My boyfriend & I have been together for almost a year. We haven't had any kind of sex, but it's getting to the point where that's the only place to go. I'm not ready and there's a few reasons still. I don't love him yet and I'm very self-concious. When we're in the mood and getting passionate, I really want to but I stop myself and feel like I'm teasing him. Should I really wait or give in to my temptations?
Wait. You'll be glad you did.
I can't even begin to tell you how fantastic sex is when you're ready and in love.
You shouldn't feel guilty for it either. You aren't teasing him if he knows where you stand on the issue. Just remember...he too makes the decision to get hot and heavy knowing it won't lead to sex.
If he cares about you, he'll support you and accept your decision to wait. If he doesn't, he just isn't the right guy.
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I'm thirteen years of age, and now currently single.
My ex boyfriend and I have done quiet a bit for our age, and I'm not sure if people will consider me a slut if they find out.
We've done everything, not as far as sex or oral sex, but up to fingering, handjob etc.
I still love him, but I'm scared since we're not together, he'll tell some people what we did.
And I don't want to loose my rep. at school.
Today, he asked me to flash him over the webcam.
I said no, because he had a new girlfriend.
he got mad and blocked me.
Is it good I said no?
I still like him, what do you think i should do?
have I gone to far?
-lovesick
You did the right thing by refusing. He isn't respecting you or his girlfriend by asking and then getting angry at you for saying no.
You are not a slut. You did what you did because you cared for the boy you were with. There's nothing dirty of wrong about that.
Having gone through a similiar experience when I was your age, my personal advice would be that in the future, you try to slow down physically and pay more attention to the lighter part of a relationship. Having fun. Going out. That kind of thing. You need to get the basics of that first and you're just way too young to put yourself into a very serious relationship.
Just remember that often times, your body grows much quicker than your mind.
You're going to feel attachment to this boy simply because you shared so much between the two of you. It doesn't sound this boy is any good for you though so for now try to move on.
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well to really understand whats the problem is there are somethings your gonna need to know and i think it maybe confusing so just try to understand and i will also give you a ~5~
well i think my best frind is a lesb. but the thing is i think i am too and i think she likes me and i think i do too but i really dont kno i mean we both have had boyfriends and well i dont kno can you become a les. like awile after? but i think she was always one cuz wen i would spen the night at her house we would look at movies but like Not another teen movie and stuff like that, that shows naked girls and stuff and once when she was at my house we were waching a nother movie like that and even my causin who is a boy asked me if she was a les. and i said no but the other day when i went to her house she was rubing my leg and playing aound and i was too and at 1st it was kinda wird but then i got usto it and was ok i really dont kno whats going on but now like im haveing dreams about me and her toganther like both of us marryed (with other men) and us have somthing on the side i dont kno what to do cuz i think i like her too but the thing is what if shes just like really frindy i mean i kno her for a wile and what if when i talk to her about it she get creepd out i really dont kno what to do is this all in my head or am i really a les. i really dont wanna be but than again i think i like her i dont kno what to do how can i find out if shes really one and if i am one too please help thanks
will give you a ~5~
I'm wondering if maybe you see the opportunity to experiment and that is where your interest is coming from?
Sexual experimentation is perfectly normal. It doesn't mean you're a lesbian or bisexual. Sexuality in general is not black and white.
I'm betting that if you open up a bit to her about your confusion, she'll do the same in return. It could just be that she's not told you yet because she doesn't know how you will take it (that is, if she is actually gay/questioning).
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Can being sexually active irregulate my period, or if i just started having my period this year can it still b adjusting and i took a pregnancy test and it said i wasnt pregnant so what could be going on?
Usually, during the first few years of your period, it's going to be irregular. That's pretty common. The stress that comes with worrying whether or not you're pregnant and why your period hasn't come yet, can also throw it off.
I'm not sure about sex. It's never thrown me off but that's not to say it can't.
Just chill. Wait a few days. If it still doesn't come, try taking another pregnancy test to be safe.
I'm sure it'll come though if you just give it awhile.
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ok, so me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship but i'm seeing him in a week and i KNOW we're gonna end up going far. I love him so much, i know the risks of everything, i just don't like the way i look and don't want him to see me i guess.... i know this is like an awkward question/statement but i don't shave my vagina, is that gross/a turn off(i know they prefer it shaven but... should I)??? and one time in 9th grade i shaved my ass when i was drunk, yeah... i know, and even though there was no hair there then, it grew back gross and thick and i DO NOT want to shave it again and i'm not gonna like go get it waxed thats too weird for me, WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!?!?
Not all guys prefer a girl to be completely shaven. It's really up to you what you do with it. If he loves you, it's really not going to bother him too much if you aren't totally shaven. But I would at least trim it down if I were you (easier to maintain if you don't want to go as far as waxing it). No one likes a big gina bush in their face.
Shave your ass anyway. Or Nair it? He will thank you for that.
There's not a whole lot you can do other than that. Guys don't like copious amounts of strange body hair.
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OK, so me and my boyfriend had sex for like 2 minutes at the most!!! He didnt ejaculate or anything but i need to know if theres a chance i could still get pregnant!!! Please help, its urgernt!!!
Yes.
Don't have sex again until you understand how it works. The most important way to prevent an accident is with knowledge. So read up on it kiddo.
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I am an 18 year old female and I have been getting my period since I was about 13. I get my period every month. This month, however, I got my period for about a week(which is normal) ...but now, my period should be done by now. There is no more red blood, however, there is brown when I wipe. It kind of looks like brown blood, if that makes sense. This has never happened to me before in all these 5 years I have had my period. Please voice your opinions if you think you can help. Thank you very much.
(from always.com)
Q. After my period ends I get this yucky brown discharge. What's up with that?
A. A brownish discharge usually indicates that there is still menstrual blood leaving your uterus. It is brown because it has lost its oxygen which gives it the red color. Sometimes spotting occurs at the end of your menstrual cycle and is normal. If this is occurring 14 days BEFORE you expect your period to start it may be a sign that you are ovulating. Any bleeding in between periods should be brought to the attention of your gynecologist.
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15/m ....i am about to go a little further with my girlfriend ....and i was wondering if most guys shave their pubic hair or not...?
Trimming would probably do you both some good. You can always ask her which she prefers (if she's even old enough to have a preference yet).
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Everytime my boyfriend (who i have been with for 1 and a half years) gets a boner, his penis is bent, like a banana. If i try to have foreplay with him, this makes it difficult and i want to laugh. Im not sure what to do. It makes intercourse unsexy and turns me off. He just doesnt give me the pleasure i need. Does anyone know what to do? im thinking of breaking up with him because i need to laugh everytime he gets horny. Please get back to me as soon as possible!
Abnormal? It's fairly common actually.
Look, if you can't deal with it, then cut him loose and give him the chance to find someone who can. If you aren't getting any pleasure out of sex, neither is he. Most of the fulfillment and and enjoyment in sex comes with MUTUAL satisfaction.
You CAN talk to him about it if you actually think there's a chance to save the relationship and your sex life. Try new positions, etc.
However, if you can't get over you need to laugh at him, it's probably time to end it.
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im kind of embaressed...but like, i masturbate and i think its gross and i know everyone says its not gross and its compltely natural and everyone does it and its not a big deal, but i cant help how i feel you know? but im trying to do it less like only once a week or something and (this sounds dumb) i told god that i would only once a week but it seems like i cant and i've done t like three times already and im worried im going to go to hell for lying to god...and i feel really stupid but i just wanted to ask someone...
You will not go to hell for lying to God. God judges what is in your heart. Not by the promises you make about masturbating.
Look, sexual growth is a part of human development. The feelings you have are normal and despite what anyone has told you, God will NOT look down on you for giving in to what is natural. After all, God made you exactly as you are. Urges to masturbate and all.
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ok theres this boy, lets call him matt. matt likes me and has a big crush on me cause during my youth group hes always make me hysterical laugh cause he knows all the lyrics to any song and he sings funny. so one day i offered him some mints and hes like "ill only take one if you be my girlfriend" it was so sudden. and trust me hes not my type, he stayed back 2 years in school and the only reason i offered him some of my mints cause i was to all my friends n i didnt wanna seem rude. now all of a sudden he does these gross sexual movements near me and winks at me. i feel really uncomfortable with him doing this to me and it embaresses me, he does it infront of the whole class to me. i try to tell him to stop and its disgusting, but he cant get it through it dumb immature brain. no hes not retarded, just immature. how can i show him that im really disgusted n i want him to stop?
You need to tell someone who can help you about this. Either a counselor, a teacher, or a parent. That is sexual harrassment and you do not have to take it. What he is doing is disgusting and horrible.
I dealt with the same issue in high school. If you've tried telling him and he didn't stop, he will not until you take action and show him that you are serious.
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I'm 14 and I started my period like 3 years ago. I thought that when you started your boobs grew faster and stuff. But mine havn't grown that much. Like I still have cleavage with a push-up bra but I thought I'd be bigger by now. My moms' are really big so she told me, mine would be too. So is there a reason why this is happening? Is it normal? Thanks for your help in advance!
Your mother's breast size won't always reflect yours. You might have large breasts and you might no. You will grow at your own pace.
You are only 14 though. You have plenty of time to finish developing. My breasts grew quite a bit larger between 14 and 18 and yours probably will too. Just give it some time.
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I'm miserable with my boyfriend. I didn't really get to know him too well before I started going out with him, so now I have really found out what he is like. He is weird and obsessive over me, and he never leaves me alone. He always wants to kiss or make out and I really just want to be single again. :(
He is actually an okay person, but not to date, and I think by dating him, I've started to change him. He's stopped smoking and he does less drugs. He has a bad life and he said he would kill himself if he ever lost me. Now, I hate to be so pathetic and ask you guys this, but I really need help.
How can I tell him that I want out? Or that I just don't feel I'm ready for this relationship? I don't want to hurt his feelings, or for him to hate me, or worse of all, for him to commit suicide or go back to drugs. Please help!!
I think you need to tell him that you just aren't ready for a relationship right now. Nothing works better than the truth.
If you really believe that he would actually harm himself if you left him, you need to tell someone about that (a counselor at school or his parents). I know he might not want that and you might be afraid that it would make him hate you but wouldn't getting him help now beat taking the chance or staying in a relationship that you aren't ready for?
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Do u think im too young for sex? I WANT TO SOOOOOO BADDDDDDDD! uhhhh..hes 17, but he promises me i wouldnt get pregnant if we used a condom in he took it out before he cummed in me..is that true?
You are much too young for sex. I understand the feelings you have but believe me when I say that your body grows faster than your mind. Enjoy being young. You have plenty of time to worry about sex later.
You ALWAYS run the risk of pregnancy anytime you have sex. ANYTIME. I cannot stress that enough. Especially when you both seem to be as uninformed are you are about your bodies and how they work.
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i'm a girl, and i'm 16 and i never used to masturbate but i recently discovered it.
however i feel that i'm the only girl that does it and i am embarassed by this fact. do a lot of girls do it? i know no-one will talk about it, and its probably not as common as with guys, but i'd like to think i'm not alone out there. :(
also -- i think i get close to orgasm, but i always stop myself because i'm afraid of making too much noise (i live with my parents) i start to shake and feel a bit "dizzy" does this mean i'm close? should i just go with the flow when this happens?
sorry for all the questions. thanks for all your help.
There is no reason to feel shy about it. Masturbation is completely normal and healthy.
If you're that worried about making noise, just go into the bathroom and turn the shower on while you do it. No biggie.
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This is very embarassing to ask, but im sure you`ve heard worse so bare with me here.
Awile ago I had sex for the first time.. and it was towards the END of my period....so there was no disgusting stuff or anything like that..
but anyways
he didnt wear a condom so i was afraid i would get pregnant.. but 4 days later i started taking the pill..(birth control not the day after pill)
which i THINK kills the sperm when you take it..
so there`s no chance i could be pregnant right?
I mean I was on my period, it was my first time, AND i started taking birth control 4 days later.
You ALWAYS run the risk of pregnancy when you have sex. Even on your period. Even if it's your first time. Even if you are on birth control (which by the way does NOT kill sperm).
The fact that you do not know this is really disturbing. You shouldn't be having sex unless you understand your body and how it works and you take every measure possible to prevent an accident.
Do not play with fire.
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okay, well i had sex with this guy about a month ago and the condom broke. i took ecp (emergency contriception pills) or day after pills,about 48-60 hours after we had sex. but yeah, i was supposed to get my period like a week and a half ago and i havent, i know this is a side effect of the pill, and i even took a pregnancy test and it came out negitive, but my boobs have been hurting and ive been having cramps at the top of my stomach and always having this fullness in my stomach? but yeah anyway, my question is how likely is it that i am? i know im being paranoid but i cant help it!
I highly doubt you're pregnant. The combination of taking the pill your stress is probably just causing a late period. Wait it out.
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