you fraidy cat, what am I gonna bite you?'
I was having severely anxiety that night and couldn't stop shaking. I e-mailed him again and told him that I wanted to nothing to do with him again and he emailed me back and said hat he was gonna go back and to tell the police officer to back off...
The next day I got a call from the border saying that he was there again with a new story. And they asked me if I wanted him there and that he had told them I was his gf and he was going to suprise me.
They said he's been flagged and he won't be allowed in again. Even if he tries to fly in he would get in trouble.
I told them about the drugs and said he might even be hiding drugs. They said there was something strange about his demeanor.
I'm sorry this is so long but he emailed me again saying he was gonna go and that i should wouldn't 'he thought'
I came home today after staying at my aunt's since wednesday. Despite the officer and the border officer telling me he is flagged and wont be allowed in again I am still scared. I can't help it. My mind is getting the best of me. I live by myself and I am scared to go to sleep. I keep thinking what if he tried to come again and they let him in this time
I need advice on how to cope with this. It's one of the worst thinsg I've ever experienced in my life.
I really appreciate you taking the time to read this.
This is a really crazy situation, and despite of what you think, I believe you are very brave. I would go totally insane if this happened to me, and you're really courageous. I was sexually abused a few months ago, and I used to have terrible nightmares. Today, whenever I feel threatened, I put my feet down on the ground, and I feel secure.
I believe that you should talk this over with an adult you trust, and listen to their comforting words. Tell yourself that no one is gonna hurt you, and you're going to be okay. You can visit RAINN's website, and have a live chat with a professional. I know they've really helped me. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon. You really don't deserve this.
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ok, to start off, im not sure if it was sex or rape.
i said yes to my boyfriend. he did NOT pressure me into it. later before it, i changed my mind, but i forgot to tell him. so we did and now i feel violated.
was it sex or rape????
This was sex, not rape, even if you felt violated. I believe you should talk to your boyfriend about it, but make it clear that it was your responsibility to let him know that you changed your mind. But if he could please help you out next time, and make sure that you are really okay, during sex. It is normal to think that you want something, until you actually do it. He should respect your change of mind, even if he will be very upset. Remember that it is your body, and you have full right over it. I hope you feel better soon :)
do you want to know why I am so fucked up? the reason is because my mom is the most horrible person who ever existed in the face of existence!
every inch of my soul was destroyed before I was even fucking born! every inch of my soul was destroyed! ever fabric of my reality! every essence of existence! every molecule in the fucking spectrum! everything was annihilated before I was even born!
I was victimized tortured abused subjugated fucking annihilated.
total obliteration of the human psyche.
the end.
It really really sucks to live with a person you don't like. It sounds like you're really suffering, and can't think clear. You shouldn't live like that! You should be enjoying your life. You're not very specific about what your mother does, so I don't really know what to suggest. It might be something that can be worked out, or she might be charged with child abuse, depending on what's going on. You can e-mail me with more exact details of what's going on at alexisgirlie@gmail.com, and maybe I can help you more. Good luck :)
I want to kill myself...I've been getting bullied since middle school & my family hates me?
I really want to kill myself. I'm always depressed because I get picked on at school & my family members treat me like I'm a piece of crap. they think I'm a weirdo because I'm quiet & they tell me I don't have any friends, but if I told them I was getting picked on in school they probally wouldn't care or believe me. My family always fusses at me & talks about me like I'm worthless, they don't understand me & I don't want to talk to them because they never will understand.They say a lot of things to hurt my feelings & then I go to school & get picked on by kids because of the way I look. I have been being picked on since the 6th grade. If they found out that I cry in my room they probally wouldn't care or think I'm serious. I'probablyslapped before by a kid just because they didn't like me. I'm tired of being picked on at school & my family always putting me down. I'm not a ad kid. I make good grades, but I hate my life...When I get depressed I just go in my room and cry because if I talk to family about it they probally won't care. I don't even want to talk to anyone I just want to kill myself. I don't have a gun so I think the best way is to just use a knife.
You're facing some rough times right now, and it really sucks. It looks like you're really depressed and need guidance and support. You are very strong, even though you may not know it. A big reason people are bringing you down is because you seem to accept all the trash they feed you. Start by telling yourself over and over again that you are NOT a garbage truck! You are not going to collect all the trash people feed you. A lot of people are really evil, and a lot of times they are people we can't avoid. You always have to stand up for your rights, and one of those rights is the right to live a happy and peaceful life, and no one has the right to treat you like crap. Think about this, do you rather want an incredible life, with lots of love, wonderful friends, an awesome career, and tons of fun, or do you want to cut your life short? I can guarantee you that if you get out there, and get help, one day you're going to be really happy, plus a huge inspiration to others. Try listening to some inspiring music, escape to the library, get out there and get a life! Be tough and stand up for yourself! You can also try to work off some of that stress in the gym. I know I've climbed out of the deepest abyss. I've survived multiple suicide urges, a near suicide attempt, and long spells of dark terrifying depression. I'm so glad I'm alive today, and so proud of myself. Give your life another chance! You deserve to be happy! Good luck, and please take care of yourself :)