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As soon as she was done using me to pay for her schooling, she dumped me and is trying to ruin my life. How do I best move forward?
i was in a 7 year relationship and got married last year.and throughout my relationship.i worked hard to get the things we have together .i worked 80 hr a week two jobs.and no days off.barely getting any sleep just to pay all the bills so she could go to collage.i helpt her get the new car she wanted,new furniture for the apartment,etc,etc,well after she graduated and got the job she wanted and everything else she said she wasnt happy anymore and told me it was over with us. i had to leave.and of course i had no place to go cause the apartment was my home.and i have no family to go to.so i was homeless.i had to go to a hotel witch is expencive.for now. till i figure out what im going to do.i was used this whole entier relationship.i dont have any extra money to get an attorney for a divorce since im not working 80 hr a week anymore.my wife switced my phone # to another phone she had cause the service was under her moms plan through verizon and now shes useing my old # for her personal use.and when people call my old #she is telling lies about me.contacting my job and anyone else she can .because i wont pay for her bills.i dont know what to do.its bad enough that she used me .but taking my phone # and lieng about me also .i just want to start over with my life but she wont let me.what am i suposed to do .im a decent good man that dont deserve this.
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The first thing you need to do is find a good Lawyer. If you paid her way through College then you may be entitled to half of anything she earns by virtue of anything gained from her education. Especially any professional work such as Doctor, Lawyer or Nurse. This of course depends on the laws in the state you reside.
As to the the phone thing, her again it would be a lawyer that can best advice you. As to the bills or her bills. Here again you need to speak to a Lawyer. In general those bills that were jointly accumulated are the responsibility of both of you to pay. Once you separated you may be required to make a public notice to that effect before you can stop paying any additional bills she accumulates until you are divorced. At worst you may be required to pay half. If she now earns more than you it is very possible you could be entitled to alimony.
All of this depends on the laws in the state you live in. The only way to find this it is to contact a lawyer. If you don't know one call the State Bar Association and ask for a referral to some in your area.
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First of all, let me tell you that you are incredibly strong and you're handling this awful awful situation very bravely. I'm really blown away by your courage and strength of character. Judging by the way you are handling this predicament, I'm certain that things will work out beautifully for you. I'm only 17, and I don't know what you're supposed to do in such a situation, but I felt I had to tell you this.
I'm just wondering, it's not clear whether the apartment belongs to you or your wife. It sounds like it belongs to you, if that's true, then you should reclaim it and let this bitch go live in a hotel. The way she's treating you is totally unacceptable. I would have zero tolerance for such behavior, and you should too. Do not let her get away with this. You are an incredible person, and no one should EVER get away with treating you like this. Gather some friends, and discuss some ideas of how to proceed.
This predicament will be over before you know it, and hopefully you will move on and find a great girl and start over. As for your wife, judging by her abhorrent character, she'll never be successful or happy. She's hopeless. I'm sorry you were a victim of her criminal acts. As you say, you're a great decent guy, and you really don't deserve this.
You are going to be okay, trust me. You are a strong guy, and you don't let people break you. You're my hero, dude!
Good luck and I hope things get better fast :) Keep me posted.
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Well maybe get a apartment get a job and get all of your belongings. Find jesus or maybe go to a church they will help you! Tell me once things improve. :)
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