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i heard that you can get carpal tunnel from masturbating. is this true? (link)
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i would think any repetitive motion could cause it not sure if thats one unless its extreme repition
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last time i had sex with my girlfriend, i came really fast, how can i prevent from cumming so fast? (link)
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more foreplay and slow down
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k, I spent a good chunk of last month at the multinational training center doing gunnery and other army activities. it mostly involved firing the fifty cal machine gun, and vietnam-style wargames against live opposing forces. last weekend, I did this extremely hot lithuanian girl. here's the problem: I got a bigger rush and had a better time running around the german forest wildly firing at anything that moved than having my way with this girl. I'm thinking that's a little messed up. I don't really leave post much, spend a lot of time training, and don't really see many girls (the lunchladies are starting to look hot). is it just an environmental factor showing itself after eight months of nonstop hooah army stuff, or is this a more deep seated psychological issue? And no, I'm not gay. (link)
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it could be all the pressure you are constantly under. you have such high expectations from yourself that you maybe arent impressed with stuff easily. maybe you arent into her. you have a tough job . im sure you dont have sex trouble. probaly just the wrong woman for you. good luck
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I am glad these kids have a place to go where they may get some logical advice about sex (and some bad advice too which is sad)
I am just wondering how many of you "adults" think that too many are having sex too early? To me, they know very little about the consequences--most questions are asked after the fact. Perhaps this shows that sex education is not done early enough and it is not effective enough. What do you think? (link)
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oh my god i know it really scares me to see all the 13 year olds asking if they should have sex and asking about oral sex and stuff. what concerns me is the will i get my period and questions like that oh my god i have a 6 year old and to know in 7 years my kid could be sexually active scares me. seems that the kids are under educated with high hormones. its reallllly sad that they cant talk openly with thier parents on these topics so they can be educated and protect themselves against disease and pregnacy. just reallly really scary
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 there's this boy named chad and he's 17 years old to,but he's autistic and in special education I was wondering How do I get him to stop touching me on the shoulder I've tried telling him to stop and he just dosn't seem to understand what the word no means and he follows me everywhere one time he actually waited outside the girls bathroom door for me How do I get him to leave me alone and understand once and for all what the word no means? (link)
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i work with people with disabilities and many of them are autistic. what he is doing he can not help. they have ritualistic behaviors. maybe the material you wear is providing sensory input. people with this disability are doing what is normal for them. you shouldnt treat him unfairly because he doesnt realize what other peoples rights are and therefore cannot be held accountable for his actions. speak to one of his special ed instructers. i agree with violet they are trained to understand and deal with thier behaviors. please dont be mean to him he has no control over his disability
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OKay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 months , and we are definantly in love. Lately we have been talkin about sex, a little more and more each time we talk to each other. Like last night we were texting each other and he said and i quote "Blaire, I love you, & you no that, i would do anything in the world for you. And , well now, i think im ready, for well you know, to have sex. I think we should try it. But only if your ready"
and the thing is , were young. He is 16, im almost 14.(one more week) and well, i would really love to loose my virginity to him, but he has already had sex(he used to be in the major party scene. He quit for me.) So should i have sex with him?
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heck nooooooooo you are to youngggggggggggggg
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so, a random question bout sex. i was just wondering, since statistics show that the average teen loses their virginity by the age of 17. well.. is it possible to have sex (when the guy uses a condom) and NOT get pregnant? cuz like, other teens have done it and they havent got pregnant riight? but what im scared of is that my sister had an unplanned pregnancy and she already had a baby. she said she used a condom and i guessed it broke.
questions:
is it common for a condom to break?
can a girl get pregant if a guy uses a condom?
thanks in advance. (link)
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i think the answer is yes because i have a 6 year old daughter
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Okay!I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 16! Well a week before my period was supposed to come, my boyfriend and i had sex. It didnt last long like only 5 minutes at the most! He didnt cum in me because I watched him when he came out of me! a little got on top of my leg but that is the farthest that it got to me! we dont even think that he popped my cherry! i was supposed to start this past monday..it is now thursday and i havent started yet! i have the symptoms that i am about to but i havent yet! is there a reason that i havent started or do i need to take a pregnancy test!?!? please answer me asap! PLEASE! (link)
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well i would definityly take a test and see but it wouldnt show a pregnancy untill you are at least a week to 2 weeks late. sperm can swim and the precum that is released from a male inside of you can get you pregnant. the pull out method has a high failure rate. i dont mean to scare you but if you are 15 and dont want a baby you have some descions to make. birth control is avalible through planned parenthood. i would highly recommend getting on some. chances are you arent pregnant but if you arent get on birthcontrol asap!
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okay this is probably really gross & long but i really need help. well see, lately i've got into this habit of masturbating. (yes, im a girl and i finger myself and this is EXTREMELY embarassing to talk about.) but anyways, i did it for about 4 days in a row everynight. but i dont do it for long at all. maybe like 10 minutes? and sometimes i do it kind of hard cause well hey, it feels good. x: but anyways, i was supposed to get my period on friday but i didnt so i figured it was gonna come late. well anyways, then on saturday i masturbated and then again on sunday. but on sunday, i masturbated a little longer than usual and i was more into it. but then afterwards i went to the bathroom and i was bleeding. so i figured i had gotten my period. but i only bled for like 5 minutes & then it stopped, and hasnt come back, and its now wednesday. i dont think it was my cherry that popped because my boyfriend has fingered me before and we have had sex (only once though). im afraid something happened & caused my period to mess up because of me masturbating? i don't know but i am really afraid and embarrassed to tell anyone, especially my mother or something. does anybody know what could be going on? thanks so much, i'll rate high. (link)
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dont be embarrased its completly natural! you just have a big sex drive i can understand that. its better to masturbate then to sleep around with every tomdick, and harry! well as for your period.... i dont think that could make you not have it. i am sure the blood was maybe some torn tissue from the roughness.. go easier next time or trim your nails. now did you take a pregnancy test? all it takes is one time of having sex on the right day to get pregnant. keep me posted and i hope everything is ok with you
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im a 21 year old male and my girlfriend is 19 and 8 months pregnant.She's thinks i dont find her attractive anymore because it seems like ive lost my sex drive!!what should i do?? (link)
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just be patient with her she is feeling all kinds of emotions right now. try to remember the cgood luckhanges she is going through. im sure she misses the fact that it was once just you and her now she has to share her body and its a lilttle odd to a first time mom. she probaly has fears just like you...like whether you will still love her and such. as crazy as it might sound that is how most pregnant woman feel when delivery is coming near. just hang in there and be very interested in her pregnancy... or shall i say your pregnancy because you are BOTH pregnant so you both will go through alot of ups and downs but always remember the reward is great and its what life is all about.
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Hey,
My main problem is basicaly im just Apsolutly petrified of sex! and anything to do with it really. I'm almost 18 and male, nearly 19 days of now, im in a relasionship of 5 months at the minute and ive lost my virginity, not in this relasionship though.
Through out all relasionships ive always been petrified of doing something wrong, accidently getting cum on my fingers or something, in my first hardcore relasionship i lost 1 and a half stone becasue she told me she was late, ive never had sucha rough week in my life!
People have said its really not possible to get some one pregnant during oral sex or what i just said? but still! Is this true? is my mind just esculating everything i think about that has something to do with babys lol!
I'm a really fun loving guy but it tends to get in the way sometimes and i worrie my self to peices when there probably is no need at all?
My first time, only time, was good , i enjoyed it and dint worrie at all, unfortunitly due to my idiocy i left the packet on the floor and her parents found it, (parents good catholics) and that was the end of that really.
Now i'm gettin up to this stage with my girl friend, im already always paraniod when it comes to simple oral sex, washing hands n all, but i mean? ive had sex before, and i enjoyed it thuraly lol, but if im scared, does this mean im not ready? does this mean i should just hold back?
My gf doesn't believe in abortion either which doesn't help as if something did excidently happen, if im honest i dont think id want to keep it, im for and against abortion but just at this age, i wouldnt be able to handle it!
I think she'd go on the pill, and id still use a condom but id still be stupidly paraniod if she took the pill everyday, and then i'd probably get even more wound up as i new she wouldnt come on her period every month as a relief sort of thing?
I no all this sounds a little blown out of preportion but unfortunitly thats how my mind works, i hate it totaly, i get one small thought, and it develops and grows and can totaly dig me in a hole.
Any help would be so so soooo Appreciated as i just need some reasurance or guidence or even just opinion?
Many thanks,
Tim (link)
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wow there should be more careful men like yourself. its a good thing you are cautious. and yes i do think you are not ready. maybe ready in the physical aspect of sex as far as hormones and stuff.... but mentally all the weight of the consequences of sex bother you. trust me wait. i really believe in gut feelings. sounds to me you are having that "i cant put a finger on why i feel unsure of this" moment. listen to your instincts. its very important to do that. maybe the first time you did it you felt comfortable because it was gonna be alright. maybe this time a little voice"i dont know if you are religious but maybe its a guardian angel or god warning you????? maybe something bad will happen. i say always stick to your instincts about it. maybe if it was a different girl it would be different. or maybe you subconciously view her as marriage material and dont wanna "dirty her" im not quite sure but its something to think about hun. good luck keep me posted
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hey guys, after your period, when is the best time to have sex if you WANT to get pregnant?
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10 to 17 days after the first day of your period. sperm can live in the body for 7 days after ejaculation so implantation can occur during that time frame when the egg drops it varies with all women thats why they give you an estimated due date of when the baby will be born because you may have sex on the 10th day and the sperm is alive when the egg drops on the 15th day and a baby is concieved i hope i explained it well hun
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I am 17 year old boy. My height is 5.8. I am worried about my penis size. My penis size is only 4 inch. When I see it is in normal condition it looks very small like penis of a child. I guess it is not genetic problem because my 15 year old brother has 5 inches and my father has also good length (I don’t know the exact size but it looks big & thick). This situation resulted inferiority complex in me. Once my bro saw me (un-erected) and said oh! You have tiny thing. I just laughed and said it is not hard. Things like that put me on back seat. Is there any authentic method to increase the length. What is the normal size of a man. Till what age the length may be increased.
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well i think a penis pump can enlarge it try one of hose .its not so much the length women like anyways its the girth(thickness)thatarouses a woman and brings orgasim
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theres this guy and hes a freshman and im a 8th grader and weve been talking for 4 months not boyfriend and girlfriend tho cause we dont wanna go threw all the breaking up stuff. but hes fingered me 3 times and we made out alot but i dont wanna go any farther i wouldnt mind maybe giving him head i just dont wanna have sex. is there anyway when were "hooking up" to make sure nothing goes too farr? (link)
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slow down a little in my opinion you are young for all that. just stay in public places with him till you get to know each other and feel safe and sure of how you feel about it.
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I have been given a birth date for my baby of 27 june 2006...Unfortunately I am not sure who the father might be,.....I know I had sex on 30th September 2005 and although we used condoms, on the second occasion it slipped off and remained inside my vagina for a while....my cycle has been about 26 days and I am aged 47...is it at all possible this baby was concieved on the 30 Sept 2005..? I am not really that sure of the first day of my last period..... thank you (link)
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a due date is only an estimate because conception can happen during a time frame of 7 days. for instance most women are fertile when ovulation occurs which is normally 14 to 17 days after the first day of thier period. when a man ejaculates in you or if it was a torn condom or anything for that matter, they can thrive and live inside the vagina for 7 to 10 days that is the life span of sperm. so the conception could have been during the 7 to 10 day life span if the condom was left inside of you and during that time you may have ovulated. i hope i shed some light on this
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a month, on Decemeber 15. We are always together, and I think that I love him. I know it's like, oh your a child you don't know what love is, but I really do believe that I am in love. We were laying on my bed on each other and I was thinking about how I love him, and I was about to tell him.. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I love you." It was like so strange though because I was just about to say the exact same thing, but anyways.. Wow, totally off topic. I'm 13, and whenever we are making out.. We get a little too into it, I suppose. Where it gets to the point when it's "dry sex", or having sex with your clothes on.. Yes, I know it's weird.. But, I feel the erge to want to have sex with him, and go farther, sexually. I am only in 7th grade, so of course I don't want to go that far.. All I have done with any guy is "feel up", because I refuse to go farther.. He was trying to finger me and I wouldn't let him. Basically, I am trying to ask..
Would it be wrong if I had sex with him?
I don't think I am ready, at all.
I could be wrong? Maybe, I am.
But - I am scared that next time we hook up that it will go a little too far.
And it's not like a 10 second hook up, it's more like 10 minutes.
Really, how far is "too far"?
I believe feel up is far enough for 7th grade.
But I'd love your views. (link)
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ok hun heres the truth i think its to far to have sex with him. i know you feel the urge because physical when you have "dry humping" sessions like that he is getting you aroused by putting pressure on your clit. so thats why you feel that way and im sure you like him alot but hun if you get pregnant would you want to go through that with him i mean you have your whole life ahead i say try to stay in public places with him if you dont trust the situation. i know im 32 and probaly an old fart to you but honestly i have felt those feelings and looking back im glad i waited. just be safe in whatever you do. just realize whatever you do has a consequence ok? fill me in on things later and if you need more advice drop me a line.good luck
here for you,
luckybutt32
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Sir,
I want to know that during pregnancy is intercourse is possible.
I am married and my wife is 12 week pregnant, may I have sex with her.
I also know detail about Intercourse during all weeks of pregnancy till delivery? thank you
Asif Jah
a_sifjah@yahoo.com
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its ok to have sex with her its good for her. it will make her feel desirable and it will help her with contractions of the uterus later. so haveeeeeeeeeeeeeee fun
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hi. umm i am 13f and i havent started my period yet.. which is fine. but umm i am completely am totally flat. im not one of those girls with small boobs who just says shes flat. i really am quite literally FLAT. and i hate it. all of my friends (again, not exagerating) have boobs. how come i dont? will they ever come? because i do see adults sometimes that are flat. i really dont want to be like that. i have never had a boyfriend. my friends have. guys like girls with boobs. and dont say its not true. sorry huns, but uuh it is. guys used to like me in 5th grade and below because i am pretty, and then, nobody had boobs. but now that they do, im just a "little girl" compared to all of my friends. i really hate being flat. i dont know what i can do. obviously i cant magically make them appear.. but aah i hate it. i dont want to wear a padded bra because if someone bumps into me it will be obvious. what is a water bra? and wtf do i do????????
i rate 5. just pleease give me some good advice. (link)
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first you need to realize that your worth to a man isnt in your bra size. at your age it may seem that way but understand there are many men that like flatter women. if you ask a man are you a butt boob or leg man alot say butt some say boobs and some say legs. all men like women are different. some like it all. so your friends may have developed faster than you but just think of it this way they will sag faster then you also. i am sure some girls envy you cause im sure you can wear some of the cuter tanktops without looking all slutty and pooping out. some actresses never had a boob job because like you they are pretty and place more enphasis on thier good qualities take sandra bullock, meg ryan, julia roberts, all are not so well endowed but have been known to be pretty to men.so dont be so hard on yourself . a waterbra is a bra that has water in the cup for a more natural feel then a padding.
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My ex and i havent been together now for a year.
Him and his gf of a year have broken up now for the 100th time. This is the longest break tho. He has never told me when theyve broken up in the past, except for this time.
We had been talking to each other way before they broke up this last time.
He said that he was surprised that i havent been into his place of employment yet. He always would come into mine with his gf.(never knew why tho)anyways, i did the next night with my gf.
He was joking around with me and saying to my friend, "hey rachel, call me sometime." Then hed give me this stupid grin.
Well, days went on and 1 night while talking to him online, he wanted to hang out with me, then asked me to call him. I did and we talked for 2 hrs. The next night he called me and told me to come into his work. I did and his other ex came in(cant seem to leave him alone) he got mad at her and they argued in front of me. He told her he was taking her back home(after she walked there). I gave him this look, and left. 1 and a half hrs later he called me up saying he didnt want to be with her. So he picked me up and we went to his house. We talked, wrestled, and i gave him a backrub(like i used to do) We cuddled, and he started making out with me. He asked me if he could put it inside me. I said no, and he asked me like 4 more times after that. I kept saying no. After he told me that he still loves me. 2 of his friends kept calling, and i told him to go out with them. He told 1 that he was just gonna go to bed. I told him to hang out with the other 1 and he said ok.
The next day he called and i took him out for lunch (i owed him as a favor a yr ago)an hr later he took me home.(that was saturday)
Sunday night we talked online, but i didnt bring up anything that happened friday night. We always used to talk about that after.
I knew he had a party to go to on saturday night, and i asked him how that went, and he said it was gay. He told me he left at like midnight and went to his "recent" exs to "talk", and then he fell asleep. He said he couldnt even keep his eyes open anymore. He said he woke up at 3am and then went home. I was really hurt inside, but didnt say anything.
I didnt hear from him for 4 days and thats when i called him to wish him a happy thanksgiving. He was invited over to "her" house. He was there again the next night because it was her bday. I called him the following night, and he called me back later saying that i made him realize how much he loves "her".
What a kick in the pants was that?
All i need is every1s opinion. See if it matches up with mine!!!
Thanks!(heartbroken again)
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well seems like this guy was playng both ends. he should have never messed with your mind like that. he was still messing with her and atempting to be with you and pulled you in his personal hurricane. thats just wrong i hope you will be ok cause i know thats gotta hurt hun . if he breaks up with her again just be sure to shut him out hes not worth it youll get hurt.
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okay im a f/16 and i shave down there. is that weird if im not having sex at all and dont plan on it any time soon? does anyone else? (link)
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no its not weird some people shave down there cause it feels fresher,plus most women do nowadays so dont feel weird
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