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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


ps
(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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ok i had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago.. my bf had a condom on and everything but all i keep thinkin bout is me gettin pregnant.. im not showin any signs like.. gettin sick or things like that.. i cant really remember when my last period was so i guess i cant really go by that.. but i keep like totally frkin out! when do the signs start to show.. and if u use a condom what r the risks of pregnancy!!! please help me

odds are if you used a condom and you know it didn't break, you'll be fine but what you could do is go to planned parenthood and they will give you a pregnancy test and it's 100% confidential

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im really thinking about having sex, yes I know I have thought about everything and I want to. I was wondering that what it feels like to a women 5'4 115 lbs. so like what exactly does it feel like? and like what are the best positions for having sex? if there is anything else about sex that you think i should know please tell me


i know this is a stupid question but i wanna know


ill rate high

sex is different to everyone, who you have sex with will reflect on what it feels like. when i had sex for the first time it was with another virgin so it was different than it would have been had the guy i was with not been a virgin. i do reccomend however to have sex with someone meaningful and don't do it with some random guy that you don't have feelings for.

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hey this i a very weird question to ask you guys out in public but my bf and i want to start having sex. But idk if he wants my "pussy" shaved or not and im not going to ask him because it would be awkward. What do you think i should do?

most guys like it shaved

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Ok, when I was 8 both my parents died in a car crash. I've been in and out of foster homes ever since. Most of them were assholes and abusive and then the last family I was with, before this one, just took off in the middle of the night and left me there. I took care of myself for about 3 months before someone found finally found me. when they finally found me I weighed 65lbs. and they said I was lucky to be a live. Now I wish I had just died then. That was when I was 10. I spent 2 years recovering and then I was put in another home. I ran away from there because they were assholes who enjoyed watching people get hurt. I'm now 15 and I'm not sure of anything anymore. I can't get close to people. I'm afraid to keep living. I really just want to give up. I've had thoughts of suicide before but never like this. I feel like there is nothing left. The people I'm with now are just like all the rest and I can't do it anymore. I don't want to keep living like this. I don't want to keep living at all. But I'm scared to go through with it I'm so confused and afraid and screwed up I don't know to do about anything.

My question is does anyone know how I can make things better? I've tried drugs, drinking, cutting, burning anything to take away all the confusion and nothing helps. If anyone has any ideas of how I can make things please let me know I really need help. I don't know what to do anymore. All I can think of is suicide and I know that's wrong but I'm just lost right now. Please if anyone has any ideas of how i can make things better help me.

first off, the cutting/burning etc. isn't the answer, whatever agency keeps putting you in these homes needs to be investigated. you need to call the police and report this and tell them that the foster care agency itsn't doing anything but making it worse

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why is it that guy find girl on girl action so attractive??
ill rate if ur advice is good

because men are pigs

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ok, after everytime i masterbate, i feel really, really guilty...i wounder what my girlfriend would say if she had found out, i feel like it is a complete sin, and after everytime i do that, i feel that God punishes me, but he doesnt seem to punish other people i know do it... what should i think? is it ok, or should i try to stop?? HELP!!

there's nothing wrong with masturbation, i can almost guarante that she does it too

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My friend Tiffany always be having sex and I'm worried about her. she might have another kid and have to put it up for adoption. or she might get AIDS. I don't want that to happen. should I let her get hurt? or try to talk to her and help her?

i would recommend talking to her because she's setting herself up for disaster. she may get mad at you for that but she needs to know that you care and you'll be there for her always and that you're justtrying to help

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ok i had sex with a condom like at the beginning of april. im not susposed to start my period until the beginning of may. but every morning for like that past week my stomach has felt just a little bit upset in the morning and a little into the late afternoon. but my bobs dont hurt and im not throwing up and im not smelling anythign unusual. and i just got over having a really bad sinus cold. so should i be worried or not? please help me guys!!

if you used a condom then you should be ok. you could either be getting sick or you're just stressing yourself out which can cause you to feel sick

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I believe in sex after marriage, but my boyfriend is persisiting i have sex with him. He aggrivates me ALL the time and I can see myself giving in. I know I will regret it as soon as I've done "the deed". I'm confused as to what I should do; should I choose the easy option and give in? or go by my wishes and wait?

someone who tried to push you into sex isn't a good guy to be with. if you want to wait until marriage to have sex then that's your choice you need to find someone who can respect your wishes.

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I can't believe you would tell that girl that she was pothetic, you know that could have led her to killing herself becuz of what you said. And no I don't think you a "generally nice person" because if you were "that" then you would've tried to help her and not tell her that she is pothetic and shit like that. You don't know what it is like to be in that kind of situation so you shouldn't be fucking talking. I think that your the one that is pothetic trying to come up with some comment to make you feel better about yourself.
How bout you should answer more questions when you can finally get over yourself.

first off, anyone who feels that they need to kill themselves because they are getting picked on, are pathetic, and second it's none of your goddamn business what my advice says. it has nothing to do with you so why don't you mind your own fucking business. and how exactly is telling the truth trying to make me feel better about myself?? i couldn't feel any better. my life's perfect

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hi i am had the injection as form of contraception is there any possiblility that i can fall pregnant on the injection is it 100% safe or 99%? im not sure and i really dont wanna sound dumb or anything?

there is always a risk of the form of birth control you're using not working, but the best way to insure that you won't get pregnant is to use a condom, i'm not going to say don't have sex because most people who say that are hipocrytes, just make sure that along with the shot you use a condom to, that way you're sure that you're totally safe

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I'm 14 and I already lost my virginity... Is that normal?

honestly, i don't think that it is, i find it hard to believe that someone your age is ready for sex and believe me it's a HUGE thing. a lot of people will say that it's not right for someone to have sex before they are married. well i'm sorry but that's bullshit because with all the sex that we have in society it's hard to wait that long. but i also believe that a person should wait until they know everything about sex including the negatives to sex before having it. if you are fully educated on the subject then i don't see why it would be a big deal if not and you're not using protection then you should not be having sex at all. and if you haven't told your mom, and you still can't because you're afraid of what she'll say, then you are most certainly not ready

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sorry i didn't know where to put this so i just put it here .. well a few weeks ago i found out that i was pregnant. i decided that im going to have the baby but the problem is that i have an eating disorder. i know it's probably bad for the baby but i've been doing it for so long that i can't stop. Does anyone know how badly it can hurt the baby or what it can do to it?
14/f

eating disorders can cause you to miscarry, in reality you're killing your baby if you don't stop, all of the food that a pregnant woman eats has nutriants that go to the baby so it can begin to develop and be healthy, if you're not eating or you're binging and purging then you're really hurting your child's chances of survival

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im a girl, and latley (the past two months or so) i feel so sad and ive been really bitchy. at first i thought i may be PMSing. but not for two months! everything just feels sad and i cant seem to think happy thoughts or look on the bright side of anything. and surprisingly it doesnt bother me. like its no big deal, i dont contemplate suicide or anything like that and i dont cry or act all wierd, ive just been really quiet and to myself. i just feel so empty and broken. like nothing matters anymore and everythings worthless. but like i said, its not bothering me, i just wanna know why all of a sudden i feel like this, and what i should do. please help me out, just tell me what you think. thanks

you could be suffering from mild depression, it's a possiblity, talk to your mom and let her know how you're feeling and why YOU think that you feel this way
*~*shan*~*

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13/f. OH MY GAWD. K so like I just have a 5 person orgy. (we usd condums) but the guy I was doing at the time has an std and he wore a condom but it broke and he spermed in me. And then I had sex with 2 other guys and rubbed my vagina on a chick. We all might be in danger. Today my vagina was bleeding! What do I do? I might be pregnant and have an std, and Im apposed to have sex again today with a different guy! Wut do I do?!?!?! help me!!

xoxo

P.S. Dont call me a slut cause im not!

hunny, you're a slut, deal with it, sometimes it's ok to be that way, and if this is a joke (which i half suspect that it is) then you're pretty twisted, first off you're too young to be having sex and second you're retarded for letting a guy come in you or even having sex with a guy that you know has an std, use your brain!
*~*shan*~*

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Is the only way a girl can masterbate is by fingering herself or using a vibrator?

i doubt it, but they are the most common, try looking it up online that way if you're not comfortable talking to someone about it. you won't be embarrassed
*~*shan*~*

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Im 16 and i have a very small penis its just 3.5 inches long when erect and my girlfriend thinks im too small its embarrassing what i can do
will it get bigger?

well hunny you're only 16 so there's a chance that it'll get bigger, but if it doesn't then remember this, it's not the size that counts, it's how well you use it, my boyfriends not the biggest guy in the world but he can still work it pretty well, and if she makes you feel uncomfortable about it then she must not care too much for you
*~*shan*~*

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I have two children and desperately want a third, i am currently having casual sex with the father of my two kids as not together anymore i want to get pregnant by him again but he dont want no more kids. I have tried stealing sperm from his condom and self inseminating myself. I want to know how long sperm lives in condom and if what im doing can get me pregnant?

ummm i'm sorry to say this, but you're SICK! if you want to have another baby then do it with another man! you can't force him to have a baby with you if he doesn't want to. get over him and MOVE ON!

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Ok, well, I got my period on Thursday, Its not the 1st time I got it cuz I have had it since I was 10. The question I have is how long do they usually last? Before, mine were about 7-9 days and this one has only been 3 and it isn’t heavy at all, like im done with it and I usually get really bad cramps and have really heavy flows ad ahad neither. Why is it so light and short this time???


No, im not pregnant and cuz Im still a virgin, im only 13… lol…

you're just not regualar yet, they will become more consistant as you get older
*~*shan*~*

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This is a bit embarrassing but here goes im 16
and my penis is really small ive been with my girlfriend for almost 6 months and im a bit worried what she'll think will it matter that much
and will it get bigger?

well it all really depends, you might be that size forever you might not, you might still be growing, as for your girlfriend, think about it like this if she's still a virgin then she's got nothing to compare you to, and you're already the best that she's ever had. and if you ever start getting down about it just remember this; "size doesn't matter, as long as you know how to work it" good luck and i hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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